Narcissistic Couples

In this video, I explain the different types of narcissistic couples, including when both partner have a narcissistic style versus a full blown personality disorder, as well as the combinations of 2 vulnerable narcissists; 2 grandiose narcissists; a grandiose narcissist with a covert narcissist, as well as when the relationship involves someone who consistently shows signs of both the grandiose and vulnerable types of narcissism.

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About Me
Hi! I'm Lise Leblanc. I am a therapist, life coach, and author of 9 self-healing guides. I have over 20 years of experience in therapeutic, educational, and leadership roles.

What is a Successful Relationship? (0:00)
Assortative Mating (1:19)
3 Important Factors to Consider (2:15)
Factors That Increase the Chance of Success (3:55)
What If Two Full Fledge Narcissists Get Together? (5:49)
Grandiose and Vulnerable Narcissists (9:16)
Two Grandiose Narcissists (11:19)

#narcissist, #NPD, #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, #covertnarcissism, #femalenarcissist

[flightydancer]

Pretty ugly relationship full of rage, disrespect, vindictiveness and materialism. A soulless way to live together.

[alonzomosley]

I was friends with a narc couple, they were like a business machine, everything was about money and who could be useful to them to gain more assets.I actually think they didn't like each other, it was a marriage of convenience.She spent most of her time with female friends .

[malissacalhoun]

Yes they need to be with each other. They are so much alike.

[red-vhky]

Thank you Lise! I have long struggled to understand my parents, who had alcohol, prescription drug and sex addiction issues. Last year I figured out that they were grandiose/vulnerable narcissists. I am really amazed to finally see such an honest, accurate and insightful description of their relationship.

In early 2022 many of us watched the trial involving a very famous Hollywood acting couple. Your description of the grandiose/grandiose situation was by far the best analysis I have ever seen of that relationship. Hope to see more in depth video like this. Thank you for your work!

[NancySwanson-gi]

Some married narcs stay together forever, never speaking one word to each other. They will use their kids to communicate while living under the same roof. "Ask your father to pass the salt." "Ask your mother to pass the peas." Both kids grow up damaged, passing along their toxicity to their own kids and the cycle continues.

[KiwiCyndi]

Thank you so much for this video because others believe that it's not possible, yet my parents and many other couples I've known over the years were both clearly narcissistic, especially when alcohol and/or other drugs are part of the equation!

As you've stated, it's extremely complex though with different types and factors involved in the situations. ❤

[duromusabc]

As long as they can give each other supply and be functional for each other and make each other look good in public

But realistically this is rare until death do them part

[Troyboy]

You are precise in your language and I appreciate what you’re doing. Thank you!!

[IcU]

My covert ex had an affair with a grandiose friend. They were caught out and had to move in together or faced life on the street. They have now teamed up and their main goal is infiltrate and destroy my life. Its been total hell for months, but I'm slowly gettingn to the point of indifference. I have closed off all access points to my life, only door I can't shut is via co-parenting. The manipulation, intimidation and bullying is nothing short of sickening. But the only reaction they are getting and seeing is from my divorce attorney.

[surfshack]

Excellent breakdown once again Lise. Your content is right on. My narcissist ex talked about a past relationship with a narcissist. I believe in that relationship my ex was the vulnerable and her partner was the grandiose because my ex talked about being abused to the point of not knowing he was she was anymore. She talked about that ex the most and how badly it affected her. It was then that i believe her alcohol and xanax addiction really became out of control and she was on her way to really losing her mind because of anxiety and deep feeling's of worthlessness. She coped by becoming addicted to alcohol and prescription drugs and it eventually destroyed her liver and took her life. Very sad. I never dreamed in a million years that i would experience something like this. But i've been 3 years no contact with self healing, so i'm doing much much better. The deeper you get involved the longer it takes to heal if you are even fortunate enough to survive snd get out.

[Theantinarc]

My ex and his wife are a nightmare together. I've been their target for 9 years. I think it keeps them together with someone to abuse together.

[saltygoat]

You videos on narcissists are excellent. I feel like this is info that everyone should know as early in life as it can be learned.

Just a suggestion but could you do a video on the family dynamic of a narcissistic family, or one on sibling narcissists? I have a malignant N dad but I also think my younger sister is a covert narcissist who is close in age, and the damage she has done to my life with smear campaigns and taking over my friends when I was hospitalised for years is devastating. These people are so evil I don’t have words for it

[sajor]

I just saw a narcissist couple in the laundry room at a hotel I'm staying at. First the energy when they entered triggered me to not engage. The old lady looked at me and I didn't give eye contact. She didn't say good morning nor did I as I had turned my back to her. They both sounded like they needed oxygen breathing very oddly. Suddenly the old lady says the washer is free. I said thank you without looking her way actually greyrocking her. She then says it takes 30 minutes for the washer and that they don't tell you how long it takes. I never responded and never looked her way. I can recognize these people very easily now and will never give them my precious energy again!

[michaelk]

I have to say your explanations of those phenomenas are best on the internet. Very well structured and they touch on most important details. Great job! Looking forward for 100k subs this year, you deserve more!
I wonder tho, are you seeing the macro global abusive relationship between governments, media, corporations, institutions etc and society in general? The secular macro gaslighting/devaluing stage was initiated few years ago when funky bat farted out funky flu in the mainland Ch!n4. Its straight in my and everyones faces. I see it. But most youtube educators on narcissism do not. And it boggles my mind how can they not see it. Its forced in their faces everyday for last 2, 5 years, heh. Peace.

[gbaybayc]

It’s incredible, all of this information. It’s exactly how it goes. And you explain it all so eloquently. Thank you for doing these videos.

[borislavbarrenko]

Love your videos, it's amazing how you describe it...would love to see more on BPD
Thank you for what you're doing

[One-Goth]

This has made me wonder if my Nex and I were both Narcs!? We slept in separate bedrooms at opposite ends of the house.

[StudyWeimar]

Minor grandious male, spent over a decade w a severe covert female. Two to three first years were great while blissfully unaware of our disorders.

Then, stayed for the sex and dominance and somewhat stuck in hero role until I overcame the dynamic. She'd cultivate secret new supply and discard me for short times, and this gradually became more the norm and for longer times as I stopped chasing and caring and we just used each other. Ten years of on and off again breakups and great makeup sex.

I'm now too self aware and she couldn't follow me to this place of acceptance of our personalities. Had to move to avoid the hoovering temptation. It's super tempting for me.

Feel free to ama..

[Ashkbringer]

You gave me closure and understanding.
Not only now I understand my ex, but now I understand her old relationship dynamics.

It all makes sense now, thank you!

[christinacutlass]

I’ve seen it work within my own family… Covert and Grandiose… the 2nd tier uses the grandiose to hide behind…. They’re both conjoined in the shared fantasy, they don’t even WANT intimacy… so yes, it can work…