Men don't want a challenge: his life is hard enough

Many women believe that a man will not respect them -- or consider them for a long-term relationship -- if she is too "easy" in the courtship process. This is not true. When it comes to their relationships, men don't want a challenge. This is because -- when it comes to the average man -- his life is hard enough. While men might need a chase, they are not looking for a woman to complicate their lives. When women appreciate this, their dating lives improve.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[psychacks]

Many women believe that a man will not respect them -- or consider them for a long-term relationship -- if she is too "easy" in the courtship process. This is not true. When it comes to their relationships, men don't want a challenge. This is because -- when it comes to the average man -- his life is hard enough. While men might need a chase, they are not looking for a woman to complicate their lives.


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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #dating #women

[Spuddleme]

I encourage all men to learn how to say no. The sooner, the better.

[shojwiebelhaus]

There is also the fact that men know that certain men don't get challenged because women are hyper attracted to them and won't mess up their chance with him. When a woman makes herself a challenge for you she's saying "you need to prove your worth it"

[jdtransformation]

THANK YOU! I really needed these little acknowledgment about my life this morning, namely: (1) “Most men’s lives are too fucking challenging already.”, and (2) “When men are suffering no one gives a shit.” I recently ended an 11yr relationship with a woman I loved due to years of trying to convey this very concept to her. When we inevitably flamed-out due to my not being listened to, ‘our’ entire community went to sympathize, nurture and validate the ‘poor’ woman… whom I was busting my ass for years to support while not being commensurately supported back. While no one cared about my pain or suffering. Thanks for what you do… it makes a difference.

[SefyaneAlaoui]

Men you are changing a lot of lives. Thank you

[ma]

Frankly the chase is getting tiresome too 🙂

[vipondiu]

I don't know, but I think the idea that "men want a challenge" is just a convenient excuse for being insufferable and/or to be an allibi for their propensity to generate unnecessary drama. As the good doctor said; there's a difference between a chase and a challenge, and I think most women are already aware of that, it's not a real misunderstanding. The chase should be over once the relationship officially starts because, well... the chase IS over.

[AshishShrivastava-qi]

My best buddy’s ex-wife was the perpetual damsel in distress type. They were married for 9 years. During that time she trashed 3 cars and blew up their credit cards. But what drove him up the wall was the constant, leaving her keys at home, losing her wallet, losing her car keys, forgetting to pick up prescriptions, losing cell phones, losing umbrellas, losing gloves, losing scarves, forgetting to drop off dry cleaning, etc.. etc.. It’s the little shit that drove him crazy. I remember he once blew his stack at her, we were out for a dinner and she called to tell him she had locked herself out. He said, “This is the 6th effing time in the last 3 months. You’re an adult. You need to get your effing crap together. I don’t give a shit. You can stand out in the rain until I get home.”

[ArgusticDunbar]

I think it’s our ego that enjoys the chase. Through our conquering we feel validated in our manhood. Like we are significant because we hit our target

[BeautiHacks]

Good distinction. These points needed to be announced.

[mickolesmana]

TLDR : "Dont overcomplicate situation, but ALSO dont be a pick me girl "

[stevenbaumann]

Whoever fed women the idea that men like a challenge deserves a special place in hell. No telling how many relationships were ruined by this terrible advice.

[vela-rnjz]

Provide services and be respectful.. I’m telling you, it is the recipe to a strong and healthy foundation. If you can be your partners safe space.. you’re golden.

[Jam-mm]

One day I came home from work. My wife was remodeling our bathroom. My wife has never given me a “To Do List”. I’m 70 years old. We’ve been married for 44 years. If something bugs her. Then my wife will fix it. I get zero drama from her.

[Rebecca-ms]

My husband came close to that snare of a damsel in distress BS. A coworker pulled that crap once, he didn't see it but I did. When he told her I wanted to get to know her, she ghosted. 😅😅

[kylehurtgen]

I don't know how I feel about Orion giving away all of our secrets.

[Dougytea]

2:37 thanks for saying it again ❤ because it really is.

Definitely agree with the definition of the chase.

[vryc]

Definitely yup. Been married for 28 years. Can't say it's been perfectly roses all the way through, but it's not been any prolonged difficulty to overcome either. She's been fairly damn amazing, actually. She wants to see me be better than I am, wherever and whatever form that is. And I want to see her be better as well. And frankly, that's really the whole reason for having a long-term partner anyways, isn't it? I don't need to constantly be "in frame", or whatever that actually means (sounds utterly exhausting), but it also means I need to have the discernment to know when my masculinity needs to step to the fore in a needed way; she needs that in me. And the same goes for her feminine nature as well (I don't need her to always be "on", but I do expect her to understand when that is wanted/needed... same as she does for me). It's been a great life and we absolutely got lucky in finding each other. Here's to another 28 years.

[BelleDividends]

I certainly don't want a challenge.

[samclingan]

Honestly I look for enthusiasm and adoration. Imo a woman who's enthusiastic about me isn't going to play games. Once you've experienced this, nothing else compares.