UPDATED Dad Retired & Gave Our Business I Built For 12 Yrs To My Brother Cos He's Golden Child. AITA

My older brother (30M) went to university and then worked in the city as an accountant, I (27M) stated to work for my dad as a plumber at 15 and went to college to get my qualifications in pluming and gas, about the time covid started my brother moved back from the city and started working for my dad (55M) in accounting, my dad has been unwell for the last 4 years due to asbestosis it has been really hard on the family and he is getting worse but is still loving life.

I have been running the business for the last 2 years we have expanded and now have 50 vans in the fleet and one qualified and one trainee allocated to each van covid was hard in the beginning but we have bounced back, my dad still works on tools with me on Fridays (half day then back to my place for some beers) Friday is the only day I’m on tools now as I’m doing everything to run the business.

Story 1:
AITA dad gave the business to brother so I left
Story 2:
AITA for not splitting the control of my business to my children equally?
Story 3:
AITA for not splitting my inheritance so my cousins and I can have an equal amount?

#AITA #Inheritance #Family

[GCRedditStories]

Story 1: UPDATE 4:14
AITA dad gave the business to brother so I left
Story 2: 10:05
AITA for not splitting the control of my business to my children equally?
Story 3: 13:42
AITA for not splitting my inheritance so my cousins and I can have an equal amount?

[heatherweir]

The older brother may have got the cake but the younger had the recipe.

[dbensdrawinvids]

How on Earth do you look at a guy who's been your junior partner for over a decade and say "The business is going to the guy with no qualifications"?

[ajakuk]

Story one "Yes family. I'm so greatful for the 20.000 pay cut"

[juanhaines]

Story 1 that 20G pay cut. Getting told that you don't know what your doing after a decade of work. That just hammers home how little they cared and the fact they still expected him to come back after everything. At least his work buddies stood by him.

[Margatatials]

Hot take story 1 the dad only apologized because of the Mum, he realized if their son cut them off she would never forgive him and she was ashamed of him and his behavior. As soon as his favourite son was there he reverted to his natural state. He had probably already promised golden child he would get OP to rejoin the company.

[khrisbatiste]

Story 1: The fact that it took op moms to find and recognize this story for his dad to somewhat realize the almost irrefutable damage to his family is more telling. Him then doubling down on just going back to work shows he only wanted to get his wife to stop crying not make it right. I hope he takes the entire staff.

[juliemcgugan]

"How dare you leave a company you devoted 12 years of your life to and raised up from nothing, just because the boss has given it, in totality, to somebody else who never expressed an interest in it before now!" OP is doing the right thing. This business will either be a flash in the pan to Brother, or he will sell it off and pocket all of the money. Their dad will regret it and will be on OP's doorstep looking for money, once he is cheated out of the profits from the company.

[amadddd]

Story1: dude is my hero, and won me with "I will be in my kilt" ❤️

[Bleg]

1. Story:
even after acting like he regrets it, the father still acts like it is OPs fault, he never did regret giving the business to the accountant son, he only regrets that OP is no pushover

2. Story:
wow the polar opposite of the first story

[mizMissusS]

Story 1 - Parents “regrets” because they know they would lose money lol. Mum is always crying. Pretty much useless. Dad is fake crying. Bro is manipulative. I hope OP flourishes in his new business.

[JamesSmith-jfge]

Same thing happened to a friend of mine that is a farmer. Worked for his dad from his early teens until he was 35. The dad donated 5 acres for a church then put half of the remaining land up for sale. My friend thought he was to inherit at least half of the land(he has a sister, but she is a bit slow and has never farmed.) His dad told him if he wanted the land, he could buy it at the market price. My friend quit and bought his own property just a few miles down the road. That was 15 years ago. He, his wife, his children, and their farm are doing very well. Im so happy and proud for him. :)

[hothotheat]

Story one: They backed off after the threats to boycott the wedding because they saw how utterly unbothered OP was. They thought the threats would bring him to heel. Do not invite ANY of those people to your wedding, and you and fiancée need to agree not to discuss wedding details with your mom. And for the love of God, DO NOT TELL THEM WHEN YOU ALL GET PREGNANT. The best way to get revenge is to live well, happily, and without them. They will use to try to guilt you into coming back to them. Nope. Without a sincere apology, understanding of what they did, and actions to make amends, they have forfeited all claims to your love and time. Move on.

[ferret-tvhj]

Story 1 Op is doing the right thing. What exactly does the brother know about the business? It would have been better to put the brother in charge of the company finances and leave Op in charge of the business side.

[laucorn]

You cant treat someone like an employee & expect them to act like they have any real stake in the company. The fact the brother cut his pay & refused to listen to him despite him having hepped build the company he was handed shows he doesn't actually know how to run a company. You dont fuck over the Golden Goose (aka the loyal & hardest working employee) in order to stroke your own ego.

[DrownedInExile]

Story1: Daddy is a fool and a lousy businessman, if it took him this long to realize how important OP was. That 3rd update was psycho, what is this the Godfather??? That he won't talk to OP and won't come to his wedding says it all. He's not sorry at all, just sorry OP wasn't going to be his little doormat. Well sucks to be him, hope he enjoys watching everything he's worked for come undone.

[paulleckner]

Yup! Story #1. Walk away. Start your own business and go independent. Never look back.

[mikehilbert]

Story 1: the father knows he effed up, but refuses to take the blame. Brother sounds like a total D. The dad's reasoning for screwing the younger son will never be valid.

[lordfury]

first story makes me laugh


the father and brother both know OP's the reason their buisness was making so much money, and now they've royally screwed themselves out of heaps of money just because the brother won't share 50/50

considering OP is also likely to be the first to have grandkids it means the mom and dad will never get to meet their first grandchildren all because they sided with the wrong child


this my friends is beautiful karma

[TheKnightofAwesomeness]

Story 1 (I apologize in advance as this will be a long comment)

"My dad told me that my brother deserves it for all he has done, that he has a family and I don't and that he went to uni", this actually made me say, was that supposed to be a joke?

First off, the Hell does going to a university have to do with running a business? Did he really equate, he has a degree, so he must know how to run a business better than the acting CEO of my business? If that was his thinking, he is dumber than he acts because an accountant would be more in the line of the CFO route not the CEO.
Also, "all he's done"... Was OP not there since the beginning?

Second, imagine running a successful business as the CEO, just to lose it to a guy with Zero Experience running a company, and you're losing it all because daddy felt sorry for his son... His company deserved everything that happened to it after OP left.
Again Sorry for Rant, that comment really grind my gears...