Kevin Hale - How to Work Together

YC Partner Kevin Hale talks about the importance of building a successful working relationship with your cofounders, and setting up processes to optimize for the strengths of your team.

00:00 Introduction
00:30 Marriage advice
2:33 Four things to avoid when fighting
4:22 Planning for disagreements
13:05 Non-violent communication
22:48 Pay down emotional debt
26:30 Conclusion

[evanlightner]

The startup success rate would probably be something much higher if this video was mandatory viewing for all first time founders. Incredible stuff. Infinite gratitude.

[japhetkineze]

If you ever in YC then do not complain about how hard life is. Imagine having these guys to talk to all day? Making things easier for the lucky ones in YC.

[kyleschutter]

On attachment styles, related to the last question, someone can, indeed, become "acquired secure." Meaning they didn't grow up that way but learned it as an adult. Also, there are 4 attachment styles actually: the fourth is Anxious-Avoidant or Disorganized Attachment. It sounds paradoxical and is. Sometimes the result of abusive parents where the person both received love and abuse from the same person as a child. The book Attachment Effect is a great read on Attachment styles in general.

This talk is just what I needed this week. Perfect timing.

[NicholasJohnson]

I love the table after 15mins and move to a Friday meeting and by then many of them resolve themselves.

[ulasturkmen]

I'm picking up my jaw from the floor right now. What an incredibly good lecture.

[dotunopasina]

This is amazing stuff!! Not just for founders but anyone in general! Thank you for it

[jennieohyoung]

Wow this is a must watch not just for founders, but for all leaders - clear, actionable, and inspiring! Thank you Kevin!

[sonfaada]

I feel like I’ve been to a therapist with out me talking at all and for free! This is amazingly useful information.

[asanverse_]

This is super useful, every college grad (or a drop out) preparing to work in teams should see this

[amitjha]

It is one of the most interesting video i have ever seen.

[dfnhnrtsbnsdfbgs]

Incredible content. Can't believe this is free

[garethgriffiths]

Fascinating talk. Did not expect it to be packed full of psychology tips. I'll follow up and read the suggested links. Thank you!

[paragbharadia]

i am very amazed. every time i listen to a presentation from Y Combinator!

[ThomasCzerniawski]

When [YC posts a video on YouTube], I feel [elated], because I’m needing some [mastery]. Would you be able to [ommmgggg never leave me]?

[rajinderyadav]

This is an excellent talk and really found it helpful, I also love some of the tools presented to help us all. Thanks Kevin!

[tudorturcu]

Awesome content and delivery! Kevin always finds a way to make his talks funny and engaging

Also, I laughed very hard at 36:35 :))

[gianpaj]

Don't forget as well that people change and their needs too in the span of 10 years. Are they able to learn to adapt and share with you when they feel they needs have changed? they want family, etc.

[ewanmchorton]

Can you share the PDF with evaluative emotions Kevin talks about on 18:30?

[agalienterprisesltd]

This is very helpful information, thanks a lot sir.

[Omahaneb]

Such a valuable presentation - great job