I do... but does God? // Quaker Weddings [CC]

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[KellseyAlexHipo]

Not gonna lie, the title reminded me instantly of that one vine:
“You may be verified on Twitter... but are you verified, in the eyes of god?”

[hmagellanlinux]

The pre-marriage "are you sure you've thought of everything?" community meeting sounds like a remarkably good idea

[edenl.]

Can we get a video with Claudia about her thoughts on Quakerism?

[Michelala]

Quaker wedding certificates are really cool. In my day job (Quaker archivist in Canada) I have about a dozen certificates from the late 1700s-early 1800s and three of them had so many people in attendance that they had to start signing their names between lines of text in miniscule writing, and right around the edges, and some even curving around other signatures. It's an utter mess of a document to transcribe, but really lovely to see how many people loved the couple.

[laidikirsta]

I'm an atheist and very critical to ALL religions, mainly because of the political/humanitarian implications they have regarding equality, human rights, discrimination/persecution because of race, gender, sexual orientation, beliefs, etc etc. But your Quakerism is one of the few descriptions of religious practice I've heard that kind of ... makes sense. With or without a god of some kind, the thought of "everyone is equal, be kind, and do the best you can because that's the right thing to do", is how I try to live my life and how I think everyone should act. Thank you, Jessica, for teaching me more about this.

[EmmaWickman]

In Sweden we have the same beautiful tradition of the couple walking in together as they are equal but unfortunately because of American tv people are choosing to be handed over from their father to the husband now. It’s crazy that people don’t understand how beautiful it is to have a equal wedding :(

[beafbuger]

quakers are kind even if it breaks the law

[joshuazane]

Honestly, any God that would have a problem with two adults being in a loving relationship and making each other happy isn't a God I'm willing to worship.

[lexijamie]

I don't know why but I find your voice very soothing and relaxing 😊😍😴

[vivsgm]

Well, you made me realize how little I know about religion.
Identifying as Queer myself, I just drifted far far apart from judgemental people, and ended up boxing a lot of religions away.
Now listening to you talk about your religion is an eye opening thing for me. Thank you Jessica. Your channel is full of awesome and beautiful content, and that I have Stevie Boebi to thank for introducing you to my world.

[katastrophic]

every one of your quaker videos I sit there thinking 'i didn't know it was possible to have a religion this good', just such pure ideas of equality and free expression. would love to hear more about quaker history things!

[AstroVee]

My only experience with Quakerism is my grandparents, who are extremely homophobic, so it is really awesome to have it explained a little more in depth and by a fellow rainbow coloured person (as you so wonderfully called it!). Thank you for all the awesome information! :)

[yeracontra]

This video made me read up on Quakerism in New Zealand (i'm a kiwi!!) and it sounds so cool. The NZ Friends really care about social justice issues. They have a lot of information on their site about prison reforms and also the Treaty of Waitangi (The NZ treaty about indigenous rights) which is awesome.

This is their statement on gay relationships "Love has many shapes and colours and is not finite. It cannot be measured or defined in terms of sexual orientation. In Quaker practice we believe that we all are equally called to ministry, through our worship, our daily lives, our service to others and in the activities and celebrations of our meeting. Lesbian and gay Friends have played and will continue to play a significant part in Quaker life, thought and ministry both locally and nationally."

I'm an atheist but if I were religious I feel like this would be the religion closest to my values.

[jessicaoutofthecloset]

Thank you for watching! Let me know what topic you would like me to cover next...

[MikeEvansUK]

Funny old bunch the Quakers, aren't we? Well done for treating our differences with such humour and insight. I've been a Friend since 1987 and with my husband since 1991. We didn't have a Quaker marriage but we have been lovingly accepted by just about everyone in every meeting we've been to. I'm also pleased to report that I occasionally attended Meeting for Worship in Dallas (Deep in the heart of Texas - and the bible belt - unprogrammed) when on business trips and no one there even batted an eyelid when I mentioned my husband.

[Pumpion]

"The longest a Quaker marriage has gone on is 69 hours"
Me: nice
"And that was in 1969"
Me: NICE

[holly]

I’m atheist, even though I go to a catholic school, but for some reason I love to watch you talk about your religion. Your voice is so relaxing and you look so beautiful.

[RGrace-slko]

Your lipstick is so sassy and gorgeous! Watching your videos on Quakerism has opened my eyes, I had no idea about this religion (is that the right word?) beyond the name. It sounds like a very accepting and loving thing. So wholesome. That said, is there another side of the coin? Have you ever struggled with aspects of being a Quaker?

[wickedest-witch]

How does divorce work/is divorce received within Quakerism? I know you said Quakers generally viewed marriage as a life long commitment, but there's lots of different possible situations that could happen. I come from a (mostly atheist/scandi Lutheran) family super full of divorce so I get curious about how other groups receive it haha :)

[HiKatieB]

My husband and I had a Quaker wedding. The clearness committee process was terrifying. The people were lovely, but goodness, it was nerve-wracking. After that, somebody dropped the ball, and a committee to help us with the rest of the planning/implementation was not formed until 4 days before the wedding. That was great. Our wedding was amazing. A small cousin brought us a picture she colored half way through, our family and friends said the best things, and it ended with my 2 year old nephew coming and sitting on the bench with us. (Side note, my Meeting has a special marriage bench that we cart into the meeting room for weddings and its design is based on a headboard.) We didn't exchange rings, we just wore them to the wedding. In the U.S. the declarations are not standard, the couple can choose what to say, but we pretty much went with what you read out.