What Your Ex Is THINKING During No Contact | Coach Ken

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During the no contact period, it's natural to wonder what your ex is feeling and thinking. In this video by Coach Ken, it is explained that in the beginning, your ex may feel a sense of relief since the breakup was something they had been inching towards for weeks or months. Though this relief/even excitement, does not mean that they aren't hurt or mourning the loss of the relationship. This initial stage can last from one to several weeks, especially depending on if they've found a rebound or someone else to reinforce the breakup. Following that, your ex may become curious/questioning stage since you haven't been reaching out or contacting them which gives the first sense of loss. Coach Ken discusses other stages and thoughts that your ex might experience during no contact in the video, so it's recommended to watch it all the way through. The goal of no contact is for your ex to feel the consequences of the breakup by missing you and fearing that you might move on, leading them to reach out to you. It will likely feel impossible or hopeless at multiple times along the way but No Contact works many times when it feels like nothing will.

[gloriatucker]

No contact! We both deserve it. I deserve my self respect, and he deserve my absence. Have a good life!

[baberkhan]

If they're in another relationship, you start respecting yourself and move on for good.

[slavenpladou]

Hit the gym. Become better mentally and physically. Let them have their fun with their new side piece but NEVER take them back. This isn’t a game it’s meant to be love. Someone that loves you implicitly and not leave and hop into bed with someone straight away. Let them have their fun, get better and grab your popcorn and watch them burn. Never go back!

[gloriatucker]

No contact! I love it. Consequence of breaking up with me is not having me. I loved him with all my heart. Now he gets nothing.

[peytonrodriguez]

“Look at the hurt as evidence you feel things on an authentic level”…Wow, that shit hit on a different level coach.

[Lukegal]

This is exactly whats happening! We're separated and he's super motivated and excited about his new life. He's telling people he's changed, transformed. I'm just waiting for this new stage of life to get boring or unsustainable and he's gonna revert back to his authentic selfish self.

[amandaborn]

Yea a rebound relationship is pure BS. Doesn't last. When they should be healing and working on themselves they are just transferring their shit to another person. Definition of selfish

[SpyOnDeck]

"sometimes they don't come back" 💔 definitely didn't want to hear that, but I needed to hear that

[videowilliams]

"Embrace the hurt" (6:35) reminds me of the scene in "Platoon" where the battle-hardened Sergeant claps a hand over a wounded soldier's mouth to muffle his screams, growling "Take the pain. Take the pain." And you just know that Sergeant's been there. These are very motivating videos!

[rawman]

Thank you for this video Coach. It's been 3 and a half months of NC for me. Since then I've been slowly building my value back up. Got a new car and started a new job this week. And more importantly I'm getting to a point where I start to think about her less frequently and am moving on with my life. If she does reach out, cool. But if not, I will be ok.

[COVENANT_ENFORCER]

I met up with my LDR ex in February. Before we left I asked her if she wanted to try again… she said we’ll talk. I tried to get her on the phone for several days with her ducking. Eventually she ghosted me. Been in no contact for 30 days, yesterday she changed her profile picture to an old gift I sent her. I didn’t fall for the bait.. next day, I’m blocked on IG. I’m getting under her skin. Getting my power back

[LRSB]

Commenting for no other reason than to support this gentleman and this channel ❤

[_IslaNearly]

The longer I listen to you, the more I think that its not worth it to take the dumper back. This is the motivation I need. Reassuring dumpee’s worths, reassuring that there’s something we did right for ourselves.

[leeruiz]

Coach Ken,
Your dead on… it will be hard at first, but eventually it gets better. Self-respect is the most important thing

[ScorpQn]

You have such an amazing way to communicate human behaviors during breakups.

[adamoart]

Trust in this video! It's 1, 000% accurate. My ex, after us being separated for a very long time, still tries to pursue me, still stries to interact with me, still continues to look for ways to grab my attention. And they are in a whole other relationship. It's funny how the person who was left, ultimately, becomes the most desired one in the end

[cynthiadesimone]

Thank you for the advice on this video. Iearned that my ex-boyfriend broke up with me because he has Fearful Avoidant Attachment!
If he comes back, it could happen again, so I sincerely doubt I'd believe his intentions. GOD'S GOT THIS so I'll be in a new relationship with a "man" who deserves me! I know what I bring to the table and I'm not afraid to eat alone 👍💪💪

[Snout]

"was I an anchor in her life..." damn dude, you used your words like a katana to slice so accurately. So many relevant thoughts from you. Thanks for sharing them in the video. I found them helpful.

[gwenmoore]

You are 1 in a million. Never heard it told with such authenticity. You are smmoth, sincere, transparent, wise, and let me dtop because the lust gies on. Just know, this really spoke to me. I feel as if you know the narcissist I know. I didn't feel pain listening to you tjis, just assurance that I'm healing the way I need to. Thank you, sir!

[musicinme]

The new rebound excitement always wears out.