Discipline Is Actually An Emotion

🧠 Discipline isn't solely reliant on sheer willpower or habits; rather, it's an emotion that can be nurtured and cultivated. In this video, we delve into the unconventional yet insightful perspective on discipline as an emotion.

Exploring the depths of this concept, we uncover the emotional roots of discipline and how it can be harnessed to drive meaningful change in our lives. Join us as we navigate this unique approach to understanding and fostering discipline as a fundamental emotion

▼ Timestamps ▼
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00:10 - How to become more disciplined
01:10 - Why discipline is hard to cultivate
03:00 - We don’t really understand what emotion is
04:27 - Using humor as a path to enlightenment
06:50 - Where in the mind does discipline come from?
08:56 - Cultivate resolve, not discipline
12:23 - How to cultivate resolve
17:40 - What can get in the way of finding resolve?
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🧠 Discipline is not just about willpower or habits, it is actually an emotion that can be cultivated.

🧠 Misconception about emotions in neuroscience and the role of positive emotions.

🧘 The tradition of meditation teaches that doubt is the opposite of discipline, and resolve is the antidote to doubt.

💡 Resolve is an emotion that can help cultivate discipline.

🧠 Cultivating resolve is important for discipline, and yoga can help with this.

🔥 Cultivating resolve and discipline through emotional engagement.

💡 Discipline is an emotion and numbing our negative emotions also numbs the positive ones.

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[RashaRahman-fkst]

Thank you for being one of the few people online that tell us to learn and master our emotions instead of saying to put them away

[whocares]

At first i didn't quite get the "doubt is opposite of discipline", but after thinking about examples in my life I it clicked for me. I am disciplined, when it feels like I have no choice, when there are no doubts. If the exam is tomorrow I need to learn now, there is no option not to learn so the "discipline" comes naturally (in a form of panic). But when the exam is in two weeks there is enough room for my mind to make excuses. Procrastination is really just doubting the importance of doing something right now.

[TomKujer]

This man is just giving us liquid gold on a daily basis

[nobody-pqcw]

the thing that hit the hardest is "people who are undisciplined are numb"

there was a period in my life where i coped via making myself numb through negative self talk and drug abuse. getting out of my depression i realized the dangers of being numb. not only does it actually bring u to suicide, but once you get out of it it stays a lingers for a long time. numbness is hard to get rid of. its hard to cry, but its also hard to love or be happy. im doing alright in life, but i crave more discipline

[tylerclaycomb-gwvn]

I've probably left 2 reviews/comments in my life. I heard you share your experience with gaming and failing college on Diary of a CEO. And how you basically got everything together when you were 30.? (I might have the age wrong). But I shot heroin and meth for about 10 years, 18-27ish. With random months of sobriety. Heart attack at 23yrs old, 40 rehabs, etc. I'm in college for psychology and for the first time have some sort of meaning in my life. And it's to do my best to help other people never experience the horrific scenes being homeless, the emptiness, etc. You play a big motivational role, even though our vices were different, it neurologically affected us the same in a way. Please continue doing what you're doing, and once I'm properly educated I'll be doing what you're doing. A snow ball effect of properly informing people on why things work in our brains. For free. Thank man🤙🏼

[natlbg]

The fact that doubt is the opposite of discipline really strike me, especially when I think about my daily life. When I feel resolve, I get more focused and my body is kind of warming up.

[asimdeyaf]

Never thought about discipline being an emotion, but that makes sense.
I’m best able to do stuff when I’m almost angry but not actually mad about anything, if that makes sense. 🤷‍♂️

[zaphyy]

"people who are undisciplined are numb"

A good piece of advice I heard a while back was that if you are in a rut, you should get emotional. To be clear getting too emotional to the point of letting it solely dictate your actions is not good but I seriously believe in at least tryjng to feel something. For me, it was remembering why I had chosen the path I am currently on and what gave me purpose.

[flaviocosta]

I watched your videos a few months ago and I'm back here to say that you changed my life. Thanks to the concept you gave about discipline being an emotional state of determination and the opposite of this state being doubt.
For 15 years I have dreamed of the day that I would be disciplined and achieve the things that I think are important in my life and now I have achieved it.
During all this time of searching I watched countless videos about psychology and philosophy while I was immersed in anguish trying to find an answer. The delay in this response brought me a lot of learning and self-knowledge. But finally today I am amazed at what I have become. I never imagined that one day I wouldn't make the slightest point of playing video games for 10 hours like I did. Or that I could study all day with short breaks without much effort.
All I had to do was eliminate the doubt from my mind and magic happened.
I was in love with doubt. I loved mystery and felt intelligent questioning everything. It was burying me in procrastination and anguish.
Once again! thanks! Today i am the one i Always wanted to be with discipline.

[Odhil]

This really hits home. I have a problem with soda drinks, I REALLY love them. But after 2 whole months of drinking them daily, one day I just thought: "no more for this year". And I actualy managed to quit soda drinks for the rest of the year. And I thought I was only distracted and very unattentive but it is surprising what the body can do with resolve.

[divine-by-zero]

This was bloody fascinating. For starters, the connection between lack of discipline / resolve and being emotionally dissociated was WOW. Then I thought about what resolve means to me and I realized something mind blowing:

Resolve is EASY. By that I mean that a state of resolve is like a switch going off in my brain that completely side-steps the need for willpower. Think of those stories you hear about a smoker that just looks at their pack of cigarettes one day and realizes “I don’t need / want these anymore”. They quit cold turkey and of course there are side effects to work through, but there’s no internal struggle. There’s no need to fire up the will power to fight the cravings. No need to convince themselves or psych themselves up to stick to their guns today. The switch has simply flipped and it won’t turn on again.

Then I thought about what that resolve “switch” sounds like in my brain and I realized that it sounds like release. Those times when I’ve experienced the kind of resolve that led to profound life changes have always been framed in my mind as the laying down of a burden, or permission to more fully embody some part of my life. “I no longer need this toxic influence in my life”, or “I no longer need to be held back by this lack of knowledge”, “or I don’t need to be shackled to this weird relationship with food anymore” - that kind of thing. It always feels like a release.

Thank you so much for this epiphany. It came at the exact right time too.

[allenwixted]

Action plan.
1. Notice when you feel resolved. Take a mental snapshot. Resolve fuels your willpower. Doubt and distractions pop in but you’re able to focus regardless.
2. Sankalpa. There’s a practice to develop resolve. Pick one thing you want to be resolved towards. Specific or broad. Pick something not very important (less emotional energy). Medium difficulty. Every day when you wake up, within 90 minutes, think about that resolve. Stoke up that fire. Spend 5-10 minutes feeling that emotional state from step 1.
3 The second kind can be more important and broad. Think about this for 10-20 minutes. Stoke that fire! (Recommended after 30 days of step 2).

People who are undisciplined are numb. Every day is grey. We’ve no fire to stoke. Our brain protects us from negative feelings but also numbs the positive ones.

[athena]

Ive been in therapy for 15 years. You’d think I’d have discussed everything and yet, this video is has potential to be life-changing.

[MrVevo]

I once had a very strong resolve, it was about “no more chocolates until I get a 6pack”, it wasn’t strong at first, but as days of gradual addition of learning jump roping, learning to swim, caloric control, and abs exercise goes by, the resolve eventually turned into “no more chocolates until I have 6 packs, and what is the point of those past efforts when I am already halfway there”, the last part really pushed me through when the exercises are at its hardest part. The resolve even affected my actions in my dream. I had a dream where I was having ice cream, and when I noticed it was chocolate, I threw it immediately into the garbage (you must know that I am hardcore chocolate fanatic). I was unbelievably disciplined now that I looked back upon, eventually I did manage to achieve a 6 pack from a fat belly within 3 months. I ate the chocolate and the resolve was broken, and I have never returned back to the 6 pack phase again, but now that I know why I was able to do it (resolve). Things could get interesting. Apologies for the grammar

[soba_fm]

notes i took from this:

cultivating discipline through resolve (meditation)

1. Snap shot resolve
2. Resolve yourself to something small; not too much emotional attachment (no fast/junk food) (practice fanning the flames) (for 30 days 5-10min a day)
3. Pick something more important to you (give my all consistently) (cultivate that emotion on a daily basis; 20min)

we’re (myself included lol) worthwhile.

[isabell]

I am a doctor myself, struggling to get into post graduation. Just today I was out of discipline, trying to numb myself, overwhelmed by emotions. I felt I was there again, doing nothing. Just today I thought what if I used my emotions to steer my day with discipline, but didn't find a way and dropped it. But somehow stumbled upon this video. It helped. Thank u sir. This meant a lot to me. ❤

[MrMusic]

I was literally just asking myself last night that I don't understand discipline.. Dr K never fails to deliver at the right time. Thank you for everything you do 🙌

[DavidStavis]

LOL 10:50 "If you look at all this" Dr. K says, while showing literally just a pink blur "it's actually quite complicated."

[JoshuaDb_The_Witness]

I want to add - I'm 52, at 47 - after four misdiagnoses since the age of 15 - was diagnosed with ADHD, and in the past year ASD. Deep emotionality is a BIG part of ADHD/ASD, that folks rarely talk about. I feel EVERYTHING deeply. And since I have learned to work with and manage my reactivity- I have learned that my deep sensitivity isn't a problem- it's a gift! The "problem" was my reactivity- this understanding has allowed me to "forgive" those whom over the years have dismissed me and my feelings as being "too sensitive". I have decided, generously, lol, to believe that they all misspoke. I have decided that what they meant was that my reactivity was super uncomfortable for them - not my sensitivity. People actually seem to genuinely appreciate my sensitivity. I feel that my sensitivity, brave vulnerability, curiosity and compassion- now bolstered with healthy boundaries and radical accountability- I now genuinely appreciate my sensitivity- as I now understand that my ability to connect with my feelings in such a deep, curious, nonjudgmental way- I feel calmer AND stronger.
Part of one of the struggles of ADHD and ASD is, it is often a challenging to activate on an activity or task, without some sort of emotional "skin in the game". This information- has me thinking that if I can simply use the resolute feelings - to help me to activate on things I struggle with - for instance- I have a hell of a time keeping my apartment clean and organized. Which drives me nuts - and has caused me shame. Now - over the past year - I resolved to accept this issue. So I did a an experiment, I "let it go". I allowed my apartment to get REALLY disgusting- and I made it a meditation- I would stand in the middle of my mess - and address the uncomfortable feelings of shame - leaned in if you will. And I was able to remove the shame - and was able to accept that those this is a troubling pattern in my life - I wasn't defined by it. Today - I watched this again - and now - I'm in the process of doing a deep cleaning- and I "feel" GREAT about it.
Thanks so much - this one video has given me a lot too work with. Thank you again!

[osmanmohammad]

In one month’s time, this video is going to change my life. Let me explain:

I think the reason why I lose my discipline after months of trying to do it is that I start to feel doubt. After going for long enough I start to think, “Will I actually keep this up?” “Will I be successful in this endeavour?” “Is it even worth it?”

Like this I always ruin my own discipline by introducing doubt. I think recently my emotions have become more and more potent. Less numb you could say. And I believe what I was actually missing in my discipline was this concept called resolve. I thought resolve was just this one time willpower boost to do what needs to be done. But if I think of it in a long term perspective, I believe I can actually make this work. I believe this discipline thing might actually work out!

All I need, is my resolve.