Why Is No One Listening To You? | 6 Reasons Why People DONT Listen To You (STOP DOING THESE)

In this video, Danish tells you why no one listens to you while you speak.

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Have you ever felt that people don't listen to you while you speak or just thought to yourself “No one listens to me, what am I doing wrong?” You must’ve often felt that there’s no point expressing when it feels like you’re talking to a wall.

There are several communication mistakes you can make while speaking, that make people shut their ears and brains off to you. In this piece, we’re primarily focusing on issues from the speaker’s end by answering the question “why no one listens to me?” and ways to make people listen.

1. You ramble and lack direction
People tend to get carried away while speaking and end up speaking more than what’s needed. It’s a common mistake which is like chasing a rabbit trail where you lack proper flow and direction. This often leads to you deviating from the topic at hand or going into several directions at once, making it difficult for the listener to follow. This lack of a clear direction can make the listener disinterested in what you have to say. I mean would you be interested in listening to someone who just goes around in circles without a point?

2. You lack clarity
The second reason why people are not listening to you is that you aren’t sure of what you’re saying, that is, you lack clarity of speech. Firstly, it’s the lack of understanding and secondly, it’s the lack of clear communication. It’s hard to make others listen to you when you aren’t clear about your thoughts. And it’s even harder when you can’t communicate those thoughts in a simple, structured, and concise manner for others to follow. It’s possible that you’re speaking too fast or pausing too much, find more about the ideal rate of speech here.

3. You lack confidence
Marcus Garvey once said, “with confidence, you have won before you have started” and truer words have never been spoken. We’ve often heard the question “how to be confident in public speaking” being asked because the lack of confidence can break your speech and make you invisible to your audience or colleagues, even if your words are great. If the listener feels that you lack confidence in your words, then it’s a given that they won’t have confidence in them either. Imagine you’re listening to someone speak about Artificial Intelligence, but they constantly contradict their statements, do you think you’ll listen to them after a while?

4. You only speak for yourself
Along with asking yourself “why no one listens to me?” also ask yourself “Am I speaking for everyone or just myself?” Speaking after taking everyone into account doesn’t come naturally to most and thus, a blunder that you can make is speaking only from your point of view without considering others. Effective communication is only possible if all parties involved feel involved, hence, when you only speak for yourself, it can lead to fading interest as well as reduced attention. Your communication needs to factor in how it’ll affect or impact others, and how your audience or colleagues are involved. For example, if you’re discussing a possible marketing proposal with your team, you need to talk of everyone’s roles and ask for everyone’s inputs rather than just your own.

5. Your body language and words don’t match
Body language includes your posture, your facial expressions, and your hand gestures, and can hugely impact whether someone listens to you or not. On one hand, if used properly, it can add strength to your verbal message and improve it manifold. On the other hand, if you lack energy, have a stiff posture, and are expressionless, it can make the listener disinterested and possibly bored. In fact, studies show that your words only convey about 7% of what you're trying to say. The other 93% is communicated through facial expressions and the tone of your voice.

6. You’re not open-minded and are interruptive

[SquatchSis-]

The simple and bottom line answer is people don't listen because they don't care. And I know this because I have been a caring person my whole life! I've heard so many things that I wished I hadn't! The world's full of selfish uncaring people.

[TheRds]

1) Lack of direction
2) Lack clarity
3) Lack confidance
4) Speaking only from your point of view
5) Body language/words don't match
6) You're not listening. Not open minded

[insearchofveracity]

I think I need to learn to speak more confidently. I noticed the confidence and passion in my voice when my friends and I discuss more introspective ideas. I need to learn to adapt that with my coworkers……..possibly ha

[laurieberry]

I actually had no one listening to me one on one. I think that I wasn’t attractive. The social worker was prejudiced. That is why. It’s just that I wasn’t cute. I did not ramble because I said nothing. This video disappointed me. I know it’s because I am not cute. I started yelling at the landlord, she was a social worker, that she only wanted to listen to her own people.When someone tells you to leave, they aren’t trying one bit. Many years later, I took a speech course in college and received a B. By the way, I have a dream to get more books published. I also want more people to read my books. Maybe write about antiSemitism. People would describe me as looking German. When people talk about evil German people, I rather just let them make a fool of themselves. And I am Jewish. There was no one to interrupt because there was no invitation. So when I got out of the hospital, I yelled at the social worker for failing me. And yes, I really rather have gone back to the state hospital. The people at Youth and Transition were screwed.

[XxsunnysisxX]

Y’a know it’s hard to follow through with a lot of this when you’re someone who’s on the Autism Spectrum 😅

Communication?


Not our forte for the most part.


But imma try a few hoping they’ll work…

[boostmobile]

Open minded means willingness is dangerous.



Willing to disagree is safety. ?

[misha]

I make people nervous, I don't mean to though. So now I just keep stuff to myself. :/

[jcsilva]

Hi there. I have to write a speech for tomorrow morning and I have to include INTRODUCTION: attention getter, background, thesis. statement . DEVELOPMENT and CONCLUSION. Could you suggest me something or give some tips?

[Conduitgene]

My mom is a narcissist ...it’s very difficult

[alimurtaza]

In any family gathering or with a group of friends, when ever I speak mostly I get ignored or other times no one even listens. In the end its very embarrassing and disheartening. For that reason I have lost interest in meeting people and mostly like to spend time alone.

[joykwa]

IF I AM TALKING TO MY DAD AND MY AUNTY NOT KNOWINGLY INTURUPT ME AND MY CONVERSATION WITH MY DAD DIED DOWN SLOWLY AND I BEGIN TO FEEL THAT I AM NOT LISTENING TO AND CONVERSATION SLOWLY GET CUT OFF PROBABLY THEY ARE BUSY MY DAD WONT GIVE A HOOT TO PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT I HAVE TO SAY AND LOOK ME IN THE EYE ….WHY IS EYE CONTACT IMPORTANT?

[mariaelena]

Okay this does not work if the other party will not stop talking or interrupting and is usually a MAN.

[Katariinajokakuoli]

My family is abusive. I have no one to talk to. It's frustrating. I've been conditioned to be silent. My voice doesn't count.

[habib_the_panda_odst]

I've noticed everyone who doesn't listen to me also gets angry when I return the favour (the irony),
also with people born roughly 90's onward who don't listen will also yell a hell of alot,
people born before that tend to refuse to even open their mouth refuse to comment & when you describe the behaviour in real time to them as they are doing it they WILL every time without fail produce a waterfall of disconnected excuses while the 90's onwards straight up just blame other people or events that have occurred.

I'm a 97 kid & was pushed to represent my school for year 10-12 debates after my first term in high school (year 7 in Australia), needless to say the pathetic excuses don't work with me.

[boostmobile]

Broad minded is neutral SAFTY. DO YOU AGREE?

[jenniferpetrellicarslearni]

I consider myself pretty good listener but getting other people to listen to me is very hard. The other day someone asked me a question. Before I get even answer it they went into this whole thing about their situation and I couldn't even get one word in edgewise. When I try to say anything, the person didn't even want to hear anything that I had to say. Of course we were out of time so I never did get a chance to answer her question that she asked me. It was just a friendly conversation, but I hate it when I can't get a chance to say one thing.

[privatprivat]

2:45 thats me! but many times people dont have the time to go slow...and getting to a essense of something or things... they dont even really care...so how u fiend the right people to talk to?

[boostmobile]

Is this a way to talk with mental health crisis workers on the phone????
Person needs 🆘 HELP with a serious issue.
If person is Low self esteem ?

[JackAtkins-xzwi]

You pull people away from their correct mealtimes