Stoic Solutions For Jealousy

When we have something we cherish, like a spouse or a friend or a certain status within a group, but we feel threatened of losing it, we experience resentment which we call jealousy. How can we deal with this?

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[juanis]

Never look at your neighbor’s bowl unless you’re making sure they have enough food.

[mattiasandersson]

The worst thing with irrational behavior is that you just do it without thinking of it. And when you think; you regret it.

[studykendrick]

Time is precious so don't waste it focusing on how others are spending theres. Enjoy what you have in the present. That is true happiness!

[ossen]

Jealousy, an ugly face of ego. Still attached to people, still clingy, still... a huge void within.
No outwardly things can tap that hollow bosom. You are complete, without even knowing it.
Embrace completeness. Become it. Act like it.

[DeyvsonMoutinhoCaliman]

When my fiance left me, I thought my life was finished. I was depressed for 8 months and lamented it for 5 years. After life mistreated her, she wanted to go back. Two months of relationship and I noticed how unbearable she was, how annoying and full of complaints, and that I was happier before, when I was alone. And suddenly my constant anxiety of being alone went away, proving that my own thoughts were what was making me believe I was unhappy for being alone. Still, if I was a wiser man, I would have concluded that much sooner and without the bad experiences.

[HumansOfVR]

Jealousy is like drinking poison and waiting for your life to change for the better

[BangMaster]

The grass is always greener on the other side.
But that other side is not permanent, neither is yours, nourish your grass, and it will be just as green or even greener, but don't be attached to it. Nothing is permanent, not even your body or your life.

[krln]

I'm struggling with insecurity and a lot of jealousy because of having been betrayed in the past. I was really calm and relaxed about these things, I had the confidence within myself that I can let the people I love "stray" because our love can survive it. But when I noticed that this little hints of giving attention to someone else and neglecting the relationship led to real betrayal and a hollow relationship, it made me so insecure and i am still not over it. now i am with someone new and he makes me anxious about losing him because of all these experiences. But I think this video helped me to find back to my former mentality, where I was calm and secure. It is true that if someone goes away from you, he was never yours to begin with, it is not good to be cold and indifferent, but it certainly is good to not be too much attached and to let the possibility of loss be bearable. Be happy within yourself and other people cannot hurt you, and even the disappointment will feel soft, because it will feel bearable.

[siddhijain]

In simple language we must love ourselves first then there will be no place to be jealous with anyone

[ToxiCisty]

It always amazes me how we are much more resilient than we realize. How often have you looked back on a relationship after a period of time and noticed you now care so little. Happiness is in the presence of your every day life, not in trying to think about someone else.

[suzanneadamson]

How I wish I'd learned these facts when young! Life would've been much less messy.

[TeamGreenBurrito]

While I wholly understand the stoic method, I can see how this might create a dangerous avenue towards apathetic and nihilistic thinking, that results in people never trying at all.

[tilly]

I think personally that jealousy is a compass that show you what kind of thing do you appreciate... envy another compass shows you what kind of things you really want... if you undertand it like that... as compass you can learn lots about yourself. What do you treasure and what you should pursue...

[TheLifeFormulaa]

Focus on the internal and living well instead of the external!

[sermatimohend]

This channel is one of my preferred indifference channels.

[JP-lliy]

I wish I could just reach into myself and yank this out! As Wayne Dyer Said, ” Love everything, Be attached to Nothing.”

[rose]

I love that you make the distinction between between envy, and jealousy, because lots of people see the two as interchangeable. 🤓👍🏻

[Balazs]

"Never say you lost it, say you gave it back!" Epictetus

[theprettycommittee]

“But I need them to be happy.
No... you don’t” 😂

[mtronin]

I've struggled with this when my Wife opted for separation twice and found a new man quickly. She was so happy. I was not... I was alone it hurt I was jealous. But things have happened that have not only shaped my perspective but may have opened a door for redemption. During my journey I've learned to be steadfast and just enjoy what I have while I have it. Jealousy weakens the connection to the soul self.