Is This Grief or Clinical Depression?

[marmamcintosh]

I very much appreciate your videos, my sister, 29, passed away in her sleep. I lost my best friend, but her son lost his mother, and my dad lost his daughter. I am struggling with moving forward, and your videos help me feel like what I feel is normal.

[SashaStreams]

It's really important to know that it's the self-blame, guilt and self-loathing that need be addressed in order to heal from the grief.
Thank you for sharing.

[oflavia]

I feel a lot of grief and sadness due to childhood emotional neglect which has impact multiple life areas where I see long lasting damage.

[AngelinaX]

On June 8th of this year my 48 year old daughter was killed by her fiance in a domestic violence incident. She lived in a city 1200 miles from me. I cannot travel there to deal with things nor could I afford a prolonged stay. The DA has not yet evaluated the case for prosecution and it could be many more months before that happens. None of that is what is particularly troubling me. My daughter was with this man for 12 years and I have come to realize that they were having problems she never discussed with me. She always wanted me to think he was a terrific guy. I was handling life pretty well for awhile. I did plenty of crying and grieving, but I was functioning. Then her birthday came on September 23rd, the first one since she died. My birthday was one week later on the 30th. I had a complete meltdown that day. My husband had planned to take me out to dinner, but I was so anguished that I couldn't even get dressed. Today is October 4th and I've done practically nothing for over 10 days. I can't seem to snap out of this. I'm going to a peer-to-peer group therapy once a month and private therapy as well. I had an appointment today, but I canceled it. I don't really like my therapist or find her suggestions very helpful. It's a chore to explain things to her and she wastes my time talking about herself. She has never lost a child and she doesn't seem to get that it is a very specific grief distinct from other types of grief. I'm 75 now and I feel like there's nothing to look forward to. I'm a Christian and I'm trusting God about everything, but I still have to push myself to do the simplest tasks like bathing or making the bed. I don't know how to accept my grief but continue to live. I know my daughter would want me to take care of myself and try to be happy. I will see her again someday. But for now, I have NO energy. 😥

[Mari-B]

I am so thankful that I found your channel. We just lost our 4th son, age 42 suddenly on November 25, 2020. He had depression and health issues but he was feeling a bit better and went on a camping trip. On the way back he pulled over at a service station, reclined his seat back and passed away. The waiting on the autopsy results is so difficult as it could be mid March before we know. My husband and I are in a very bad state of mind. What you explained in the video was helpful though. I subscribed! Thank you !

[dora]

Thank you, Counselor Carl.
I lost my mother this summer, and woke up in unstoppable tears this morning, 2 months after her death. Thank you for normalizing the chaotic process of grief. It helps me feel more comforted.

[klanderkal]

Thank you. Sorry for your loss 🎉 I'm suffering daily.., I also lost my career job, ... i should have kept, but was so stressed out, I couldn't see the path to stay @ the time. Now, even more so... I suffer. I am in depression, anxiety, insomnia and guilt. I hear everyone.. but it doesn't help. I just don't enjoy anything anymore, and self loafing is becoming more prevalent. All this wasn't supposed to happen!! I could have changed something earlier to have prevented this, I coulda shouda wouldas, is always ruminating! ... I know, ... I have to keep going. 🙏

[liztodd]

I lost my 26 year old son, then my sister.new years eve I lost my only remaining sister..
I lost both parents in their 50s.. I'm now the only remaining member in my immediate family. I'm only 54.
I'm at such a loss.

[janisdeitsch]

Thanks for this Carl. Your videos are so clear and easy to understand. The self-blame and loathing now makes more sense.

[LoveConquersAll]

I've had clinical depression my whole life, as well as other serious health issues too. Then my partner & caregiver (he'd only just turned 30) died suddenly, alone on my bed - and my mum found him the next day like that. It's been 20 months now since his death, and I'm still finding it extremely difficult to motivate myself to do anything at all really. I'm on medication, but it doesn't seem to be doing anything. Before he died, at least we/I could listen to music, now I find myself not even able to do that. He was a music producer and music was 'our thing', now I don't even enjoy that, and if I hear one of our favourite songs, it triggers me and I become very angry. I'm yet to be able to find a very good counsellor over here in Australia - one that absolutely understands grief. It's useless talking to somebody that doesn't get it.

Thank you so much for this ❤

[sandraallen]

Thankyou so much for this video Carl, you have been a great help to me.

[telking]

Thank you. I am trying to help my mother with losing her mother and my partner with losing his two best friends. To be able to use your daughters death to help others is outstanding. I applaud and appreciate you. In her death you've managed to bring some light to others. Bless you xxxx

[steveparker]

What no tells you or wants to talk about is all the other crap you have to deal with after the death of a partner like the bank, the lawyers, utility companies, trying to pay bills, etc. Dealing with them while grieving just compounds the pain and depression.

[lightofall]

Rest in peace. Ive had two ndes and can honestly say tje afterlife is extremely peaceful snd ultra real. Please do speak or write to your loved ones who have passed. It can be heard

[RoyalMagicalMemoryGlimpses]

Your videos have helped me understand a lot of things. Clinical depression is an interesting matter and if you can shed more light on it, it would be very helpful.

[matinajazmine]

I lost my father in 2021.ive never felt such pain in my life.its worse when someone sympathises with you

[nvpqzrq]

Take tranquilizers and antidepressants from the start.

[williammelissalancaster]

My son just passed at the age of 35 his twin brother passed at the age of 9 so I have lost 2 sons and I am very scared I will never get over it .

[gachagirlsgaming]

I’m sorry for your loss my Nan died a week ago I think that everyone is more important than me because people are way better than me I was bullied in primary school and I’m useless

[maychang]

My beloved Grandfather have passed away from Kindey Failure at the age of 95 year old I miss him very much He was my best Relative that I ever had what can I do after losing my Grandfather?