how to tell your partner you have hiv // hiv & dating

Woo the fun part of how to tell your partner you have HIV.. 😬 and not knowing what to expect as a reaction
I know it can be super scary so these are the tips I came up with that helped me tell sexual partners about my HIV status. I hope they help you too :) They are coming from experience and asking lots of my HIV negative friends what they would want to hear (thanks friends :D).
Btw I am assuming you are **HIV UNDETECTABLE**

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0:00 Intro
2:52 Tip 1: Know your information
5:02 Tip 2: Be confident
6:58 Tip 3: Keep it short
8:49 Tip 4: Practice
9:33 Tip 5: Be prepared for any reaction
12:32 Additional tips
15:52 My own example
17:07 Words of encouragement
17:49 Outro

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►►► THANKS FOR WATCHING :)

[shinemamanyo]

I just found your page and im glad i did.

My partner is HIV positive and we have dated for almost 2yrs had unprotected sex through out this two yrs and he never told me we just stated planning our wedding and he told me . I was in this disbelief the whole time till i left his place . Then the reality hit me i cried all the way home .
I love this guy and didn't understand why he should be the one with it .
I got over it . And we are actually getting married in December and i don't think i will ever wish for a different partner.

[CarlosRodriguez-bhey]

Thank you. I just used your tips. Tried to be chill and go straight to the point: "I'm hiv positive, I'm medicated and I can't give it to you. Whatever you decide to do about it I respect it. If you need time to think about it, that's fine too." It worked wonderfully. I didn't make it a big deal and that's exactly how it stayed. I had experiences in the past where I made it such a huge deal and the other person was pretty much freaked out. I can't thank you enough.

[Ash-dytw]

Hi - I’m newly diagnosed. I more than likely contracted the virus no more than a month ago. I found out due to regular testing. I’m on my 5th day of meds (pretty smooth so far). While I’m not scared, thankfully because of my education on the subject, I can’t help but be a bit saddened at my lack of self-responsibility. I also recognize what’s done is done, I can only move on. Thank you for this channel, and thank you to everyone that has helped to make this a safe environment. ❤️

[Wraiven]

That skit you did on the example of nervously telling someone your status is the first time I’ve laughed since getting my diagnosis. Your videos have been so helpful… thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[francescoconte]

I would stress "Act like it's almost unimportant", which eases the mood a fair bit.

[annieboyle]

hi! you’re amazing! I am not HIV+, but I have a diagnosis that is stigmatized and hard for me to disclose. I hope one day I can be as brave and positive as you are. you inspire me, thank you

[angelb.]

I don’t know you, but I Am Very Proud Of You for putting this channel together. 😊👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽👌🏽👊🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[DaRyteJuan]

Well, looks like there might be a cure HIV pretty soon. So with any luck, we can just tell our partner “I had HIV back in [YEAR], but i got treated and I’m cured now.

[AntonioHerreragd]

Díana I’m so happy I found this video. 😁 I feel so confident about saying it to the guy I’m dating now. We have been dating two weeks and I like him a lot. Your video makes me feel ready for a yes or no. Hoping the yes of course! 😍

Ich könnte sogar dein Text auf Deutsch übernehmen!!! Danke, danke, danke 🙏 thanks, thanks, thanks :)

[Lepewhi]

I'm just beginning dating this guy. We are both older gay men. We haven't been sexual yet. When chatting with him, I disclosed my neg status and inquired about his. I noticed him dance around the issue. Then finally he told me that he is pos but has been undetectable for years and takes one pill everyday to keep him undetectable. As someone that grew up watching my friends die, I'm afraid to go further with him. He's a great guy and really likes me, and I like him. If it weren't for this virus, things would be perfect. Of course, I'm afraid of getting infected, it's normal. On the other hand, I he's a great guy. I really believe(hope) that there will be more advances in my lifetime. I don't want to not take a chance and lose him. As you can see I'm conflicted.

[OlaC.]

You spread awareness. It's priceless ❤

[sunalooch]

Straight people also have a small fraction of bisexuals as their audience and yes, bi guys are likely to be more educated as well.

[BrandonShivers-nkip]

Good tips! It’s hard for anyone who is positive to date it sucks but honestly these are great tips. Anyone reading this comment I hope you find love. Keep your chin up

[AleksVHaecky]

Thank you. There are other groups of people where disclosure before intimacy is necessary - these tips perfectly help.

[lucasl]

Your videos ara amazing. Thank you for sharing this content. Making a great impact. Thanks!

[markbarnwell]

I have been poz since 2008. I have yet to find the one who does it for me who is cool with it. 13 years later and still very lonely. I am sgwm 60 yo and I dont think I will ever find the one. Feeling very sad for months on end now.

[chelengwenya]

Diana I'm so happy I have found this video...I'm hiv and so difficult to find love...I stated my treatment 5years ago

[wd]

Amazing video! Thank you for sharing your story.

[lepanhman]

Shouldn’t you be telling your before they are your partner ?

[mmarie]

great job Diana. Appreciate your video.