SCARY Red Flags to NEVER Ignore in a New Relationship

[moee.]

There's different types of joking... some people attack your insecurities... i find that disrespectful in ANY relationship.

[romonaelrod]

If your partner is like this get out of the relationship fast. You will be miserable if you stay.

[chris_-kklo]

I honestly caught myself doing the first thing a little to often lately... at least the texting part. And its kinda weird cause because of that I'm making myself worried to scare away people and it just makes things worse and I gotta hold myself back even more...
On top of that I started second guessing myself about when I should or should not write something like 'have a nice time with your friends' when I know she will go out do to do stuff with them cause we were talking about it a few days prior...

[geraltzrivii]

I was a "Love Bomber" once and didn't even knew I was a red flag in this relationship. I loved her so much but she just stopped texting me. Few months ago (2yrs after end of this relatopnship) her friend told me that my ex broke up with me 'cause I was a "Love Bomber". This is heartbeaking and one of the reasons why I have depression. This make me blame myself all the time that I could be someone like that...

[iHeartPiMore]

Hypersensitivity is a trait of neurodivergence. I have adhd, and I’m always trying to be better. That doesn’t mean I don’t deserve to give and receive love in a romantic relationship. I always try to say something when I have hypersensitive thoughts to avoid it building up into resentment.

[SynthDecay]

I see hypersensitivity more commonly among the formerly abused or traumatized. It’s also more common among those with rejection sensitivity disorder, which occurs with ADHD and Autism.

[wolfdasavage]

Me and my current boyfriend love bomb each other despite only being in a relationship for a few months. Half of our conversations are saying how much we love each other and love being around each other, and we both constantly cuddle when we are around each other. We're also both neurodivergent (We both have ADHD and Autism), and don't know any other way to express our feelings. We kinda cling to each other but we're also completely fine not being around each other or not talking for a bit, and we're fine when the other person does other things without us. We just kinda express our love differently than most people, and that's ok

[ravenify]

I am hypersensitive. But mine stems from being abused and used in the past.
M working on it.

[KnifeTail]

This is the reason why I listen carefully to people around me, to see if I can either benefit them with help, or to make sure I don’t miss a red flag

[weeyee]

After dating someone for only a matter of months, I dealt with a hyper sensitive, narcissist. What a horrible experience! I’m so glad to have turned & walked away, when I did!!!

[SmileyS]

My ex love bombed me and there were some other red flags that i ignored unfortunately. He was a narcissist who used me for sex then discarded me. Please DO NOT ignore these red flags.

[enjoynature]

My boyfriend in high school was like this and i found out he had a neglectful childhood where he and siblings didn’t even have food sometimes and i think he clung to whoever would give him love and care and it was very heartbreaking ❤️‍🩹

[saylorc]

I dated someone with these exact red flags in high school. It started out sorta nice, but it quickly became an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship – almost physically. I was miserable and stayed with them for almost a year because I thought I could help them. I’m a bit of a people pleaser and an empath which isn’t always the best like in these situations… But I knew it was time to get out of that relationship for a while and surprisingly, in the end, it was a mutual agreement.

[AndresD.deLeon]

Damn, so because i never get love or affection, and I tend to be happy enough to express my love when someone finally cares about me (like a neglected puppy gets overly excited when it's finally treated right), then it's a red flag? Jeez, I'll just stay in the corner then

[Tilnaor]

2 of this 3 are just symptoms of ADHD. No wonder I never find anyone.

[jarmoliebrand]

I’ve never been in a romantic relationship before, but the first one… I tend to cherish relationships I’ve had for a long time. I also need some time to open up and reveal the real me: my hobbies, interests, beliefs. I’m quite aloof most of the time and I really don’t approach people myself. I’m either nudged or people approach me. I expect a potential partner to work the same.

[ultimatedude]

I accidentally love bomb because I've been alone so long I kinda rush stuff

[Theatre-Camp]

I was in this kind of relationship a couple of weeks ago. Thank God I got out of there when I did.

[thedeff]

Let's not get carried away in labeling everything as abuse or as a sign of an abuser. Not all character flaws are signs of abuse/abusers, they can simply be things that a person has an opportunity to work on, and a relationship provides that opportunity. Yes, they are things your partner should take into consideration when dating, but they should evaluate if it's something that can be worked through together, and not just simply take it as a deal breaker or simply as a sign of something much worse than what it really is. NONE OF US ARE PERFECT, AND WE SHOULD NOT EXPECT EITHER OF US TO BE.
Stop normalizing victim mentality and abuse labeling! These need to be used for when they truly are relevant!

[JJShalashaska]

I've been love bombed by a "friend" and I eventually get attached to that "love" and in memory of that I forgave every little bad thing she did after that stage, like discarding and ghosting.
Took me.10 years to wake up and realize that person had never been sincere to me and had always only used me to fill her personal voids only when she needed, infact she always became so aggressive if I "dared" to stand for MY emotional needs (after the initial love bombing stage).
Usually she disappeared for 2/3 months everytime, and when I was starting to heal she always came back with messages like "hello my love".
But now I've spotted her narcissism