This Internal Mental Rule lets Your Emotions Control You

[UNITYPaige]

I'm not gonna lie to ya'll, this channel has saved my life in ways I didn't even know were possible. Thank you so much Therapy in a Nutshell. Keep up the good work!

[iwillrest]

Yes! Let's not be afraid of feeling feelings! They're meant to be felt.

[thomson]

My therapist likes to say, "You have to feel to heal". She's *so* right!

[miyannaable]

The thing I learned is that if I don't deal with my feelings, they'll deal with me eventually. It's painful sometimes, but there's always a lot of relief for me in letting my emotions out. I'm in my 50s, and I lost both of my parents before I turned 20. I used to drink my feelings away, but for the last ten years, I gave up alcohol and had to deal with them.

[lovingmayberry]

I found this channel yesterday just when I needed it. I put my sweet little dog down 3 days ago and it was the absolute hardest thing I've ever done in my life. My friends want me to come over for lunch tomorrow and I was jyst gonna text them to say I can't. Why? Because I'm afraid I'll start crying and get so emotional. But now, I'm determined to go, thanks to this video.

[MoonSpinners]

I feel like I’ve cut everything out of my life so that I don’t have any emotions at all as I grew up believing they were wrong and I have to get rid of them. I’m now isolated and alone.

[rklos]

In an internet friendly appreciative way, between a commentor and professional...I love you 🙏✌💚🤘

[azazelviper]

This is one of the things that has kept me going, do it scared, do it broke, do it unmotivated, do it even if you fail, just do it, because what are you going to lose anyhow? Failure is still gonna happen, success is still gonna happen, get up and start each day new, it's ok to have emotions, it's ok to let ourselves feel, those feelings are going to pop up anyhow, it doesn't make us weak, and I'm so tired of the emotions and feelings make us weak narrative, it's a narrative that has lost us so much empathy and kindness in this world, life's already hard enough, let's put some damn empathy and love frequency back into the world! We already don't have enough of it as it is

[MellowBellow]

Sometimes though, the joy is gone. And once the person you did the thing you loved is no longer there, you don’t like the thing any more.

[TheMyisa]

I think everyone's journey with grief is different. They do what they need to get through it.
My mom and I used to watch Grey's Anatomy together. Even if it was just being on the phone together while it was on. That would be our version of going to a sporting event.
9 yrs ago, she got diagnosed with aggressive ovarian cancer and died a nightmare death within a month. She was literally crushed to death by the tumor and ascites. It was like an episode out of a TV medical drama. I was at her side 24/7, and most of it was spent in the hospital on cancer floors. There was advanced sickness, death, and profound sadness all around. It was traumatizing. I felt every stage of grief. I had no choice but to experience it, and I went through that alone. The one choice that I had was to not make things any harder on myself by exposing myself to potential triggers that were avoidable. I was already overwhelmed and needed to take care of myself. I could not, would not watch Grey's Anatomy for a couple of years. Beyond the loss of my mom, hospital settings had become traumatic, too. It was absolutely not necessary to put myself through that until I had mostly processed everything. I wasn't grieving the loss of my favorite TV show/sport. It was nothing to me. It wasn't going to bring me joy. Eventually, I started watching it and got caught up. I still have to look away when there's something medically gross. Occasionally, I think about my mom while I'm watching it and what she might think about a storyline.
I think that there's a difference between allowing yourself to feel pain and sadness and protecting yourself from being completely overwhelmed from piling on more until you're in a better space. You don't have to go to a ballgame and try to enjoy it while you're crying. It's not burying your feelings by avoiding some things. Sometimes, it's self-preservation. It's dealing with what you can deal with at the time.

[CalmCompass-ms]

This concept really makes sense! It's incredible how a shift in mindset can change the way we respond to emotions.😊

[nancypedrick]

I started crafting again w/o my mom who was there w me as I had started a business. It took Lots of time- 7 years and this past week I was talking out loud to her while also shedding tears.
But one thing we both loved was the beach. I live on the east coast and for 7 years, the one place I call my heaven, I haven’t been able to approach, even though it only takes 1/2 hr drive, because of all my life’s memories flood into my heart of spending that time w my mom and that one place I truly love, I’ve avoided for that exact reason. I know I will break down.

[stevecorn]

I do this very same thing and have since the passing of my dad and my brother. I avoid any and every activity that I used to enjoy with either or both of them. All attempts to work on this have failed miserably, so I've decided that those things simply left my life when they did.

[subjectproductions]

Thank you, I just needed to hear this right now. ✌️💚

[parisONmarz]

in trying to not have feeling we accidentally let them control us UGHH ur so right, i didn’t know this was like a thing i just thought it was normal to avoid things that make you cry but being strong is pushing through it and going regardless. thank you

[pf]

Agree!! And crying about something does not always mean the person is depressed. Some people just cry when sad about something.

[maryboswell]

I agree with this 💯% Lately I have been allowing myself to feel my feelings more.. Sometimes I cry in public, and it doesn't bother me as much what people may think..

[marjorymsuku]

Yes! Share that message - even if your voice shakes!💪

[Alexander-cjml]

Perfect! Thank you so much. My favorite person died last year. Just about everything triggers me. I don't cry in front of anyone, but, I do, it seems all the time. It doesn't hurt so much lately.
I love your advice. You have been so helpful. Thanks for doing what you do.

[kerryjlynch]

I know you're right. But two years after my 46 year-old daughter died, I'm exhausted from crying so much.