7 Things You Must Know When Breaking Up With The Narcissist

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You know you are dealing with a narcissist, you intend to break up and end the formal relationship, there are many things you need to know and HG Tudor explains seven fundamental things you need to know.

[blessedmum]

I was with my ex narcissist for 9 years. I was once a kind, soft, empathetic, trusting and very happy person. I am no longer the OUT!

[aliceinwonderland]

Women hesitate leaving because they hope that they can talk sense to the narcissist and come to a mutual separation. This isn’t going to happen. Regardless of how much you try to act civilised, you WILL be smeared, blamed, you will lose friends, colleagues, reputation, money, family members, career and any other precious possessions. This is inevitable and can not be avoided. So, get out as soon as you can, understand that it has nothing to do with you and count your blessings that you’re still alive and sane.

[LettyABC]

Empaths listen up ... Use your logic over emotions.. think about all the bad times.. never the good ones.. block.. delete .. walk away and never look back 😉 Piece of mind is priceless..💯

[yellosunshine]

You can’t break up with someone you were never with

[chestnutrose]

My exit was heaven sent. I had company over for dinner. The narcissist and I got into an argument and he decides to pack up his belongings and "leave". He left the house key and stormed out of the house thinking that I would chase after him. When he left, I slammed the door and double bolted the locks. He left without giving me a 30 day notice. Residence is terminated and I haven't looked back! It was perfect!!

[karishort]

Once you detach emotionally it is easier to leave them in the dust!

[LilithLiberated]

I genuinely try to classify known narcissists as non human in my mind.

[lucyroth]

I will NEVER explain myself to ANYONE who has abused me or has attempted to EVER AGAIN! For that matter, healthy people don't have explain themselves to other healthy people anyway, so there is no longer an issue. "Once you know YOU GO! " "You get out, and you STAY OUT!" 7 years of LIBERTAD Y FREEEDOM from ALL TOXIC people formerly in every corner of my life, and counting! Muchas gracias HG Tudor!

[crimeuncovered-silkekaiser]

So correct. He came home and I was gone. Moved out without saying a word. My rock bottom? He threatened to head butt me. No man will threaten me with violence and still get to have any part of me. Yes. I cried so much that I damaged the skin under my eyes. I ask myself now - what was I crying about. Truly- he had nothing to offer me apart from harsh words, criticism and rage, rage and more rage.

[thebestboss]

These people truly believe you belong to them. They own you. Forever. And it's not an exaggeration

[Bintang]

No contact for 2 years and still...he sends presents, phones me non stop. His number is blocked so it doesn't ring and I realise days after. I haven't replied for almost 2years and I still get hoovered constantly. Never once replied. Never going back

[rhondawalker]

Absolutely! I took your advice and he was served divorce papers on Christmas Eve Day! Best kept secret ever! After all, he ruined every holiday and special occasion for 11 stinking years. He didn't leave my house or even acknowledge the divorce decree. So, we proceeded without him and the Judge signed the divorce decree. Still he refused to move out. So, he was served with a 10 day eviction notice! He was forced to leave on Friday the 13th of March 2020! I'm free and I'm so happy! Thank you HG!
Talk about a mooch and a parasite!
😉 Do everything through a lawyer! Very good advice!

[uyoebyik]

I wish I'd known all this years ago

[kali]

When I left the narcissist I was dealing with (for 14 years cuz we knew each other since highschool) he went to a therapist and complained about me, and the therapist told him I'm "obviously a narcissist" and that I had damaged and abused him.
So be careful y'all. Therapists will tell you anything if you pay them

[markyanes]

I wish my girlfriend (now my wife) would have had this list when she left her narcissistic ex. She was like a junkie trying to kick a nasty habit. It took her about six months to get clear of the hoovers and go no contact. Thanks to your posts she got out the relationship. I’m very grateful.

[tracyross]

As soon as you see the "Slightest" out....No contact with THESE "Little boys", is the ONLY WAY to be Free of THEIR Childish SORRY for your loss💔🙏🙏🙏🙏

[lisi]

GOSO. Make a list of the horrible things they’ve done and post on the wall as a reminder. Do this so that cognitive dissonance doesn’t have you focusing on the “good times...” nothing was real, it wasn’t truly or authentically good.

[joannemcevoy]

I experienced escalated abuse last year with the narc at the outset of the pandemic before going into lockdown. He left after there was a huge argument. I had it. I came to my senses and realized it was time to end the 4 years of horror. I did it by text message because he was several hours drive away and couldn't come back to hurt me. The narc tried to control me by issuing a series of threats by text and phone call. I held my ground.Then lockdown happened and then he couldn't come back until over a month later to collect some of his stuff with the police.

[mindyourplants]

I'm so glad my narc was a broke ass traumatised and government dependant man/child and that it was easy to walk away, albeit with all the typical narc attacks, didn't care though, I was done... it still took me 9 months to realise it (2 years ltr then 9 months living together so almost 3 yrs). Never knew what gaslighting in relationships was even in my 40's now and i seriously did some major growing up in the last 3 months since leaving him. I consider being in a relationship with him a pivotal point in my life, it was so traumatising and was such a huge wake up call that I learned self love and personal awakening from it. I love life now.

[eloiseclark]

I got out before the physical abuse started . I learn first the verbal abuse starts the comes physical abuse starts