Why Day Dreams Get In Your Way

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02:03 - Synopsis
04:04 - Breaking the cycle
09:23 - Setting goals
12:59 - Devolop other coping mechanisms
16:28 - Adopt a present focus
22:18 - Altered reinforcement
25:38 - Reflect on the positive

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[xerox]

Man is this a slap in the face. I've been daydreaming about a short film that I'm writing instead of actually working on it because I'm so worried about the end goal. Thank you for the work you do.

[subtlevalueart]

I struggle with this so much. At the end of the day, if I've made any progress at all (as little as it may be), I've started putting a little dragon sticker on my calendar. And it's made a HUGE difference. 😊 Reminds me of getting stickers in kindergarten for the little successes. We've got to start somewhere.

[Omnihilo]

32:40 “I lived my life today aligned with the person that I want to be”. I cannot explain how much that just helped me. I don’t have to be that person today. But, I can be closer to her than I was yesterday. Epiphany unlocked.

[MrEltondelux]

While I was watching this video, I was daydreaming about leaving the most heart felt and emotional comment to this video about how much it hits home wit me. All of you were showering me with thumbs ups and I felt seen and understood.

[Shannendetro]

“And when progress becomes a failure in our mind, that’s when we’re screwed “ -Doctor. K

[zacharygrais]

It’s never too late to start. Thinking about the time already lost in your head, that “lost potential” is just another way to put you back into the cycle.

[erebus]

I've daydreamed most of my life away. I feel so incredibly lost. Thank you for the videos you make.

[sowhat]

My maladaptive daydreaming is that worse that i pause the video to run scenarios that I'm helping out someone with their MDD and they thanking me and now I'm cool because I watch these kinda mature content.

[FiguringOutFantasy]

"There are two roads to positive emotion: one is day dreaming and one is doing something about it." Quote like this makes daydreaming seem like the weakest thing you can do. Appreciate this outlook.

[Eximius_Lex]

I’ve been daydreaming so much over the course of a few years of a story I’m making in my head primarily because it was the only motivator while I was taking medication which was destroying me, both physically and psychologically. I didn’t realize it until about a couple months ago and I thought it was me just growing up. Anyway, I’m feeling better not taking any meds besides vitamins and I’m actually starting to work towards my goal(s), drawing, writing (primarily characters) and being inspired by other peoples work…

Sorry this comment didn’t get anywhere, I needed to share stuff because I never do.
P.S. I haven’t finished the vid yet. (Will probably add more to say afterward, I didn’t get much sleep)

[HelloFellowMellowMarshmallow]

I daydream too much that I barely remember anything at the end of the day

[salem]

Last part is brilliant. In teacher training, a really effective behaviour management for learning is acknowledging positive student behaviour to cultivate a calm classroom environment. Rather than only pointing out disruption.

[chukah]

This totally explains why I can read isekai trash OP fantasies for 16 hours a day for 7 days straight instead of doing any of my goals. That isekai dream world is soo rewarding and easy. Compared to "years" of work!

[archaedeos]

I've been slapping shit load of sense into my brain. Every time I catch myself thinking about things like "I didn't accomplish anything", I just tell myself that "I lived another day, had my meals on time and took a shower." That's a hell lot! 🙃 It's a constant struggle but atleast I'm one step ahead of where I used to be.
Send out lots of love and hugs to whoever needs it! You're doing great! Just keep swimming!

[lowtech]

"I lived my life today, aligned with the person I want to be."

This whole video was profound and right on time, but this line cut onions big time 😭

[aliveslice]

30:44 stop avoiding and learn to tolerate negative emotion 31:50 live in the present 32:00 acknowledge your progress

[DL-idk]

Journaling helps me a lot. Once I started to lay all my thoughts out on the paper, I begin to see who I am instead of who I thought I was. It helps me to see reality and the things I can improve.

[cosmicprison]

Me: “Wishes are vague, goals are specific.”
Dr. K.: “Long-term goals aren’t even goals, they’re wishes.” 😂

[Hazard]

36yrs old and I've been Day Dreaming my entire life, especially during my childhood when I was at school and it mostly doesn't even involve me but characters/fantasy/scifi stories I've made up...

[alyasoliman]

This is ridiculously helpful, and here I was thinking daydreaming is taking me closer to my goals, because I thought I was ‘visualising’. Thank you SO much!