Trans men admit male privilege is real

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[yuyukawa]

Ben Barres was a transgender neuroscientist specialising in glial cells. He himself was taken more seriously as a scientist after transitioning, having been told to his face his lecturers are better than "his sister's".

[mae]

I’ve never had an outright example of people disregarding my opinions before. It’s always been subtle. However, I was placed in a group project in one of my anthropology courses with these two guys recently. I’m sharing my thoughts and doing 90% of the work, and these guys were very smart. I was excited to work with them and pick their brains. But when I showed my stuff to them, they just looked at me and said “that looks great” without even seeing what I put. They were more interested in looking at me, then listening to me, and it was so degrading.

[milothecat]

It’s kinda cool how they have seen both perspectives

[smeva]

I've seen so many trans men and women talk about this and I'm so happy that someone can verify this. Being gaslighted your whole life into thinking that you are just being delusional and that you get treated equally when you know that micro misogyny is very real and you experience it daily is so fcking nice to hear.

[emmafountain]

Yep. Trans woman. Can confirm people (not just men) are much more likely to treat me like I have no idea what I’m talking about, not respect my opinion, and even just straight up ignore me than before I transitioned. Like I understood cultural attitudes towards women were fucked up before transitioning but I honestly had no clue about how pervasive it is.

[Rae-qiyp]

It's not just men that mistreat women. We are so fucking mean to each other, for the life of me I cannot understand it.

[allshookup]

I’m a historian a field dominated by men. I was presenting at a student conference where I was selected as a Top Ten presenter for my paper and research. The amount of times I was called sweetie, darling, honey or asked if I was SURE about my research by people commenting at my panel after my presentation was insane. I NEVER heard any of the men asked the same type of questions I was asked and no one called them sweetie.

[annEngr]

Yes, as a female engineer who worked briefly with a trans male engineer, he told me a lot about how he was treated as a pre-transition female/lesbian versus as a man and it was awful how he was previously treated as a female engineer. He witnessed some of the shit I dealt with and could totally relate. It's definitely a privilege.

[Benihime]

From what my ftm partner has told me (and what I've witnessed) the major upside is being taken seriously more often. The major downside is people being less warm or emotionally available. The assumption in society seems to be that men are more "capable" than women, but thus need less help, compassion and human connection. That's it's own set of problems.

[Megan-ntdm]

There was an amazing scientist named Ben Barres who transitioned after becoming an established scientist (female to male), and he overheard people saying that "his research was way higher quality than his sister Barbara's." It was the same research. Barbara was his dead name. They respected his research more once it was done by a man, and he spent the rest of his life doing great science and fighting for better treatment for all people. His autobiography is great, "the autobiography of a transgender scientist"

[mollyanderson]

As a teenager I started to dress like a boy to ride the public bus so the creepy old men would stop harassing me. I accidently learned that these same men were very uplifting and respectful when they thought I was a boy. It went from 50 year olds staring at my teenage body and asking me to go home with them to all of a sudden calling me a "Good young man" and telling me to "keep your head in those books, you can do anything" you would have never known they were the same pos predators that tried to follow me home the week before

[cruleo]

As a trans man this is true. When you start to pass as a man, people start respecting you more and listening to you more. I don’t get harassed and catcalled on the street anymore, I don’t get stared at on the bus anymore really. I first got catcalled when I was 12, but now that I’ve been on t for over a year I haven’t been catcalled once. It’s astonishing.

[hetaliauchiha]

Transman here.
It's real IF you pass.
Iff you don't you're just treated like a dilusional little girl

[SolasValerius]

I had noticed something very similar a couple years ago when I had been transitioning from Female to Male;
People actually did seem to care to listen to my thoughts, and there was a certain respect felt when speaking that I hadn't had previously. Yet one thing that did change that wasn't so positive, was that no one cared to listen to how I was feeling. My feelings were always treated as embarrassing things that people would sometimes literally just roughly pat me on my shoulder and tell me "You got this man." And walk off. When I got injured, the most common thing I heard was "Walk it off."

[satan_from_hell]

man this would be a cool thing to record on a bigger scale. talk to trans men and women to see if they’ve noticed a change in how they’re socialized y’know?

[frt_tea]

As a trans women I've been talked over or told I'm wrong 6 times this week

[leechluvzu]

absolutely, as i started to present less feminine and people started to assume i was a man i gained a lot more mutual respect and suddenly my jokes were funnier, my opinions mattered more, and my judgement was taken more seriously. it’s rlly sickening to see how different ppl treat you based on what gender they THINK you are.

[idreadFell]

Women are casually treated like they’re entirely different creatures

[mx.ollieoxenfree]

As a trans man I can 100% confirm this. I'm in STEM and before I transitioned I was never taken seriously in general but especially in my field. Now that I've transitioned people actually listen and it's so weird.

[RedRattt]

Trans men when they get a 25% raise 🎉
Trans women getting a 25% pay cut 😒