why you think you're ugly

#healthymindset #selfcare #selfacceptance

00:00 Intro
00:40 Spotlight effect
03:28 Toxic relationships and mean comments
05:40 Lack of acceptance
07:52 Societal standards
09:46 Outro

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[charlotteb]

even just viewing 'ugliness' as a feeling and not a fact is so powerfullll damn

[anthea]

This is so true. I felt so ugly for most of my teenage years and that feeling of insecurity only made other people perceive me as less attractive. When I started feeling beautiful and not need the approval of other people, that is when people perceived me as attractive. Our mind really works wonders.

[guynnid]

Thank you Haley, it’s something very important to bring up because we live in a very superficial society !

[elephantissocute]

Basically i know I’m ugly and I’m okay with it now. I have a big thigh and fatter body type. Oh and my facial structure is not that good either.
BUT one thing for sure is NOBODY can keep up with this crazy trend in beauty standard. I’m telling you beauty standards are like fast fashion nowadays. Yesterday we all are crazy with thigh gap. Now with the rise of anime culture, thick thigh is embraced. But then the gym people are trending too. I can’t even keep up it’s tiring.
Nowadays i just don’t give a fuxk 😂 i have fun with myself. Ugly? Welp. Pretty? Welp too.
We are human, not cloth. And the only standard we need to keep up is being happy. Okay?! Yall hear me? No more crying for being ugly. Do whatever you want with your body. People will hate it or love it, it’s their business. But you queens and kings. You will keep thriving. ❤

[imaginecloudsxo]

I'm curious, has anyone ever cancelled plans bc of the way the felt about themselves? I'll go first; I cancelled so many plans, so many girls-night, so many nights just with friends bc I absolutely felt bad about myself. I did not feel as if I was enough, or pretty or anything. This hits home... So yeah, I let my looks 'dictate' how my nights would go. I chickened out bc I thought; "Oh, I am ugly nevertheless"

[Lina-kuiy]

Thank you for this video. I got bullied in middleschool. People straight up called me ugly when walking pass me and I didn't got invited by 'friends' to their birthdays, as their 'cooler friends' didn't like me. Back then I had an ego big enough to not suffer emotionally (and I actually accepted that I was bullied years later), as I only focused on my grades. I was at the top of the class and knew those bullies would barely finish school. In high school I changed school to another one in a different city because of study reasons. But that was the best decision I ever made in my life. People in my new class were much more focused on being academically good, without being too nerdy. So we kinda were a big team wanting good grades, but without being obsessed with it. And during that time I had a sweet glow up, so I really felt like fitting in and slowly figured what my style was/ looked good on my type of face, hair and body. But I had a huge struggle with believing people when they complimented me. I straight up thought they're lying or just being kind.
Now I'm a medical student and got to know that I actually can pull and people can be in love with me.
Although I still have marks from the past, as I can be really confident with myself in the situation, but when I look back at myself or feel unhappy with what I see in the mirror or on pictures, I regret feeling the confidence and that I'll never be that attractive person that I want to be.
(Btw english is my 3. language, so please be kind if I made mistakes)

[Themorrigan]

You have completely changed my life and my view of myself. You are incredible, please keep doing what you do!!

[annavk]

I'm comforted by this video. I was told all my life that I'm ugly, so I just got used to thinking that way about myself. It would be nice to think differently.

[hass]

you released this video at the right time. i’ve been struggling with the beauty standards for a while and i think your method might help. thank you for this video ❤️‍🔥

[hussainsamanta]

This is what I really needed to hear today and it almost made me cry. You don't know how much you're improving my life... Thank you Haley from the bottom of my heart.

[dama]

That was so deeply and meaningful for me. Thanks for think not just in makeup tips but also in the mental health ❤️

[tracyfernandes]

I think the same as you said about the spotlight effect, it is just us overthinking that people are watching us.

[an_riin]

Thank you so much for making this video. I have always been picked at for how I look. So I thought I was ugly. I later realized that wasn't the case. I never were the type of person to follow trends or care about how others viewed me. So I always tell myself I am the most beautiful person in the world. Thinking positive about yourself is the most healthy way to live. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[dungphan]

I agree with you that taking real selfish without filter have helped me a lot realize that my face is also good. When i took many photos with filter and then i see my face in mirror or normal camera, i will feel that why my face is not as beautiful as one in the photo with filter and i feel I am ugly and sometime sad in reality. Thank you for this content Haley.

[makomori]

I've been a subscriber since 2016 and the quality and content of the videos you put out there stand the test of time. You inspired me to live make up free even when nearing my late 20's. This beauty channel really tackles the deep underlying cause of why we never feel enough even after buying good products etc. We have to learn to love and accept our natural face and skin first. Thank you haley!

[kaypat]

I've been going through the worst body image year ever. It's really comforting to hear someone talk about this.

[Pizzashakes]

Seeing how pretty you are made me burst out crying

[himerukinniexviii]

you're an amazing person haley, this video helped me a lot, thank you!!

[danyf.]

Poweful message, thank you Haley!!!
I feel that for me one of the good things about getting older (I am 40) is that I genuinely dgaf anymore about standards and other people judgement. But I guess for kids growing up these days it is entirely another matter and I understand how difficult it must be for them to develop an healthy attitude towards their looks.

[ruum]

Something that kinda helps me is thinking that make up is an art form and not a way to alter your beauty. I can use make up to create abstract looks instead of redefining my features. I can try different lip colors and eye styles and experiment with making cool looks instead of trying to make myself look "prettier" and more "perfect". Because the beauty we are always looking for is simply impossible to achieve. Even if you see someone who you think is so so so pretty, they may even struggle themselves with thinking they're not pretty enough.