THE MOTHER WOUND: signs of a wounded mother-daughter relationship + how to heal

If you feel like you need some inner child healing due to a toxic mother or a wounded mother-daughter dynamic, this video is for you. The mother wound is something that is unfortunately so common in women today, but you can work on healing the mother wound.

In this video, I talk about what the mother wound is, signs of a toxic mother-daughter dynamic, how this wounded inner child might show up in your life today, and of course, how to heal from a toxic mother.

Having these unhealed traumas around our mother can really prevent us from fully living our life, stepping into our power as a woman, and connecting with our feminine energy.

Of course, there is a huge range of what women may have experienced as daughters, but regardless, there is a huge connection between childhood trauma and that brain (meaning it affects us even when we’re adults).

I hope this video provides you some clarity + peace ❤️

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WHAT I’M WEARING:

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CHAPTERS:
0:00 Intro
0:38 What is the mother wound?
1:37 What causes the mother wound?
8:33 How might this show up in your life today?
9:51 How to heal

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[denisesorenson]

An apology is never coming they can't, they are too wounded themselves. We have to work hard on ourselves to give us the self love we need.❤❤❤❤

[cherylpiorkowski]

As the daughter of a toxic mother, I cannot thank you enough for making this video. This side of motherhood is still a very taboo topic in society and most people act shocked if you say that you don't have a loving relationship with your mother or that she was a bad mom to you. I personally hate things like Mother's Day because society expects you to love, honor and respect your mother, but I'm unable to do so because my mother has done too many things that no mom should ever do to her daughter, and I simply cannot forgive her. I don't think I ever will, and it breaks my heart every time I hear naïve people talking about how your mom is always your best friend or your #1 ally in life. I'm sure there are some really amazing mothers out there, but not everyone was lucky enough to have a good mother and I'm grateful to you for addressing this subject.

[haddadiwanassa]

When your mother has issues and doesn't love you or doesn't show you love, doesn't nurture you, doesn't communicate in a loving way, it just leaves a large hole in your heart that you'll have to heal and fill on your own when you grow up

[averynolan]

it's so sad to think about because you see all of these mother-daughter duos that are like best friends while you and your mom have such a bad relationship. we will always want that relationship with our mom but we won't get to have it because of all of the issues.

[millymoolemos]

I didn’t have the best relationship with my mum. She was there for me but she didn’t have the emotional capacity to be there for me. However because of this lack I knew what I didn’t want for my relationship with my children. I now have an 11 year old daughter and we have the most amazing relationship. We are so close and I am there for her emotionally because I know how important this is. I am for her what I needed from my mother. The cycle CAN end if you want it to. It can end with you if you are aware and do the work within ❤❤❤

[bella]

My mother fed me, hugged me sometimes, prayed for me. She never listened to me, never took my side when my father would rage at me, never wanted to know what I was feeling, never let me cry. She was extremely emotionally unavailable and unpredictable. She'd leave for months on end with no warning but always brought gifts when she came back. I never knew how to feel around her. Thanks for the video Jillz x

[emsiesol]

I know that my mother would die for me, but mental health problems she suffered when I was young put a huge rift between us that is taking YEARS to heal, I'm sure many would be quick to throw the word 'toxic' mother at her but I know it wasn't her fault and it's so nice to see a video not villainizing all mothers for not being perfect. Wouldn't change my mum for the world despite the issues we faced once upon a time.

[florenceofori]

People don’t really talk about this side of motherhood. I needed to hear this on Mother’s Day. Thank you.

[t.j.]

I was literally crying at night watching this video, thank you. I hope more people see this.

[BlackSheep-]

I didn’t realize how wounded I was until i was 39. It’s lonely having a mother who is emotionally immature and unavailable.

[MrsSunGreen]

Now I finally figured out why it’s so very difficult for me to step into my femininity… I resonate with everything you say and do certainly have a „mother wound“, but feel relieved now.
Thank you so much 💐

[zohrezr]

i never ever cried so much watching a video

[florenceofori]

The part about losing one’s childhood pretty early resonates with me.

[taylorosgood]

Damn, this called me out !! My boyfriend constantly reminds me that my needs deserve to be met and that i matter. there was loads of jealousy but hatred if I wasn’t perfect. I just wanted to be loved.

[cruelladevil]

Watching this made me cry, i didn‘t expect this. 😞😞😞

[catherinewilliams]

It's amazing the power mothers hold. I've been broken my entire life due to mother wounds. However, at 46 years young, I get it. I actually feel sorry that my mother never got the opportunity to love and nurture me like I've nurtured my daughters. Thankfully, I was able to do this with the grace of God. Be blessed, ladies, and make sure you break that generational curse by being a great mother to your children. And if you've already made identical mistakes that your mom has made, go right now and apologize. Something we all been waiting for that will probably never happen, but that won't be your child's narrative 😊

[laudashra]

As soon as I clicked on this video I knew I was in for some heavy feelings, this is one of the reasons I don’t want to have children yet. I know I have to heal this wound and all the other things first so my babies don’t receive my wounds. thank you ❤️

[Lady_de_Lis]

Wow, this is hitting home so much...

My mom is pretty great, comparatively speaking. She's not a bad person or a narcissist or anything like that. She never really tried to control me or snoop on me. She has always given me plenty of physical affection. And I have always felt her love for me. However, she is an EXTREMELY critical person, of both others and herself, blowing up over the smallest mistakes. And because I have ADHD, she had much more to criticize when it came to me simply because of my forgetful, scatterbrained, and disorganized nature. And it's clear that I've seen the negative effects of her behavior in my own life... I have very low confidence in my abilities. I have struggled with feelings of guilt and worthlessness at many points in my life. I definitely have developed an avoidant attachment style. I tend to keep people at arm's length, but the rare times I let people close to me, I become clingy and jealous. And I absolutely struggle making and keeping female friends. In fact, the repeated loss and betrayal of female friends has been the biggest source of pain in my life. At one point, I viewed women and womanhood in general as being evidence of "evil" almost. To me, the most feminine girls were always the most horrible to me, and so I associated femininity with being a bad person. I spent many years entirely rejecting my femininity. If I'd been born at a different time, I guarantee I would have started identifying as non-binary or even a trans-man. Thankfully, I came to terms with and started embracing my femininity later in my life, and so that never happened. And one of the things I want most in life is simply peacefulness.

I also feel like I'm following in my mother's footsteps, being both too critical of myself and of others. I don't tend to blow up or get overwhelmed by people's mistakes like she does. In fact, I think I am pretty gentle with people when I bring up things that they could do better. Where I think I fall flat is giving praise. I feel uncomfortable when receiving praise or compliments from people, as if I don't really deserve it. I sometimes think the person complimenting me is either trying to manipulate me or that I've somehow fooled them into thinking I'm better than I really am. Likewise, I really struggle to give people compliments and praise for when they do something good or something I appreciate. I tend to try doing more actions, like giving hugs or buying gifts etc. But I rarely outright express my gratitude or admiration in words to people. And I think that's a big flaw in me.

[nathaliacota]

This issue is SO important for women desirous of stepping into their power and authentic femininity. I experienced every single example of "mother wounding" mentioned in this video, and it has severely impacted my adult life, from career choices to who I married (and subsequently divorced, and changed career path too), chronic anxiety, indecisiveness, and insomnia. Once I started addressing the core issue (mother wounds), I slowly but surely started healing. I began the process of stepping into my authentic self. Thank you Jillz, this is pure gold. Not only are you brining awareness, but you are also providing steps to begin the healing journey.

[bltr]

I was literally just thinking about how my mum has affected who I am and how I deal with things today and your video just showed what I have to do next to heal from it. You're the best! Thank you so much🥰🥰❤️