Trans Guy: How to Know if You're Transgender

So although there isn't a specific recipe or exact way to know, there are some tips which might be helpful for some people!

Let me know if any were at all useful for you :)

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[hanii]

I came out as trans and I got kicked out of my house. But luckily I had a wonderful lesbian aunt who accepted me and let me live there

[almostpaperboats]

My dad always says "I can tell when someone is trans, you don't seem trans to me"

[spenceresque]

the first tip is honestly so important, because i used to read about other guys knowing they're trans from a very young age whereas i only figured it out when i was around 12-13 and it made me feel insecure, as i'd always be interested in stereotypically feminine things as a child, and it made me paranoid that i'm not really trans and that i'm saying it for attention? idk my subconcious is always worrying. but then i saw an ask on tumblr to a trans support blog, and the person had the same problem i did. i was reassured that people figure out their gender identities at varying ages, some people are still unsure as they grow older. so he's right, don't compare yourself to others, it can lead to unnecessary worry.

[Spookdog]

After over a year, still questioning, sadly. Part of it is that I have trouble trusting myself and my feelings because I've made so many mistakes in the past. I just don't know what I feel exactly. I don't know if I want to be non binary because I hate the stereotypes of my gender and I'm just very tomboyish, or if I really am non binary. ;-; gender is confusing

update: it's 2021 and I'm still getting replies of people saying they relate. I hope you all figure yourselves out! I've come to the conclusion that I am nonbinary because considering myself nonbinary is what makes me the most happy. I struggled a lot with this because I knew I loved when other people called me they/them and other gender neutral things and treated me like a genderless person or even like a guy. though I know I'm definitely not a trans guy because I prefer being seen as genderless or in between genders instead of a man, and if I were to physically transition, I'd be more dysphoric than I am now. I'm still not sure if my hatred for my breasts is dysphoria or if I just want them to be smaller, but I do honestly wish they were small enough that I could look completely flat-chested with a hoodie on tbh. I don't feel right calling myself trans because although gender is a social construct and you don't need dysphoria to be trans, I'd feel bad calling myself trans when I look completely like a cis girl irl. I'd only wanna dress masculine or androgynous some days. but I'm not a girl, I'm a nonbinary person who looks feminine, and that's ok :) actually, as a kid I rejected girly things a lot and wanted to be "one of the boys" and even wished my voice was more androgynous than it is. funny how I've changed my mind since then, I love "girly" things and wouldn't want a deeper voice, but I've come to the conclusion that I'm just not a girl. I'm a genderless person who likes feminine things and wants to look feminine. a nonbinary femboy, if you will :p this may not make sense to you and you may think I'm just a cis girl in denial, and honestly idc! I'm not claiming to be trans, but I am certainly nonbinary. I'll never be happy calling myself a girl, so I'm no longer going to call myself a girl just to appease others who don't even care about my feelings. I've accepted most of the world will never see me as anything but a girl, but to the few who care and will use my preferred pronouns, you're awesome :)

[selenazacarias]

I came out to my mom she was fine with me and still said she still loved me🙂

[hails]

this video really helped. I'm currently a biological female, and at the moment I identify as female. I have frequent thoughts about being male and I've been debating whether or not to go through with the transition. I'm glad to hear these things, and now I'm becoming more and more certain I want to be a boy.

[tylerruffino]

For me finding out, it was pretty hard because I still like dresses and I can appreciate my biological downstairs. All it really takes is to stop listening to what other people wanted me to be and listened to myself on who I wanted to be. So I decided to express myself as a fabulous gay man <3

[evangeline_in_training]

Ive been questioning for a bit and the thing that im worried about is if i transitioned, id be a feminine guy. Im a feminine person, I just wish id been born a male, its hard to explain? Im just worried if in the future if i ever transitioned people would be like, "You still act like a girl why do you want to look like a man!"

[averynonym]

I'm in the middle of this struggle and spent half the day crying. Thank you so much for this <3

[WillMaskellTaylor]

Im not trans, I find your videos so interesting, I have a good friend who is currently starting to transition so its nice to get some more understanding from another perspective. I think its awesome that youve done these videos theyre really informative

[codyk.]

I think I was just scared of being trans, even though I see myself as very masculine. This helped me, thank you for making this video :-)

[criscorrea]

I think I'm scared of not being nonbinary. I think I'm somewhere in the middle of the spectrum, but a bit closer to "being a man".
So all the dysphoria I have is when I want to "be more manly". I never want to "be more girly". I want to be neutral. I want people not being able to be sure of what gender I am.
Or do I?
What if I'm just trans?
I don't know.

[MN-cwsh]

I really wish I could just be myself. I live in a very conservative community, and not that many people will accept trans in general. But being a trans guy and doing anything "girly" will immediately invalidate me in everyone elses eyes. And if it turns out I'm non-binary, that would be awful since most of the jokes at my school are centered around making fun of trans and non-binary individuals. But thanks for this it was surprisingly helpful.

[clowery]

I was Caitlynn.
I'm Cade now.
I've bought some guy clothes and got my hair cut.
And having breasts bothers me kinda badly sometimes.
I was going to buy a binder soon.

[yumeke]

I must admit, there are days when I don't feel masculine and there are days where I do. Hearing that it's okay to be a trans guy who wants to wear makeup and wear feminine clothes from someone I admire actually brought me to tears. I'm so glad I watched this and I'm so glad I started watching.

[danialbraxton]

Step number one: don’t compare yourself to other people

Me, a person who does this because I’m looking for answers: oh...

[beansalad]

My mom recently bought me men's shorts for xmas (she made me pick clothes out bc I'm really particular about what I wear, this was today btw)

[NotesToMe]

My wife constantly thought she was a faker until she starting having other people call her "she" or use her name (Alice). Then she realized it made her feel so happy that there was no way she could be male.

So don't feel like you're not trans if you don't have a lot of dysphoria regarding your body or you're not super concerned about your presentation (or both). If identifying as a different gender identity makes you happy, that's what makes you trans. (As a side note -- this concept is known as gender euphoria, the happy flip side of gender dysphoria.)

You don't lose any points if you're woman but you don't want to wear a dress or you're a guy but you like makeup. I mean, look at My Chemical Romance. Clearly the makeup thing isn't an impediment for them either. lol

[ducksauce]

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Hey, I'm pretty sure I'm trans, I told my mom, she just said "ok, but you aren't doing that yet. And besides, you act to feminine" I was BEYOND mad, all I wanted was help figuring myself out. I was asking her because I've always felt out of place when put in groups with other girls, yeah, I mean, I like SOME of the things that they do, but I just have always felt out of place. It wasn't until I hit puberty about 3-4 years ago and got curves and a chest that I felt really awkward. I've always told myself, "Aliya, you are wrong just shut up stupid girl." I always call my self stupid girl, but I just don't feel like a girl. I dress and act and like things that are stereotypicly "girly" and enjoy it, but I don't feel like a girl myself. I feel like I should be a guy, that just enjoys some stereotypicly "girly" activities. My mom has always called me a tomboy, but I feel like an actual boy, not a tomboy girl. She dosent get it. She won't even let me cut my hair above my shoulder blades. I just want help. I've told 1 of my friends, and he said his dad calls him a fairy-boy, but he says he's just kinda flamboyant. He also told me he is bi. (🎊) I just hate the way I am. Just knowing that both sides of my family are very religeous, makes me sick, I'm scared of this, but I know it's just who I am, I bet my mom hopes it will go away, but I can tell it won't. I want help. Everyone says "if you're trans, you feel it starting at a young age." But me, at a young age, I was a tomboy girl. But for about 4 years now I have felt like I'm supposed to be a boy, and that I'm not the right person. Please excuse my useless rambling and my repetition of the same things, I just really, really, REALLY want help with this. I'm sorry.

[MarySimmie]

So I don't know where I'm at right now
I'm 19 and I've just realized the fact that I may be trans because my trans mtf partner indicated that I have some signs
Idk the thought hit me like a rock and I've been scared to get into analyzing it with myself for the past three months
I wish I was cis and it's trully hard to realize if I'm trans or not because I don't particularly hate my body I just know that something has been off for my whole life and at first I thought it was just depression and negative thinking but now I see that it may be something else
I have no idea