Escaping the Time Capsule: Narcissists and Their Stranglehold on the Past 🕰️💔

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[clairexxx]

They also destroy you're ability to trust everyone including yourself & you're own judgement of things.

[arabianprincess]

I was unsure as to why I had a fear of the unknown all of a sudden when I used to be the most confident risk taker my family is even shocked as to how much I’ve changed I went from never being home to homebody he really destroyed my ability to trust anyone including myself I genuinely feel so broken praying for healing and the strength to escape the toxic stronghold

[honeybadger]

Right.
It Takes Self Awareness, Education, Courage, Commitment, & Determination to Create & Reach a New Norm. ❤

[wordswordswords]

very interesting. yeah, they keep you stuck. they always want to drag you down with them, one way or the other. and they sure as hell don't want you to succeed at anything unless it somehow makes them look good.

[queenb]

Phobic of new experiences... OMG! I couldn't put my finger on what happened to me until I saw this! This is Exactly where I am now... phobic, and feeling burnt out and stuck!

[KarynCain]

Not my circus 🤡 🎪, not my monkeys! I know I said that to him quite a few times! You don’t know about the madness of narcissistic abuse, until you know ✊🏻🤯

[louisegarner]

It's unnerving, distracting, a burden, like carrying all their annoying monkeys on your back. Everywhere you go, every interaction you have becomes awkward, loaded with caution and a creeped out awareness of being monitored, watched, hunted, relentlessly laughed at and criticised, compared and triangulated, bullied insidiously in ways that keep you tip toeing, stuck cycling in place longing for your peace of mind to return so you can relax and be and do things smoothly again.
It's like it's rightfully your own cake that they've claimed without anyone knowing and they get to say who has a piece and it gets so tiring trying to hand others a slice, let alone have some yourself, that you get tired and give them the whole cake, smashed hard into their face. You think it's over until you realise the cake was you so you scramble to pick up the pieces and it gets so messy you clean it up best you can and go try make another cake, clingons 🍰🐒 and all. Tick tock... ⏳ wash, rinse, repeat. 😩♻️🤯 Narcs want you to believe they own you and you owe them. They need to be in control and this requires our attention and submission.
Cut!! 😎✂️🎬 👋

[irenewatson]

When you think about it's their fantasy that keeps repeating every moon cycle, it's prepare for chaos every time.

[timwilmot]

Wow, so true. I was just an actor in her fictional fantasy. Which became a nightmare for me.

[lindadaheim]

Absolutely true. The moment I knew it was over, I even lost fears he "implanted" in me (fear of hight, fear to decide, fear to try things). It still hurts, but every day is a step forward and I keep my view fixed on the future, although it might still be blurry.

[carolynpantlin]

It took me a house move of 113 miles and some strong boundaries (we had children so l couldn’t go completely no contact)

[christophermarcone]

Also noticed narcissist's obsession with the past . Either with sentimentality ( fictional idealized ) or constantly bringing up past situations as weaponized gaslighting ..etc . The "past" ( selective memory ) is favorite territory home turf because it's more difficult to prove .

[pickle]

“Phobic of new experiences”..yup..that’s a good way to describe it 💯

[p.s.]

So true and so eye opening to hear it articulated like this. Thank you!

[lm]

I literally use this when describing my narcs. Its their movie, they are the director and we are just lowly extras but you better hit your mark and get your lines right.

[angelaeastwood]

So true. you hit the nail on the head. god, you are so right 😮. You actually over time. absorb all there life and constantly live a life in there past and over time there is nothing that is separated from their old life and your future life. you are living in a frozen time line with them . That's the control they always had, and I see it. I'm now getting the wisdom knowledge I see it differently now.

[sloene]

It takes not being with them! So true they plan it all

[cynthiamesser]

I got my vision of autonomy and knew I could take care of myself. However, it came with a fear I hadn't had before and reluctance to ever be involved in another relationship. Singlehood is absolutely wonderful! ❤

[kirkhensley]

To be clear, he's right about confidence and a vision of the future. I'm heading back to school and the hopes of a new career. Once that kicks in, I can leave all naysayers like my brother and old alcoholic bar-wallflowers I once knew. If anyone else can find such a peace or higher form thereof, I encourage you. All the best.

[CoffeecupCV]

Thank you. Yes. Spot on right now for me.