Jim and Pam Get Therapized with Jonathan Decker

Jim and Pam Get Therapized with Jonathan Decker //

America's sweethearts- they were such a perfect couple but then, their marriage almost got destroyed. Watch this video to see how we would help them.

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[rachelhansen]

I love that John put his foot down and prevented a scene of Jim cheating from being filmed. This was a much less traditional storyline for film to go with, and it works.

[tanadarko]

The line about her being "so blocked up" is so true. I've seen marriages end and Jim almost waited too long. I don't want to be vulnerable anymore with a person who has blown off that vulnerability again and again. WHo doesn't see me. This whole arc was amazing.
My little brother just got married and the advice I gave in my speech was that the times you want to be vulnerable the least is the time you probably need to be the most.

[chibigirl]

I love how he holds on and just keeps holding on until she can "feel it".

[currently_heather]

I loved Jim and Pam so much and watched the office all the way through. When I saw them struggling, I thought it was such an important thing to include in the show - to really emphasize that even the relationships that seem utterly perfect will go through trials.

Love your analysis and work Mended Light Team :) <3

[tepes]

I would love love love to see a schits creek family gets therapized. They make so much progress over the course of the series and it would be really comforting.

[pigpjs]

When I first saw this episode I was in my early 20s and I remember being upset by it. Now that I am in my mid 30s and married, their marriage struggles were one of most realistic depictions of marriage. Most of my friends who got divorced, divorced for seemingly small things that built up over time.

[WinterFoxes]

The scene with the hug outside the taxi makes me cry every time. It’s such raw genuine hurting love and there didn’t need to be any words spoken in that moment, it was just so powerful.

[TravellerMel]

I think it's important to show that a relationship doesn't just culminate with a wedding - there needs to be care, concern, and work after that day to keep the relationship alive.

[SCordova]

This storyline I really liked because it was the first time I saw Jim behave in a way that wasn’t great. It was the first time I saw flaws in Jim. From the beginning he backed her into a corner with the new company, he told/asked her about it after he’d already said yes and had been actively working on it. Then he didn’t acknowledge how much she was sacrificing to make his dreams come true. I’m glad they made it in the end.

[angelearichardson]

I LOVE season 9 of The Office specifically for the Jim and Pam storyline. It is SO much more realistic. It was so beautiful to see a couple that people consider to be "goals", go through trials, only to come out of it stronger at the other end. It gave me so much hope for my own relationship.

[jenniferdonald]

Coming over from Jonathan Decker's other channel to watch some of his Mended Light videos, and all I can say is Wow... The raw emotion, the tears, the vulnerability, all of it... Thank you. For making it okay to be vulnerable! That it's okay to BE human. Thank you.

[marchingham]

I LOVED their marriage issues and resolution. The stuff with the camera guy was kinda lame but the rest was great. It was so real and so wonderful to see them come through it stronger. I was sadly the Jim in this situation but it all worked out for the best. Yay for realistically portrayed relationships!

[itzesmi]

My husband’s love language is touch
And mine isn’t or I trained myself as a child not to be as not to feel needy.

This is the first time Jim & Pam make me cry. I’ve seen it so many times.
I couldn’t relate until recently.

I am trying to hard to give affection back because I know it means a lot to him. Kind words and hugs.

We’re continually learning.

Love your videos!

[LydiaKrow]

It's nice to see someone appreciates this story arc. It was almost a relief for me to see them go through this, as I had gone through something similar, only we broke up without being able to reconnect. It was so hard seeing what was once such a vibrant relationship drift like that, and feel like you have nothing in common anymore. Watching it helped to heal me. I always blamed myself, but I realized it could happen to anyone, even the "perfect" couple, and that coming back from it was so very difficult. I understand why people abandoned the show, and I even think the "I fixed Season 9" meme where he asks her to come do the graphic design for his new company at the beginning of the season is funny, but I'm glad they tried something risky. It was hard to watch, but amazing at the same time. Also, I teared up as well, watching this, so I empathise. :)

[shey]

I didnt appreciate it at the time but now I really love that the show included a relationship that was failing, but then recovered. I dont feel like we see that enough in a healthy and realistic way. I also found it interesting that you put a fair ammount of fault on Jim. Usually I see Pam getting a lot of the blame.

[ingramwifey]

The hug at the end gets me everytime 😭😭

[cathrynhaubner]

My husband and I watched the last season of the office after the birth of our little guy, and I remember feeling so connected to the turmoil in Jim and Pam’s relationship. The stress of having a newborn and finishing grad school while my husband juggled a full time job and watching the baby while I was in class tested our relationship in a very real way, and I felt heartened by the reminder that even when the relationship feels ragged you can come back to love and regrow the relationship from there. The love doesn’t necessarily go away, it just can feel scary to feel it when it feels like you are losing the other person.

[oleanderwyvern]

I'm an ace and I've always dated allosexuals (frankly because its hard not to). Engaged now, and incredibly happy, we've had discussions multiple times...but my biggest fear, every day, no matter how many discussions I have with however many people I love over the course of my life, is that I'll wake up and not be enough because I don't have any sexual attraction to my partner. It's so pervasive in media that sex=love, but in my head I keep equating it to food. Imagine if your partner didn't want food. Not just yours, but anyone's. It's always been true for me, never been hungry in that way. It would be hard to believe your partner, no? Because food is so essential to life. Maybe they just don't like your cooking and are saying they don't like food to cover it up? Who doesn't like food?

[meltingpointcreations]

I have so much love for Jim and Pam’s story. It’s so real. It starts out with that sweet and realistic fire, and they fight through that incredibly realistic and difficult drop-out. I just love them so much.

[MalloryNewcomb]

The overlay of the Scripture reading at their wedding… man that got to me. Because you really see how much they wanna live that and that in that moment, they are choosing each other. You remember how special they are together and that they had a love that is worth believing in.

“Don’t give up. Don’t ever give up.” -Michael Scott