AITA for Telling My Parents They Became Liars the Second They Started Fostering Their Adopted...

[Garoslol]

So the parents are supporting bullying by adopting her in a sense.

[Mia-dtgl]

That paycheck from the state must have been hefty.

[eveesix]

They adopted the person they knew was bullying their jid and lied to people saying OP was ok with it. Then got mad when surprise surprise, the bully continued to be a bully, and OP told people the truth about never being ok with the adoption.

[lylahamer]

I understand that foster kids have trauma but those parents are a$$holes

[bikokch]

I don’t care if she’s a bully or not. If a kid had issues with my kid at school which ended up calling me to the school. There’s no way I would adopt her because it showed a sign that they don’t get alone.

[galpickney]

Why is life always like this? The one kid you can't get along with or who bullied you is the one your parents pick to help out of thousands of needy kids. The one girl you tell your boyfriend to look out for because she has a thing for him, he goes and has an affair with after saying he wouldn't give her the time of day. The single neighbor who just moves in and wants to make friends so you befriend him and then starts flirting with your wife. It goes on and on and on. The universe has a terrible sense of humor. 😢

[mainegardenguy]

More parents need to realize that their kids often don't agree with their decisions and it will affect all future interactions. The easiest thing to do is ghost family.

[neya]

My parents fostered children starting when I was 15 and my sister was 12. The one time we always had was that all acceptance of placements was contingent on an emergency family meeting where we discussed the details we knew. If anyone said no, it was a no, no questions asked. That helped my sister and I feel included, instead of feeling like we weren't good enough or being replaced. It's important with something this big to listen to your kids.

[bladesthehedgehog]

You are not the they are the assholes for never considering their biological daughter's feelings they are the for putting you in that situation to begin with they knew the situation yet decided to put you in that situation making it worse for you I suggest getting your grandparents to take full custody of you from your parents because they do not deserve to be parents at all if they put s*** like that first only adopt to make themselves look good

[nocturnalSlytherin]

So OP's parents are mad that she told the truth and now people think they are terrible parents? Well, I hate to break it to them, but when you have children and foster, it's kind of important to have their cooperation and approval of the placement - especially if adoption is an option. The fact that both of their children hated the adopted daughter from the start should have been enough for them to ask for her to be placed somewhere else. That plus the fact that they knew she was bullying their daughter, they lied about how she "wanted to help her, " had her move out, and then got mad when she said differently makes them terrible parents and terrible people. NTA

[Schmist]

That's like telling someone who shot you before, to get closer to you so they can stab you in the head. Like wtf

[Random-Saurus]

Wow just wow, why would they foster let alone adopt her. She's already getting bullied in school, so her home is her safe place and then the "parents" foster and adopt the bully so even her safe space is invaded by her bully... unbelievable

[scottibrown]

Don’t social workers usually make sure to get in touch with foster parents especially if there are other kids in the house? Because I’ve always heard that social workers make sure the whole family is in agreement before a child is placed

[diamond_dagger]

That's just wrong on so many levels