If Someone Isn’t Listening to You… | @GeorgeJanko

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[alextheclaw]

Learned this growning up in fostercare. Most of psychology is honesty and observation.

[HooLeeYo]

I live by a motto of ignoring the pretty words people say and WATCHING their actions. People will ALWAYS tell on themselves by what they DO.

[Filtiarin]

If the convo isn’t a back and forth then it ain’t a conversation

[riskybiscuit]

This is 1, 000% true. Had a group of friends who would never let me get a word in, in any conversation. Began to realize I was just the butt of all jokes. They never cared to have me around. They didn’t care about my experiences in the same way they did the others, even if we were talking about the same things. People aren’t worth your time.

[carolinepark]

If ppl don’t ask questions back, they’re not interested.

[hologramgrave]

I hear it every day at the office. Conversations have so many “I”s and “me”s. They don’t ask questions of each other, they just “one up” each other or brag about themselves. I don’t know how they feel like they have had a meaningful conversation.

[RedFlame]

100% this happened to me and I did this…. It was sickening to have to face the truth. I was surrounded by envy and evil.

[stephaniejean]

Just had an experience like this at work. A narcissistic woman would never pay attention to me when trying to give pass down information for the next shift. She always had her back turned, or would be eating, fidgeting through stuff, etc. The last time, I just stopped talking mid sentence. She turned and looked at me and said, “Are you okay?” Which I replied by telling her I’d appreciate her attention when trying to give this important information, and she is being disrespectful. Long story short, she flipped out and her mask dropped on the floor. She called me evil and hard to work with. Neither of these are true, she was just projecting her insecurities onto me.

[maria-lena]

The rudest thing is when ur talking & the other person starts to get busy doing something. They're clearly not interested.

[teevee]

I’ve noticed people like hearing when I’m down and out, but stop listening or caring when I’m feeling good and talking about good things in my life.

[cominghometoyeshua]

So spot on. Reveals a narcissist instantly.

[rhysgilbert]

Exactly. Nothing is more pleasing than walking into a room, saying nothing and just watching and listening to what others say.

[alyciamarie]

Started doing this … truly works like a charm. Just listen to what people say! They tell you everything.

[ladybugforest]

My mom says that all the time. Don't speak, smile, listen, pay attention to what they say and especially what they do. They reveal themselves.

[sylviarichardson]

Absolute truth!!
The first time I heard this I had been struggling with hurt feelings due to constant interruptions...
So i stopped talking...and realized most people i was speaking to did not care about me or what i had to say...
It became clear that i needed to choose my conversations so as not to waste my time & energy.

[Christine-Ga]

Sadly I'm not listened to by my family. I just stopped talking to see how long it was before they noticed. My sister in law finally noticed and asked why I had stopped talking? I said because you're not listening to me! To be ignored by your own family is horribly rude. I said why should I stay if you are not going to listen? They then apologized and started listening.

[dianenecaise]

I was a receptionist at a mental health hospital. I would see parents, social workers, foster parents bring in children and never get off their phones. Most of the time I would ignore them until they got off the phone. They would do the paperwork and then they were back on the phone. The children would wreck havoc, many times I would correct them, if I thought they were going to hurt themselves. These adults would then wonder what was wrong with these children and want someone to fix them. I was there 22 years, have continued to see the downfall of our children due to cell phones and no one listening to them except social media.

[helpinghandsolutions]

I remember a friend told me, that you act like you don’t know what’s going on in a conversation, a lot. I said because if you play dumb, people show you who they are, 💯 percent.

[clsieczka]

A very wise older Jewish woman gave me valuable advice about dating women. “ Let her talk, just listen. You’ll then learn and then decide “. This was 30 years ago . Fortunate to meet her.

[dcjohnson]

My mom said “silence is golden, so shut up and get rich”. My father said “shut up and listen, you might learn something”. They were both right. I listened to my parents. By the time I was 40yo I took my company public on the New York and London stock exchanges simultaneously. When my father saw the Prospectus, he said “I knew you were a smart kid because you alway had a book in your face since you were 5yo”. I’m an old retired scientist (octogenarian). They were both right. 😊