Why do narcissists get married?

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[pamelaperry]

They get married to have a nurse, cook and housekeeper. And the extra income.

[dawnrobbins]

Narcissists always think of themselves as single and available, but their spouse is married, of course.

[zacharykassner]

It's sad how they don't want abandonment yet do everything that leads people to abandon them. And then they do everything in their power to not believe they are the ones causing their own abandonment.

[michellewasthere]

"Just because someone wants to marry you, doesn't mean it's a good idea."
Wise words indeed!!

[l.]

1) To make themselves look normal 2) To make their ex jealous 3) To give access to social events that are couples oriented 4) To have access to the new spouse's assets 4) To secure supply

[dhanyaslifeventure]

They get married because they need a slave, they need a supply, they need a source to hit their anger and frustration (punch bag), they need to show their power, to show their possession of control, a weapon to achieve their selfish desires.This is endless, in a nutshell there is no marriage with them, its a hell.

[Jamama]

"Just because someone wants to marry you doesn't mean it's a good idea " That!

[TheHighwinder]

As stated in one of Dr Ramani's other videos: "Nobody falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs a new place to live."

[thetruth]

Getting rid of a narcissist is like getting rid of a parasite.

[Soosan]

Never felt like a spouse, only an employee.

[nic]

How many people married one and watched them turn into someone else overnight?! So charming, helpful and caring before the ring goes on then that's it.

[KD_]

Cognitive dissonance for 6 years…the last year (this year) I am escaping my marriage! Pray for me I’m a homemaker with 4 small kids! ❤️

[whoooami]

Married to one for 34 yr. he passed away and I’m finally free and enjoying the peace.

[shaidaphillip]

Empaths are too kind to spot a narc till it's too late! To all those empaths who eventually got ”discarded”, I'm sure you're grateful now. Be strong, life gets better! 🙏🏽✌️🏽

[deborahwaters]

They get married to hide who they really are. To some degree, spouses provide a camouflage for who and what they are. Sometimes only their spouses know who they are. Their children might know.

[TheWelchcat]

To present that image: spouse, house, and success. Built in supply with the bonus of looking like they've got it all. Plus nurse, cook, maid, laundress, consort, and scapegoat.

[caballossalvajes]

Wow! "being discarded by a narcissist is the best thing that could happen to you" thank you Dr. Ramani for that reassurance

[resolutebelle]

Narcissists get married, oftentimes serially, for housekeeping, cooking, and another income source, which of course is always at their personal disposal.

[tiredowalkin]

Narcissists to always fit in and always look good to the world" Wow! True!!!

[itsmoenishanotmoesha]

My ex husband really tricked me. When me and him first started dating, I was having issues with my teeth. I was having bad tooth aches, because of a bad sinus infection, that was really resistant to antibiotics. I would be at his house in tears from the pain and he would comfort me stay up all night long. Fast forward 2 years later we're married and I'm pregnant I go into preclampsia at 7 months, I almost died. This is my first child, so the next day after a terrible birth me and him are headed down to the nicu. I instantly start crying because I'm stressed out. My daughter is connected to tubes monitors everything, yes I'm a nurse but it was so overwhelming to see my baby like that.
He bends down and whispers in my ear " you need to shut up with all that crying, you're making me look like a bad husband". From that moment on my view of him completely changed, I started to realize all that love and caring, I experienced when we first started dating was just a part of love bombing. I started to realize his "emotions" he displayed were really just a mask he used to get me where he wanted me.