You've Been Lied To: The Real Reason Most Relationships Fail

Why Good Relationships Turn Bad

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Today, I want to share with you what I think is the biggest reason that good relationships turn bad and I'm doing this because I want to help you because I get a lot of messages and I've experienced this myself of the pain when you are in a relationship and it is struggling. Or sometimes, even worse, when you wish hadn't ended; it can be very devastating. And so I want to share what I've sort of seen and learned in order to help you if you're in a relationship and perhaps navigate down a different path. And if you're not in a relationship, in your next one, hopefully, you can get it started on the right foot because what I'm sharing with you I see as the underlying reason that relationships go bad is, yes, there's cheating, there's distrust, there's resentment, and all that stuff builds up but I think it comes from a soil — the wellspring

The myth that someone can come make us happy, which is so powerful, because we start from a place of feeling a deep black wouldn't be something that was at all able to be sold to you if you didn't feel like you were incomplete to start with.

04:10 A marketed myth in America about relationships
07:13 And Charlie's answer to that
09:45 Epic relationship questions you should check out
10:52 Action guide whether you're dating and in a relationship or just had a breakup

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[Charismaoncommand]

So do you think your current relationship is your everything? Also, can you imagine an old you not having a romantic partner and still be happy? Any thoughts on this will help lots of other people! :D

[MichaelJayValueInvesting]

Don't take your relationships for granted! They take work from both parties to last.

[PracticalInspiration]

Often I feel it comes down to the fact that relationships stagnate. If you take it for granted, rather than having gratitude, then it won't last

[celiamaldonado]

I'm currently in the most honest, healthy and longest relationship i've ever been. Since the very beginning we talked about what we liked, what we disliked, even past relationships (band and good ones). Even about jealousy, the only time we both felt the slightest threatened, we talked about it and worked it out and it never happened again, we are both confident on our own value and the effort put in our relationship. IT'S ALL ABOUT BEING HONEST.

[stephcampbell]

And a relationship ending doesn't mean it didn't work! Maybe it did exactly what it was supposed to for the person you were at the time. Relationships don't have to last forever to be a success x

[Pyriphlegeton]

If you take a step back, it's astonishing how much our culture revolves around romance.

[AscendedMasculine]

You can obviously be happy by being single. It's being *ALONE* that leads to depression.

Theres other ways to fulfill that need besides a romantic relationship, it's just the most practical given our societal structure.

[andrewbishay]

My relationship with this channel can never go bad... right?

[empath]

Yes! I've been single all my life and craved a relationship until I got older and realized how much I had to mature before getting invested in someone. I'm happily single now and I feel complete and if someone ever comes along I'll also be happy and I feel like I'm actually ready now since I learned to love myself

[Bruna-oduh]

We just need to be independent from our partners, we can't glue to them and make our world all about them

[yeolmih]

1.self reflect
2. Be honest with yourself and your partner.
3.learn self love
❤️❤️❤️

[dotverdrive]

I just kinda noticed this, and although I feel like I've always known this inherently, I just want to point out that I feel that the continuity of the talking and filming of the videos on CoC really gives them a sense of authenticity and realness. In the age where most youtubers can't speak a sentence without cutting it 4 times, it's really refreshing to have Charlie talk to you unbroken for 15 minutes straight. It's kinda like you're getting advice from a good buddy over beers. Always loved the content on this channel, but really coming to a place of appreciation for the delivery as of late.

[rogue]

Y’all’s relationships go bad because you went into them with no real intention of staying forever. Simple as that. Y’all stay until the fuzzy feeling wears off then you’re like ‘I fell out of love oh no how did this happen it used to be different’ and it’s onto the next one.

[RaheemD]

Me being in a healthy relationship is a great ADDITION to my life. If it falls apart I have many other things in my life that are special and important. The only thing I leaned on my relationship for ( at least initially) was the fact that I had no friends just before it started and I missed companionship. Then I got a new job and finally made some work friends which I'm very happy to have in my life. But you are right. I've always said to people you need to love yourself before you get into relationship otherwise you'll bring your own issues into the fray and it could potentially mess things up. You don't have to be perfect but as long as you're working towards a happy medium you should be fine :)

[TheWordImmanuel]

So F*cking true! I use to be under the illusion that I NEEDED someone in my life to make it better. But after a while I realized the only real person I needed was myself and that the only person that could better my life was myself.

[enochsuplee]

Reason why I feel like people should not be in a relationship if they have so much they have to fix/deal with. Too many people look at a partner like the solution to everything, which is never actually the case!

[stephcampbell]

Relationships shouldn't complete you but I think they play a massive role in making you a better person and leading you to more happiness within yourself - by revealing your areas of weakness, areas where you may have been overly dependent and so on x

[Ktubhk]

This was my outlook exactly. I found someone I was ready to be married to, and felt miserable that things weren't moving fast enough for my liking. I had to let go of the idea that I needed this person for my peace and happiness. We've now been married for 6 months, and I've never felt more balanced. My expectations are different, and if they aren't met, my reactions are not as escalated.

[NateIsLame]

This is a brilliant observation. Bless up.

[AleXSutcliff]

As a person with anxiety disorder I sometimes really don't know what would I do without my fiance because he is helping me a lot and he is my best friend. But also I'm working on my mental health and I don't rely on him. I think the key to good relationship is : honesty, respect, also when you are in quarreling which happens sometimes, don't hurt the person on purpose, treat them with respect even in that situation..