10 lessons I learned in my 20s | for anyone feeling lost :')

"Most people overestimate what they can achieve in a year and underestimate what they can achieve in ten years." Hi potates, I recently turned 30! As someone who genuinely enjoys getting older, the weeks leading up to the big three-oh were met with more resistance than I expected… I’m not married yet, I don’t have kids, I don’t own a house, I don’t have the things that 20 year old me thought I’d have by 30 but I caught myself and reminded myself that even though some of these boxes have been left unchecked, I've made strides in other areas of my life. So I took this as an opportunity to reflect back on all the lessons I've learned, in retrospect, from each year of my 20s. ❤️ Whether you've been around since post-it-on-wall days or today's your first time chancing upon my video, thank you for being a part of my journey thus far. Immensely grateful for you all 🥺🌱🫂💫

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[chamont]

I’m 22, Ive been feeling lost and like life is passing by way too fast. This video has been a lovely reminder that other people experience the same things, and you just have to trust the process sometimes

[MEERAXDEFRIETAS]

This was so good I slighlty shed a tear, turning 22 soon and totally needed to see this .
Going from 19 -22 in a world wide pandemic has truly been a rollercoaster to say the least, always good to see uplifting and positive content .

[luisacastllo]

23, graduated from college 6 months ago, living with my parents right now and seeing other people from my high school that travel and live these amazing and fun lives. Feeling like I will never escape this little shell I am in.

[rowanwomble]

I turned 20 today. Here's my takeaways:
• learn to love the present as much as you idealize the future (which is hard when you're in a traumatic situation, but hopefully not impossible)
• try to do things you'll be proud of in your later years. You may not know just yet, but you can guess, and you can give it your best shot.
• speaking of... GIVE YOUR BEST even if it's washing half the dishes.
• remember to look inward and follow whatever spiritualism is close to you. Grounding is important and helps to clear things up (I'm really trying on this one!!)
• starting something is hard, but very worth it. Take some risks and find what you love.
• "there is no substitute for hard work" — this one, I don't get yet. But I'm not supposed to. I'll get to find out eventually, I'm sure.
• rest is just as important as work.
• sometimes it's okay to go to extremes! If it helps you learn the middle, that's good.
• REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE, REMEMBER WHERE YOU CAME FROM! A big one, for me.
• believe in love. The realistic kind.
• downtime can create the BEST ideas. Make time to do nothing and rest.
• remember what your biggest (theoretical) purpose is, and try to live in a way that helps it.

Partly writing all this to check in with myself through the years. I'm looking forward to growing more, and understanding more of this. It's good to watch someone else learn themselves inside and out, as it helps us to find our own path.

I hope everyone reading this has a wonderful day. <3

[OrangeCatsAndFuzzyBats]

Not me about to cry when you said “life is worth living”. I’m turning 25 this year and I feel like I’ve only been coasting my entire 20s up until point. I always have huge ideas of what I want to do but stop myself when the “what if’s” start flowing in my head. I have such a strong desire to be creative, but I stop myself a lot when I feel like “oh, it’s been done before, ” or “oh, that’s actually not a good idea…”. I don’t want to do that anymore! I live my life so much in the future, I don’t stop to enjoy the process. Anything slightly different or uncomfortable, I tend to push it away until I get the drive again. I’m gonna keep the ball rolling. The discomfort is just me growing.

[barbarakuvezdic]

I started crying when you said "You fought to live, so live" I feel like I'm not even living, just existing and I'm tired of feeling like this. Hopefully, this will change starting with this year. Wish me luck!

[mayaleex]

‘92 babies feeling all sorts of emotions 🥺 happy belated birthday, Ro! Thank you for also guiding me when I started my channel 💕. You’re amazing! So much has changed in the last 10 years 🥲

[ralcesh]

"Where you are now is where you once dreamed of being." This is 1000% absolutely, truly correct. I can't tell you how much I needed to hear that today. Thank you.

[maple]

I’m 19, turning 20 later this year but I feel so lost. I don’t know what to do with my life and I feel like I have to figure out my life right now. Your video was really inspirational

[andyyang]

I agree so much, I'm now 24, and not sure wtf I'm doing everyday, just everything on autopilot, doing whats needed to survive, day and night like what??? a week just passed like whoshhhh. Thank you for making the video and sharing your experience. Thank you!

[andreyapatinha]

Me being 22, watching this video makes me assured that it’s okay not to complete all the goals u need. Bc time will come for everything that you want. Every thing we go through helps shape us and helps our future self. Thank you for the amazing video !!!

[leslieandreadaluro]

Rowena, I just turned 23. I had a massive argument with my dad a few minutes ago. I’m more confused, conflicted, scared, etc. than I have ever been my entire life. And then I stumbled on this, crying as I’m watching it and never been more grateful for this light of hope you’re sharing with us. Thank you.

[khalilahd.]

Oh my goodness HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY! I’m about to turn 25 in a few weeks and I also feel that sudden dread of getting older without checking off the boxes younger me thought I would. I love how open and honest you are about such a real fear. I pray this year brings you nothing but joy, laughter and success 💜

[Hannah-zwpx]

my feelings of uncertainty, doubt, and anxiety, made even worse by the pandemic, has been a main source of distress for me for the past years. hearing you narrate your journey throughout your 20's makes me feel like I'm going to be okay. I'm so glad I subscribed to your channel. You're like the big sister I never had ❤

I'm 21 but I think I'll be fine.

[mayzmay]

I'm turning 26 next month and can't remember a time when I haven't felt lost :') thank you for sharing your journey, I loved hearing about how valuable your late 20s have been for you. I honestly hated turning 25 last year but I'm learning to embrace the fact that I'm aging and can't go back and do things over. I'm not sure why I'd even want to go back, because my early 20s were very tumultuous and I wasn't in a good place. Your point around not taking life too seriously and learning to live in the present hit me hard, these are definitely things I'm still learning to do. A lesson I've learned is that you can't really push or pull life in a certain direction, unexpected things happen, unexpected paths open up, and sometimes those end up being the best ones.

[RababAlhunaidi]

Oh girl, I was smiling watching the whole video. Been following you since 2018 and never skipped a video. Love you and proud of you.. and we appreciate the time&energy you put into this channel to help us and entertain us❤️

[LenaD]

I’m turning 30 this year as well! And even though the small details of our stories are different. I feel like it’s definitely a universal experience a lot of people go through; just trying to figure things out. I don’t know if I’ll ever have it completely figured out, probably not, but I’m starting to feel more optimistic and sure about myself! Happy birthday!

[toetovocaloid]

Belated Happy Birthday Rowena! As someone feeling really lost at 22, this is super comforting. Thank you for the work that you do, and most importantly, for being you ❤️

[ishtarestuita-chen]

I love what you said about your true love. That it should feel steady, safe, and calm. When I found my then-boyfriend-now-husband, one of my friends called me and asked about the new BF. She said I do not sound excited, I said I am excited about the new relationship but I am more calm and at peace with my decision and with the person. Thank you, Rowena for pouring your heart out and showing your vulnerabilities.

[ImaniKhadijah]

I’m 21 and stumbling across this video was the best “accident” I could’ve possibly had in this moment in time! I know that this is what I need to hear right now, thank you for such a beautifully orchestrated video with so many moving moments, I will keep these lessons with me on my journey through adulthood :)