Going through a divorce? Watch this and don’t look back.

I got a divorce after 18 years of marriage and to be honest, it was brutal. I grieved for the loss of my marriage and for my family unit of 4. There were moments when I wasn't sure I would ever be happy again. But somewhere along the way, I realized that divorce gave me a clean slate, and a chance to live my life in a completely different way. That's when my transformation began. If you or someone you know is going through divorce, I hope this helps you. xo - Jen

00:00 Introduction
00:40 #1 Stop giving your ex oxygen
04:02 # 2 Just focus on the NEXT step
07:03 #3 Find your community
09:01 #4 Set a BIG goal for yourself
10:42 #5 Find ways to live your life differently
12:23 #6 Keep moving through open doors
15:14 Takeaway & Thanks
15:44 BONUS trail footage

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[debbie]

I divorced after 40 years (not my choice). I love my new life. God has blessed me beyond measure. I'm so content and have so much peace. Making wonderful memories with my beautiful grandbabies and reconnected with old friends. Praise Jesus🙏

[mollyo]

You inspire me! So well done!
32 yr marriage just ended. Almost 60 and open to what unfolds. Stay strong and adventurous!

[suzannemink]

Amen, Sister. You can’t move forward until you stop talking about the past.

[cheesewoman]

I am going through a divorce with a guy I was with for 17 years (since I was 17 years old). No matter how much I hear people say to move forward and not look back, it's so hard when we are still good friends, we just want to go in completely different directions in life. I appreciate this encouragement though. I'm moving into my own place next week, and I'm so scared, I've never lived on my own as an adult. Let's hope I find my people, and my new life is a success ❤

[wondersandwilderness]

Thank you for this marriage is ending after 24 years... Men hurt too when these things happen, and they're scared and sad and all those feelings. This video is universal... Thank you for this.

[debkibler]

Im just beginning the end of my almost 17 year marriage and I wanted to thank you for sharing your journey. At age 55 I have a lot of healing to do and I cant do it in the situation I am in. I have given my all but I am so tired of putting energy into something that doesn't support where I need to be today. I knew after watching your video I could make a new life for myself I just need to take it a day at a time and not look back...afterall I am not going in that direction. Again I thank you for sharing it woke my spirit up and I am one day closer to the life I deserve to live.

[theskiesthelimit-qk]

OMG! I am not going through a divorce, but man, did this video do it for me! You gave a lot of good tips for doing your best during any life transformation. Thank you :)

[karmelhutfles]

I've been married twice, and had an 8 year relationship afterwards. I've been happily single for 15 years and I love my life ❤! Of course there are struggles, but there are struggles either way. I have awesome twin sons who are very, very helpful to me too ❤❤❤.

[fire_flying]

This was a great video! I’m 53 and divorced in 2022 after 32 years of marriage. I am also planning on tiny house living (found my perfect builder, now just looking for the right location!) and your journey has been a wonderful guide for me. The Chris Martin quote was my favorite. ❤️

[missylearned]

You look amazing for 52! People with that certain little light in them age slowly even with adversity in their history. Thanks for sharing and inspiring!

[txspacemom]

After 20 years, I left. I refused to drag anything negative with me- whether my exes issues or mine, material stuff, ideas, thoughts, friendships and commitments I did not want anymore. I made my absolutes for my everyday. 1. Move my body in some way shape or form 2. Do something that moves me towards my work/career goals- my dream job is within grasp!!! 3. Do something creative- I am currently water color painting- even if I only have 10 minutes- usually when I get into it, it becomes longer. 4. Schedule appointments for myself and keep them- even if something else comes up. I get a massage 1x a month and pedicures 2x a month, I also meet my therapist 2x a month. I schedule out 3 months ahead. I keep my appointments for my health and sanity. I had to let go of a LOT to get where I am but I am loving life and myself even more now. This included some "friendships" that I no longer could allow in my life- just a difference of opinions, being negative or slights towards my choices- I cannot allow anything in my life that is going to hurt me.

[tsm]

This video popped up on my feed. After watching it I went back and watched the other videos. I think you are an absolute natural for making YouTube content. I LOVED each of them and have subscribed. Thankyou and I look forward to seeing your next one. Best wishes to you from Vancouver Canada 🇨🇦

[mariannewarren]

Thanks Jen for this video and your insight! The end of my 24 year marriage was finalized today. I'm working on a few things you mentioned, such as reaching out to community. I'm on the cusp of restarting working toward a big professional goal, that I put off due to the nitty gritty of divorcing. Feeling so ready to make big goals and slow steady changes. Your story is inspiring!

[medievalwolfgrrl]

This was wonderful. I've been divorced for quite awhile now but, this would have helped me when I was going through it. You have great insight and a gift for sharing that with others. Thank you for that- there is so much negativity in the world, its always great to see someone out there sharing good with others. 💛

[PNWmorganite]

Loved it! I left a harmful marriage in 2019 with 2 small kids. It was like getting out of the eye of a hurricane and one of the best decisions I’ve made. I know I did all I could to make it work so no regrets or guilt.

[PhyllisAnderson]

What a beautiful story of survival and growing. You go girl!

[franciscoalsina]

Thank you for sharing. My 23 year marriage ended last year. It was brutal but I choose now not to be bitter.

[ManWander]

i so appreciate your telling your story - it is very inspirational! And those videos of the trails you run were so beautiful!!

[a.phillips]

So glad I found your channel. I’m not facing divorce, but a huge loss that has been looming in the background for a while. It’s very scary. When this occurs, I feel like I will need to make a 180* turn in my life, which includes moving by myself, with no support group. Don’t know how I’ll get through it.

[charmin]

Really good reminder to have your own friends, hobbies outside of kids and spouse, and he’s, thy self-care practices.