r/AITA for Getting My Mother-in-Law Arrested?

0:00 Intro
0:06 Flower girl
4:26 Helping family
7:49 Play relationship
11:05 Calling the cops
14:00 Refusing to help
15:10 Gross coworker

[wilhelmmamma]

Her offer to carry her own daughter down proves she wants to be the flower girl as a grown ass adult and is using her child as an excuse.

[wargamesmaster]

At 7 I already confessed my love to 3 different girls and gave a valentine card to a nun I liked, a kid can't possibly be serious with this type of things. The husband is insane.

[DestinyObake]

As someone from a religious community it pisses me off when people think it’s okay to judge others “sins” just because they’re Christians. As if half those people hadn’t had affairs, considering their reactions. Just- ugh. She’s right to lose faith in that church, no one even bothered to help her. Ditch them all, girl, your brother is the only mvp here.

[smorphous]

4th story: It’s not rare for a baby to look different from his/her parents, it’s actually quite common but what isn’t common is how everyone attacked Op as soon as they saw the child, they didn’t do any DNA test, they just automatically accused Op of cheating, good thing Op walked out of that relationship.

[cmhsky]

I think r/’s vacation did wonders for him. Even when he's talking about someone being the A you can hear the smile in his voice. Gotta remember to take time for yourself bro

[RobPryme]

1st story: not the bad guy. OP and her fiance are forming a new family, and that's where her priority lies now.

[sammythecat]

I was a flower girl at a wedding when i was two. I remember nothing about it, but i look super pissed off in the photos because i was tired. OP in story 1 should definitely stand her ground.

[Richard_Nickerson]

If you don't treat someone like family, then you can't use the "but we're family" line. Period.
Sick of these hypocritical a-holes thinking they can treat family however they want, but expect everything in return.

[nate]

I got married a few months ago, and our flower girl is our 2-year-old niece. We didn't expect much from her cause you know, she's 2. We asked her mom to carry her. When the ceremony came, the flower girl was passed out. It was super adorable and funny, but I can understand why OP from the first story wouldn't want a 2 year old in that position.

[YinYangAngel]

Story 4: not being threatening?
They forced their way into your home and would not leave. Short of swinging a frying pan what else was she supposed to do?

[FishAnvil]

Imagine getting a step mom and the first thing she does to celebrate is break a promise she made to you. Talk about a bad taste. Good on OP for sticking up for her step-daughter!

Also I can clearly imagine the niece growing up either to be an entitled narcissist or be forced to give up her childhood because her parents want to live vicariously through her.

[Caffeinatedwife]

Being a flower girl at 6 in your father's wedding would mean so much more to a little girl than a 2 year old.
I was a flower girl for my mom's cousin at 5 because they're like sisters (I've called her Aunt Wendy my whole life) and I was over the moon about that. I remember crying when I outgrew my flower girl dress.

[danielbrant]

*4th Story:* Can we just take a moment to realize that OP said that her brother was the _only_ person who was supportive to her? Does that mean even _OP's parents_ initially accused their own daughter of infidelity without proof? Good lord, OP's own family (barring "Alex") are just as awful!

[erinclark]

The dad in the 3rd story instantly gave me the creeps. Yes, talk to her about hurting feelings, but that he's thinking she's raising a "cheater" feels like some weird projection.

[kimhohlmayer]

7 year old girl “cheating” on her boyfriend was hilarious. It was a teachable moment as you said, Dabney. If she were 17, I would talk to her about her honesty/lack there of. I would finish with the quote from a friend’s mom, “If you burn your butt, you have to sit on the blisters.” Good advice in the 1970s and still good advice today. Consequences over judging children.

[yabe-kfptentacultist]

Story 2:
OP's mum and step dad: punishes OP for not calling the step dad "Dad"
OP: moves out at 18 and refuses to help step dad
OP's mum and step dad (and other relatives ignorant to the abuse OP went through): surprised Pikachu face

NTA

[impishrebel]

I've heard story 1 before and every time it gives off the same "BOW DOWN AND WORSHIP THE MIRACLE CHILD!!!!" and I'm half convinced that's really what the parents want.

[DefiantHeart]

I have a two year old in my house. He's the sweetest, silliest little guy I've ever known, but walking calmly down the aisle at a wedding is definitely in the bottom ten of his best skills. Running down it while singing loudly? He's your man.

[itscrystaleyes]

What's really alarming about Story 1 is that if the SIL and Brother are already acting this entitled to their child being the center of attention at all times, what's going to happen if OP has her own kid after marriage? I see many, many more family arguments to come once there's a younger baby at events.

[annawestall]

Mom of a 20 year old here. I have ALWAYS stayed out of her love life. Just give her a shoulder to cry on and a soft place to land when needed. I did give her one piece of advice when she started dating:

Going back to an ex (when issues have not been fixed) is like going to fridge, seeing the milk is turning sour, putting it back, then trying the same milk 2 weeks later thinking it will be better.😂 My dad shared it with me, and I shared it with her. Both of us had to learn it for ourselves.