The Epidemic of Feeling Ugly, Lonely and Jealous

Chapters:

00:00 - Why do you want to be beautiful?
01:45 - Some statistics
02:39 - My story
04:40 - Pretty privilege
05:54 - Evolutionary sychology
07:46 - Beauty through history
10:17 - Social media
13:02 - Different types of pretty
13:50 - Body positivity movement
15:51 - Remain critical
17:50 - What makes me feel beautiful

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[princessofproductivity]

Isn’t it so interesting how being beautiful holds so much influence on everything we do in life, yet it’s deemed as shallow when someone dares to pursuit. It definitely isn’t everything, but it would be silly to pretend it’s nothing.

[MasteringJohn]

"I'm not jealous. I'm envious. Jealousy is when you worry someone will take what you have. Envy is wanting what someone else has. What I feel is *envy*." - Homer Simpson

[adg]

“Worship your body and beauty and sexual allure and you will always feel ugly… And when time and age start showing, you will die a million deaths”
—David Foster Wallace.
“This is water”

[TheCrystallineLeoness]

I feel so beautiful inside when my little girl comes running up into my arms and says 'I love you so much mummy' *no feeling can ever compare* 🤱

[tobiaseaton]

timely video for me. feeling down that i wasted my teen years 18-21 due to COVID and family problems. now im 23 and seeing younger students doing normal friends stuff makes me super sad. everyone around me had normal dating and friends only me alone. feel like shit when i see 18 year olds enjoying life like i was supposed to. wish i was born into a different family culture every day. loneliness really really hurts. if you have a loved wife or gf please go hug her. i don't know what a hug feels like. bless and have a good day.

[whitebasegirl]

I feel the same way about body positivity. It created a lot of insecurities in me because I saw that they focused on many negative things, sometimes giving it more importance than it had so they can make their criticisms. Accepting that not many people were going to like me and finding my own sense of beauty to follow helped me a lot. I also feel better being elegant and feminine, wearing certain clothes... I have gained a lot of self-esteem thanks to that difference on perspective. And I feel people look at me differently too! Confidence does a lot.

[TheWanderer]

We need to come out of the social media sea, the waves of fake standards and the currents of useless trends are pulling us down and down into what would eventually be a depth of despair.

Thank you very much for sharing this, much needed for us to know what our body needs and wants, the difference is what needed to be learnt.

Please keep up!

[jodieturnerx]

'I want to be stunning like me'. I love that!

[n_n]

This is much needed topic. Social media is getting scary they are people saying how to look.. how to dress.. how to be in relationship.. what product to use. We have so many distractions and it makes us feel that we lack something in life. We should only see social media as entertainment factor and not let to harm our lives. Though they are many beauty standards like u said I feel extremely beautiful about myself when I do something. Apart from physical beauty if I understand someone's pain... If I laugh watching silly videos... If I'm dancing for my favourite song ... Just simply starting at the ceiling... Making other feel better through my actions and they are so many things that makes me feel so beautiful about myself. And that moment I feel that none can be me. And I love being myself that feeling is unmatched. Just being yourself and accepting yourself as you are is the only thing we should focus on rather than following the beauty standards.

[chulwoo]

Very relatable as I suffered a lot from this growing up. It was only when I truly saw myself (not just the physical body), my mind got quiter and started loving myself more. Self love is nothing to be embarrassed of!! Thanks for the awesome content as always

[natemarx]

There is a difference between being beautiful and elegant. Beauty can be purchased, elegance doesn’t have a price. I prefer elegance over beauty any day.

[raihanahmed]

I've been watching your videos for a good few years now but there's something about the topic and delivery of this one that is just so.. healing? Thank you as always, Lana, for your wonderful insight and introspective work 🫶

[gautamihunsigida]

how every time you post a video it is exactly what i need to hear at that point in time

[harry]

I just want to say thank you for your videos. I think the body positivity point I relate to so much, because I've had people point out parts of my body and try to tell me to "love them" and yet it makes me feel so much worse about them parts of my body.

Hope you're doing well Lana and thanks for your videos, which are really thought provoking and interesting to watch.

[lauraneres]

Always at the right time, always comforting to me. Thank you ❤

[ushaduggalgulati]

The ending of the video was perfect and absolutely relatable ❤

[HomebodyRJB]

Social media is so full of lies and how its manipulating young girls through false beauty standards is alarming. I used to be so insecure and body concious but as I start accepting myself with all my flaws I somehow manage to get over those insecurities. Now for me it doesn't matter even if someone calls me ugly...

[wuiemotional]

prologue felt so relatable as i am so insecure about so many things while everyone around me seems to be flawless

[francines.pagayon]

I love how beautiful your words played in my ears and I can’t help but simply smile because you’re definitely saying relatable words. And I love it!thank youuu❤

[youtube_music_lovers]

I needed this❤ ...I will continuously watch it whenever I need comfort