Telling a partner you have HIV

Chris O'Hanlon shares his experience of being diagnosed as HIV positive and the reactions he's had from partners when he's told them - plus a doctor confirms that it's impossible to transmit the disease when taking the right therapies.

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[IoDZ_ZM]

I told my ex and he changed towards me he kissed me differently and started treating me differently and I felt so sad, but it made me actual accept who I am and I can’t change it.

[phiwokuhledlamini]

When I disclosed to my ex he accused me of trying to infect him with HIV...I Decided to disclose my status before getting serious and I have had major rejections, some ignored me, some would be okay with it but later reject me after sex...so I decided to stop dating

[betteringlifewithvelo]

Truth is that dating while hiv positive is so difficult and one gets so many rejections. Not many people really understands what unpredictable means and many negatives won't bother to even understand

[myaraygavensbert]

Such a great video... spreading awareness ❤️

[claudine]

As a young female who grew up in trendy East Village NYC in the 80’s ‘90s I saw so many talented young gay men who were my friends, artists designers musicians stylists designers die in a short time a cruel hideous painful death….it’s traumatized me so much I would be wary to seriously date an hiv+ person even though I KNOW intellectually that if they are taking their medication and are undetectable that they CANNOT transmit the disease….Like any other difficulties that can come with a relationship I guess it just boils down to how much you love the person…

[DaRyteJuan]

Apparently 1 in 7 people who are HIV positive don’t know their status which is quite a lot.

No one should be having unprotected sex until both partners are 100% sure of each other’s status. Simple as that.

An ounce of PREVENTION is worth a POUND of cure.

[linetruth]

My name is Linet from Kenya 43 years old single mother of 3, can i get Patna on this platform please? HIV positive on medication.

[cofusedJames]

I get the fact when people say if the virus is low they can't pass it. My question is what if the virus spike back up how would you know in time? That's the scary part. It's almost like playing Russian roulette and this is no dis. Just trying to get more understanding.

[Kirwina]

People with AIDS or HIV should not have sex unless they tell their partners. Some folks are still in denial

[Mmcermes]

I told my partner and I invited him to my ID doc with me, but that isn't enough for him bc I'm not on therapy (cause of high cd4 and low VL, essentially I don't need it for the time being...be I can feel things changed on his side, we're not still a couple and I'm so desperate to feel him like before I told him my status...I'm alone and sad, no1 who can talk about this..it's terrible

[MichaelVance-elmz]

I almost killed myself with FENTNYL AND BOOZE OVER THIS FEAR!!! I HAVE THIRTY ONE DAYS CLEAN AND SOBER . NERVOUS YES AFRAID HELL NO!!!

[johngibson.youhavesuchachi]

The best way to avoid ignorance and stigma is to date someone who is the same as you undetectable, this then negates the time spent giving someone your fabulousness to someone who doesnt deserve it

[dolly]

Undetectable is not necessarily a permanent status. You can still experience viral rebound and become infectious again. This can happen even if you never stop taking the medication, even if you have managed to be undetectable for years. So please disclose. Just because we have great treatment now doesn’t mean it poses no health risks.

[Naikial]

On the dating apps the stigma is around the effects of HIV and how long the infected person has to live .. but isn’t it more keen to look at showing the HIV negative person that they won’t contract the virus? Not that they would be okay if they did.

[thomasberry-bdrp]

Yes I have to say I enjoyed the video very much

[tonybergman]

It was inconclusive, is that the same

[KainJock]

(As she literally asks the question 🙋🏽‍♀️ he just answered lol)

[themaestro]

Its real simple: if you cant spread it because you are on meds, you dont have to disclose it. Period.

[naturerebel]

impossible is not 100% proof there is still a risk....hiv people should date fellow hiv...in that case no drama....nothing to explain, no complaints but dont force urself on non carriers....