am I a trans guy or non-binary?

how I figured out my gender identity and went from identifying as non-binary to an ftm trans guy :)

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[leafytaffy]

“Are you a trans man or nonbinary?”
Yes

[Elliot_]

this is so helpful cause right now I'm identifying as nonbinary yet still questioning my gender identity

[syhsreybse]

i feel good being seen as a guy, kind of but i dont know if thats just because its better than being seen as a girl. But i dont really fully feel like a guy and then other confusing stuff related to being nuerodivergent

[blueberrymuffin]

"If you have questioned your gender identity for a long time, you're probably no cis." damn, hadn't thought about it like that. I've been questioning for like 4 years always telling myself I couldn't possibly be trans but then somehow I always come back to it. Very confusing process haha. But thank you so much for your video!

[theofficeholic]

♪ Am I a man
Or am I nonbinary?
If I'm nonbinary, then I'm a very manly enby
Am I nonbinary
Or am I a man?
If I'm a man, that makes me an enby of a man ♪

[traceeskibell]

Yours is a wonderful story. I am 52 years old and just now trying to figure all of this out. I came out as a lesbian nearly 30 yrs ago and found a very comfortable place to land...Butch. I so admire all of the younger people out there who are embracing their true self so early in life. Truth be told, I’m a bit jealous....sort of. I’ve been called sir for at least 25 yrs (to the point that I look up if someone says sir, but am clueless when I hear ma’am.) I am breathing into the idea of being non binary....but. When I first came out (@ 23) I told my parents I thought maybe I might possibly be sort of bi-sexual. Makes me laugh now. In that moment, bi seemed like a softer place for me to land. (DISCLAIMER: I know that there are many bi people out there who truly are bi and I completely honor that.) Anyway, it didn’t take me 2 seconds to realize that wasn’t my place in this world. I find myself thinking that non binary might be my equivalent to bi back in the day. As a child, even in my 20’s and 30’s being ftm just wasn’t a reality. When I struggle the most with the questions, I take myself back in time as ask “who are you?” It would have been an easy decision back then. Not so easy (for me) at midlife. Anyway, thank you for sharing your story....Information is power and you’ve given me a bit more.

[scooter]

Ngl, I'm glad I'm able to listen to this dude's experience. As someone who wasn't given the option of being trans until high school, I didn't really think about gender very much until the age of 13 (middle school). I had a difficult time with proving to myself that I was trans (let alone the family I did come out to) because most experiences I heard about were people that knew at a younger age.

[LukaHauptmann]

Because I get this question almost every day, I decided to make a video about it. I think it's important to know that many trans people you see on the internet seem like they might have figured it all out and maybe they have but everyone struggled at one point and in my opinion it should be more normalised to be questioning your gender and not have it all figured out yet. So for me personally it gave me a sense of safety to first identify as non-binary even though looking back I've always felt more like a guy. But I was scared and being non-binary gave me the space and freedom to experiment with my gender for a while. Anyways, hope you enjoy the video and don't hesitate to ask me any questions! 💛

[jowno]

i'm pretty sure i'm trans rn and when i look back, i never really thought i was a girl and never thought about a future as a girl

[jaccrossan]

It’s really reassuring to hear that I’m not the only one who feels afraid of possibly being a dude and what that would mean for my life

[Syntaxxed]

Goddaaayum I relate to so much what you say. Coming out with a "vague explanation" because it feels safer than slapping a label on it. Feeling weird about asking people to use other pronouns. Wanting some effects of T but not all of them. Being trans and also nonbinary is difficult to navigate even in your own mind. Thank you so much for sharing your emotional side of the journey!

[lake_siren]

Its cool finding someone who went from nonbinary to trans guy, I thought I was a trans guy for a couple years but then I realized I was non-binary its cool to see the other way around :D

[prettiepaw]

for me, im super feminine, and i pass as a girl so im probably always going to be called “ma’am” or “miss” but i don’t really identify with that. i use he/him pronouns and have been trying to look for a masculine name (Dante has been looking like a sexy name imo), but i don’t identify with being considered a man. i think if anything demiboy would fit my description but i think i’ll stick with non-binary :3 i like how mysterious it is, because it can be expressed in so many different ways. but as soon as i learned about bottom surgery i was like “yes please” but i wasn’t sure yet because i want to but i want to at least have people use a masculine name and pronouns first before i make that step :3

[MudouSarah]

"I didn't really question whether I was trans or not, because I wasn't presented with that option" hit deep.

[Pathos_p]

just be both ez

but serious, it's ok if you don't have a hard line between labels or are unsure! don't worry about shifting what terms you identify with or identifying with multiple at once, it can be complicated both to figure out and your final label doesn't have to be simple ^^

[jayden_]

All i know is am not a girl ._.
Cant figure out if I'm enby or a boy

[sugart_xx]

I‘m 14 and I‘m AFAB. But since 2 years I am questioning my gender everyday and it’s giving me a hard time. I never really questioned my gender as a little kid. I just didn’t care, I think. I just didn’t like feminine things.
When I was in elementary school everyone called my „it“, they said I am outside a girl and inside a boy. I never had a problem with it since I was/am really really boyish.
In February 2020 (I was 13) I cut my hair short after thinking of it for nearly a year. People often said sir or used he/him cause they thought I was a boy and I had zero problems with that. I really enjoyed it. But every time my mom or my friends corrected them and said „No she is a girl, not a boy“. I felt uncomfortable.
In August 2020 I really liked a boy at that time and he said to me that I looked way better with long hair. And that’s when I started to grow my hair out again. I am not sure if I did it cause I wanted him to like me or if I just thought „It’s just a phase and the short hair is confusing me. Just be a girl and these thoughts will go away“. But they didn’t. People stopped thinking I was a boy and everyone called me she again. I was not entire uncomfortable with it but I liked it way more when they thought I was a boy. So in June I cut my hair again.
Everytime someone say he/him I have the biggest smile on my face. In the Internet I always present as a male and I like it.
I think Im trans but also not??? I wanna be a boy and I like it when people see me as a boy but is it just cause Im a confused teenager who isn’t sure of themself or is it because Im actually transgender?

[Zwetschge]

Thank you so much for sharing this! I've been watching videos from trans guys for years and recently also from nonbinary people and i've been questioning my gender all that time and especially in the last few weeks i've gotten to a point where i'm like "how can i have thought about this for years without ever coming to a conclusion??" and just knowing that there's other people who also don't know/needed years to figure it out is so reassuring!

[julnmsn]

Lately I’ve rlly disliked my female body parts and just kinda being feminine in general. So I’ve been questioning my gender bc of that, but I’m not too sure if I’m trans or if it’s just bc of misogyny. To explain it more, I’m lesbian and I think it could just be bc I feel like having female body parts/being feminine is for male approval. But it’s like at the same time my ideal image of myself doesn’t look or feel like a girl

[augustwalker]

Thank you so much for making this. I have been so scared of being wrong about my identity that I haven't talked about it to anyone. Like you were, I'm currently in college and surrounded by new people, I'm also out as non-binary to myself and panic whenever someone asks me my pronouns. I struggle with not wanting all the effects of T, feeling like being male would be impossible, and not being so sure about he/him pronouns; something that is confusing when I do want to change my name and get top surgery. It has been scary to feel so unsure. Your story being similar to mine made me feel seen and understood for the first time in maybe ever. Hearing how you were able to come out slowly and still be supported while navigating your identity (and your views on coming out in general) has given me so much hope. This was exactly what I needed to hear right now, thank you again