BIGGEST Dating Problems: Why 80% Of People CAN'T FIND LOVE! | Stephan Speaks

Stephan Speaks — also known by his given name, Stephan Labossiere — is a certified relationship coach, speaker, and author. From understanding the opposite sex to navigating the paths and avoiding the pitfalls of relationships and self-growth, Stephan’s relationship advice and insight help countless individuals achieve an authentically amazing life.

Dedicated to helping and devoted to keeping it real, Stephan’s straightforward yet compassionate delivery style attracts a varied clientele, including notable celebrities, civic and social organizations, academic institutions, singles, and couples alike, who can and are ready to handle the truth!

Stephan has been seen, heard, and chronicled in national and international media outlets, including the Tom Joyner Morning Show, The Examiner, ABC, and Huffington Post Live, to name a few. To coin a phrase by an individual who attended one of his speaking engagements, “He’s definitely the relationship guy, all relationships, all the time.”With an international following of singles and couples alike, the name Stephan Labossiere is synonymous with breaking down relationship barriers, pushing past common facades, and exposing the truth. It is this understanding of REAL relationships that he brings to everyone he encounters.

He’s got some great books out there, and after listening to this podcast episode with Stephan Labossiere, you’re going to want to hear more of his stuff. His most recent publications are Find Love After Heartbreak, He Who Finds a Wife, and The Man God Has for You, and they all teach you about how to create healthy relationships with the right people. You can also listen to Episode #703 and Episode #994 to hear more of Steven’s wisdom!

He also has a new coaching program: “How to Manifest the Life & Man God Has for You.” Ladies, I’m speaking to you here — if you are looking for the right man, you definitely want to check out Stephan’s coaching program! He’s a relationship genius and genuinely kind guy, and I know his advice will help you manifest the relationship you’ve been dreaming of.

Our interview was so interesting that I had to split it up into two parts, so check back on Wednesday for the second half! But for now, if you’re ready to learn the SECRETS to true love and connection, join me on Episode 1,114 with Stephan Speaks!
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[transformwithlev]

Disagreement is fine, disrespect isn’t. 💯

[ARC.benedict-samson]

We build a marriage on our feeling instead of our commitment
There’s nothing wrong with feelings. They’re an important part of life, but they were never intended to be our compass or our foundation because feelings are fickle. Marriage is far too important to be based on feelings. Instead, we need to build marriage upon our commitments even on those days when we’re not feeling it. Our modern world worships feelings and is quick to quit on marriage the moment the feelings change, but the strongest couples have learned that marriage requires choosing to love each other even on those days when you struggle to like each other.

[xDENO]

"Disagreement is acceptable, disrespect is not." Thank you sir.

[carlostommybaggs]

As a man: The communication difficulties with women come from the lack of accountability, the abuse, refusal to answer simple questions, the derision, the evasion, the aggression, the irrationality, the attacks on masculinity, the gas lighting, the distrust, the attempts to escalate the situation into a huge fight to avoid dealing with the issue, the corrosive attitude, the emotional and sexual manipulation, the personal disrespect, the subject changes, the deflection, the projection, the victimhood, the dragging up of old issues, the character based attacks, the fact that she can call in the police to fight her battle for her, the shaming, the taunting, the blaming, the knowledge that everyone else will take her side, the refusal the accept responsibility, the convenient tears, the tone policing, the word policing, the thought policing, and her absolute refusal to accept that she is wrong.
There is also the fact that she will walk away with none of the blame for her own actions, blame that she is fully aware automatically passes to you by default.
This is why a man must stay focused and on his square, as well as be ready to walk away without being a dick.

[DarkFinanx]

it all begins in the homes, we need to have a family structure again as a culture. I write off this generation lets make it better for the next.

[MimiMoments]

Omg my husband and I had 14 hour road trip and it was so good. I loved having his undivided attention. We came to some resolutions, solidified some plans, shared random childhood stories, and listened to music. So good. Yup definitely connected. I tried my best not to talk his ear off 🤣

[bellakim]

I have learned there is one way to maintain a relationship long term, & that is to, Allow people to be who they are. Do not try & change people. Accept all their perceived flaw and all. Do not correct people, yet allow them to conform to your standards through your positive examples & behavior. Speak up eloquently with absolute control when your boundaries are crossed and make your words firm, then move forward to better conversation. Do not dwell on the negative. We're all works in progress. People can not control other people. Respect is essential. Allow people to be individuals and let love grow.

[moshpit]

Social Media addiction (I'm def guilty) is possibly the top reason men and women in 20's and 30's have hard time dating and relationships. Instagram distorts reality when looking at perfect bodies and models all day for both sexes. The simplest concept is can't love someone else when you don't love yourself.

[tumieboy_rsa]

This was actually therapy for me, related to a lot of things.
been with girls/women conditionally, been in a relationship half-heartedly, been asked why was i so nice and that made me want to change myself to being bad since i heard or read that girls/women like bad guys than guys so i felt offended for being called a nice guy even when i was...

NICE GUYS, EMBRACE BEING NICE, THE PROBLEMS IS WITH THEIR PAST RELATIONSHIPS NOT US!

[alphafiveone]

So why is it men always have to come meet women at their level of feelings and women aren’t asked to meet men at their level of logic when things are going sideways In communication?

[DiaAkin]

I'm sorry, but I can't ignore facts, logic, and evidence to cater to one's "feelings." Discomfort exists. Even for us as men. And we can't allow women to warp reality whenever the truth makes them uncomfortable.

I'm fully capable of listening to her expressions. But I'll NEVER agree just to appease her emotions when she's CLEARLY in the wrong. Because when I'M wrong, I will also acknowledge that and apologize. Even if doing so makes me uncomfortable.

[Raccon_Detective.]

12:38 Timing

26:59 People struggle to maintain monogamy

29:37 Definition of chemistry connection and compatibility

46:15 How long does it take to get healed

47:21 The who hurt me list

01:02:12 Difference between disagreeing and arguing

01:04:12 Forgiveness

01:14:00 Be your authentic self

01:15:35 Be very honest and transparent

[sonicd]

1:46:50-1:49:00 was golden: "Expectation kills appreciation."

And, the examples given about partners willing to fulfill desires and/or meet standards were on point. If you have to do it, people won't appreciate it, but doing what people want should be a choice and it gives better
dividends in the end. Such a great segment!

[xDENO]

"It wasn't even about you, they just took it out on you." So healing to understand.

[Nikita_]

This is spot on. This man has a good insight on how women are and the dynamics between men and women. I wished everyone could listen to this video....it would help greatly. Thank you, Stephan. I appreciate your work.

[xincindyxu]

Best relationship coach ever! I'm 58 and divorced twice. I met my soulmate and he is my co-worker. 100% agree with Stephan, connection is a must for a happy relationship. True love flows between two people! First time ever, I am myself. He also makes me a better person. I can honestly say: I am truly happy!!!! I'm listening to Stephan a lot. Watched his videos over and over. Because I want our relationship to last for life. I wish all young people listen to Stephan and make right choices in their life.

[actuallybusiness]

*If you get tired learn to rest, not to quit!*

[brittletip]

I agree with everything he says and live by it, and I've been happily married for 40 years.

[atomicrage]

This guy is amazing, I've been watching videos this past week discovering these "red pill" channels and have re opened my eyes on the disparity in the dating world. Been having this built up frustration of seeing ppl addressing these issues in more aggressive or "clickbaity" ways. 10 mins into listening to this Stephen guy and that temper has calmed significantly. This guy is an amazing speaker, I was really starting to believe that there's no one out there who has the same lvl of understanding, I'm really glad I came across this

[victoriousayesha]

When he touched on how people need to correct how they speak to their partner, I heard a soft spot hit. 😔

We don’t deserve verbal abuse, it worst then physical. And I saw how that was personal.. 💝💝💝

Speechless at the sight of that vulnerability... Makes me just want to cuddle him as the Holy Spirit does me.