How to stay calm in every situation | Attia & Huberman

Andrew Huberman is a renowned neuroscientist and professor in the Department of Neurobiology at Stanford University School of Medicine. He has made significant contributions to the field of neuroscience through his research on brain plasticity, visual system development, and the mechanisms underlying various neurological disorders.

Dr. Peter Attia is a prominent figure in the fields of longevity, health, and performance optimization. He is a physician, researcher, and speaker who focuses on promoting a deeper understanding of human health and well-being.

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[SamIam-kkht]

I used to think anger was power, then I finally realized it was weakness. That was a life changing moment.

[dannylaw]

All of my rage and anger, I've learned from a childhood growing up with alcoholic, drugged up parents that made me simply shut up and hide the anger. I've almost never learned to talk things out as I was never allowed to utter a word about whatever was wrong or why I'm angry or upset because my horrible parents lied again, drunk again, no money again, made me be head of the house hold and responsible for the family even at 9 years old. Mother drank all night and slept all day. No gifts at Christmas or birthdays half the time, and yet not allowed to say a word of disappointment. I learned to work and exercise to the point of exhaustion everyday to lower the anxiety until today at 77 years old, my body is riddled with pain from arthritis and damage from chronic continual overuse. Yes, I won so many awards and citations in life from working so hard, but now I battle the broken body and chronic aches and pains no one can fix. I thank you greatly for this story that I can now try to get more peace before I leave this world. God is the only thing in my life that has gotten me this far. I long since have forgiven everyone in my life that wasn't the best and thank God everyday for my two grandmothers that helped change my life and bring me salvation. Those two woman are giant hero's in my life, and I thank God for woman in this world. Perhaps it would be nice to have less war, less murders, less competition and perhaps not as many inventions men do, and a bit more love and decency in the world. I vote for the love and forgiveness.

[MrWiseinheart]

Saw this quote somewhere which is pretty cool...
Anger is the emotional punishment you give to yourself for somebody else's behavior.

[robertwilson]

Another good one is, if you seen a little child sad and alone crying.... How do you handle that child... You would be calm you be kind, . Then you would ask a child what's wrong... We need a treat ourselves like that small child... Remember to be kind to yourself

[rilo]

Grew up in a broken home, drugs, felons, abuse. Was military special forces, got out, had a terrible self-esteem, anger management issues big-time. Took me three years approximately reading books to change myself. It’s not easy but worth it. Anger is misery

[glorgau]

I'm 63 and still teaching and catching myself getting mad at just nonsense. It's a process ;-)

[kellyowen]

As a therapist I use similar techniques with my clients. Depending on their age my questions about that internal voice are:
Who else do you speak to that way? Who else to you insult/curse/ berate?
Do you speak to your child/parent/ best friend/pet that way.
Who speaks to YOU that way?
How do you feel/react when someone speaks to you or someone you love the way you speak to yourself.
And the horror in the clients facial expressions says it all. The silence is deafening as my clients realize how cruel they are to themselves.
And know that women experience this too.
I could write a book but I'll stop there.
Thank you to both Doctors for this powerful episode. The therapeutic value of strong men sharing their stories is monumental huge.
Dr Kelly Owen, Clinical Psychologist

[Luvlinedance]

A long time ago I learned from a psychologist that anger generally is the end product of fear, hurt, or frustration. So when I would feel anger I would ask myself what was causing it: fear, hurt, or frustration. Once I nailed that down I could then ask what was I afraid of? Why was I hurt? Frustration rarely turns out to be the cause of anger for me since my reaction to frustration, to this very day, is to just sit down & cry. 😥

[curtismmichaels]

"I don't even remember what his voice sounded like." That hit. Thank you.

[asweetiepiebtw]

4 months to turn this rage around? Thats INCREDIBLE!

[peeweelickdoughal]

When we are raised critically and forcefully, we have a critical forceful monologue, which feels normal. Having an existence as a child to do what you’re told to avoid punishment and criticism, we then live only in punishment and criticism in our minds. I think it’s a product of critical dismissive adults as a child. i’m 47 years old as well, I hope to treat the younger generation different than I was treated and stop the pattern.❤

[realperson]

What a legitimately valuable "this one trick" video, usually it's nonsense but this is real emotional work that's functional. Bravo

[michailwoolf]

In my teens I had a therapist that stated do this actual thing, I had to record it by tape. It was hard, and over time it worked. I am still using it; it works very well.

[ChildofGod]

Needed this. Jesus please give me strength I seem to bear the weight of the world on my shoulders as a single mom, I often face challenges that can seem insurmountable especially with raising two children with special needs. I’m trying to balance everything but Lord I’m struggling to make ends meet, to pay bills, and to put food on the table for my children. Jesus hear my prayers and please continue to give me strength. Father God you have provided this far and for that I’m very grateful.❤️💕

[stevesmith]

I’m not an angry person full of rage… I am very positive towards everyone and thing around me.
HOWEVER… after listening to this, I realised that inside, I beat myself up, I’d always known that if anything got me annoyed it was probably something I had done that caused it.. but this short clip woke me up to the fact that my inner monologue is mostly negative about me… and for no reason..
Thanks guys for unlocking a thought process that I can pursue

[ladyofdragons]

I cried for you and I through this video. I’m so happy for your transformation! Thank you for this advice! The 47 years got me, it gives me hope!

[abhimanyuhowshe]

Every thing he said is true . Negative self talk is the core of all problems.

[mrjesuschristu]

Love thy neighbor as yourself is an important lesson. If you dont love yourself in a healthy way you def arent loving others in a healthy way.

[orionmyth]

I'm 48 and I really needed this today 🙏

[WyattFL]

This is great. Men need to talk more with each other about this stuff.