How To Choose A Good Partner | Matthew McConaughey

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[MCillee]

Matthew literally has figured out A LOT about what really matters in life. Listen to what he says.

[kimberlyhonig]

I love how he says that his wife, “watered” the good sides of him. I love that. It’s a beautiful way of putting it. You have to put that work into your partner & the relationship. Tend to it like it’s your favorite garden ❤

[AlexiaInbloom]

“Someone who was impressed with who I was, much more than they were impressed with what I did.” 💕💕💕

[Scole]

Timing also makes a big difference. Meeting someone who has the qualities you admire at the right time in their life.

[Hossette-]

Loving someone for who they are and not what they do or what you can take/make off of them. true love

[ashleyrose]

I've dated a close friend before and my experience was that people change depending on what kind of relationship you have with them. We were great friends and terrible romantic partners. I think what he is saying is that he needs to be with someone he respects and admires in some ways and I completely agree. My fiance is someone that I met on a date but he has qualities I respect and admire in anyone.

[cutty]

We learn what love looks like at a young age. If your parents argued a lot, you might be attracted to a dramatic person, for example. When you find yourself attracted to someone, ask yourself why. Do they bring out the best in you, or the worst?

[missdirectedawakening]

The last was the most important thing, I believe. Water the things you want to see more of ❤

[AimaneAkhazzan]

Thank you for not blowing our heads with background music. Ideas and Feelings are successfully received with no need of that

[jt]

"Watered that side of me" the most important part, if you criticise and pick apart your partner constantly, rather than watering all the good parts, you'll kill off who they are and loose them one way or another.

[BrotherTree]

Exactly Matthew! I've been saying this to people for many years, to see if you can build a trustworthy friendship first, to have it be each other's best friend, as a solid foundation before a relationship of intimacy. That's where the peacemaking and truth values are. If you can't even do that, it's not a good idea to date, let alone marry that person. But for some reason, I get pushback from both conservatives and liberals. Whilst they differ in terms of reasoning, ie. Building a family vs. Hedonistic pleasure and fun, the common thread is about rushing and fast, fast, fast... get the guy/girl fast and lock it down fast, without much prior planning and thought. That's a dangerous approach, considering how many people are tainted by mainstream corruption and childhood wounds.

[terigiese]

Absolutely.Best friends.But with chemistry.Perfect.🥰

[mymyMelly]

When I was 12-13 my partner was my bestfriend, but I had a crush on him. I just didn't say anything.

We lost contact for a couple of years.
I had a child at 16. When she was 9 months old, him and I finally got together.
We've been together for 9 years.

[Okay]

He was also 37 and she was 23… kinda hard to not just think he was enamored that a young women was so into him

[carol-usxn]

Robert and I were friends for years before we took it to the next level. We always were truthful with each other. I respected that 💯 about him. 💯💐

[tourbike]

Never take advise when they didn't follow it themselves

[mi]

I wonder what things he loves about her that have nothing to do with him

[V.-mh]

Omg Matthew! I love they way he speaks and share his Wisdom. Such an inspiration

[lml]

Huh. That was almost entirely about him; he had very little to say about what made her special all on her own.

[Mahrimae]

He says friends first and then admits they didn’t do that. I like the honesty of it even though it could undermine his point. And also he’s right. The body knows first. Then the friends part can grow. It takes time. It’s not always there. But if the bodies don’t say yes first there’s no romantic relationship anyway. Gotta meet at the body, the heart, and the mind. Chemistry. Trustworthiness. Integrity.