Types of Dyslexics: Life Traps and Steps to Freedom

In this video, we explore the various life traps that dyslexic adults often encounter, based on Jeffrey Young's schema therapy. From failure and subjugation to unrelenting standards and social exclusion, these patterns can shape our adult lives. As a dyslexic coach, I see these patterns in my clients and myself. Recognizing these patterns is the crucial first step to breaking free from them. Join me to understand how we can identify these life traps by testing which ones apply to you, and by taking the first steps toward a more fulfilling life.

⏰ Timetable:
00:00 - Intro
00:35 - What is a life trap?
01:17 - Failure life trap
02:18 - Defectiveness life trap
03:15 - Subjugation life trap
04:41 - Unrelenting Standards life trap
05:35 - Dependence life trap
06:36 - Social exclusion life trap
07:36 - Where to go from here?

COACHING & CONSULTATION

🙋🏼‍♂️ My name is Arije, and I am a dyslexic with an MA in Education Studies and I coach dyslexic adults. I aim to share all my tips for learning, coping, teaching, and more on my channel. For dyslexics, educators, and parents alike, I want to make videos that inform and inspire you to reframe dyslexia.

Here's the literature I consulted to create this video:
Young, Jeffrey E., et al. Reinventing Your Life: the Bestselling Breakthrough Program to End
Negative Behaviour and Feel Great. Scribe, 2019.
Young, Jeffrey E., et al. Schema Therapy: a Practitioners Guide. Guilford, 2007.

[ArijeAikedeHaas]

I hope you like the updated version of this video! Regardless, these life traps are a really important discovery--not only to the dyslexic adults that I work with but also to me personally. Having identified the patterns that apply to me has allowed me to give a name and context to many of my own traits, preferences, and behaviors. It has been a lens through which to understand myself more clearly. I now understand that the failure and subjugation life trap still play a role in my life and how some of that has to do with my childhood experiences as a dyslexic. Which of these resonate with you?

[cruiser]

Thank you for this video, to be honest the majority of it is me . I am 56 and only in the last few years I have learned that my dyslexia is why I feel so different to others and why I try to please people so much, also my never feeling good enough. These types of videos really do help people like myself so thank you.

[Bluebell-n]

This updated version has helped even more. Thank you for making it.

[yvonneimongan]

I have tears running down my eyes watching this 😭😭😭

[LDRight]

I’ve excluded myself from life… but I feel guilty about it. I just don’t know how to get out of this phase.
You’ve been a help!

[hannahteddyschachter]

I see why you made the changes you did—thanks for giving a positive outlook of how to go about overcoming these problems so many face ❤

[deryakk]

Thank you so much for these videos. They help me understand my actions and struggles. They are valuable.

[Divine_Guidance_Coaching]

I truly enjoy your videos. Thank you very much ❤

[qzzwpyy]

there might be many great channels on youtube for self help/improvement, but none of the advice or information there is really useful to me as someone with ADHD, Asperger / autism and dyslexia ( for extra spice i was considered a child prodigy by every single person that met me until i was 11-12, when feel into a decade of severe depression )
On the other hand almost every video that i have watched on your channel has given me great information and insight, into what is going on in my thoughts
This video might very well be the next big step forward in my life, im extremely grateful for your content


the book "reinventing your life" looks really promising

[fumblingthroughjavascript]

Dang, this video hit hard. I fall into all these life traps with my dyslexia. I guess I have a lot of work to do.

[Bluebell-n]

WOW I just realised why I was the way I was 20 years ago, I've overcome some of it, but have now discovered a bit more work needs to be done. Thank you for these videos they are so helpful. Exercise has helped me massively to avoid addictions, which I still do 6 days a week. If I hadn't of discovered that, I would of surely become addicted to negative substances. Could you do a couple of videos on the positive of having adhd, dyslexia and discalculia please. My daughter has all 3 like me, but she is more extrovert and fun to be around, however she has learnt the importance of down time to avoid burnout. Thank you ❤

[craigmerkey]

Thank you for ll the amazing information and work you put into this ! For me you really hit a lot of nails on the head!

[mightycatdavid]

Great video, thanks so much! If one struggles with directions and driving in unfamiliar places is that a form of dyslexia? I lose my left from right etc. If the turn should have been left I will definitely turn right. It helps so much now to have map apps but I still stress because I’ve had years without help and it’s deeply ingrained. It feels extremely disorientating like the world being upside down.🙃

[DiamondMind]

I was wondering are there any links between Dyslexia and Addictions?

[tarajenkins]

hi! love your videos, they’ve been very helpful for me when discovering my specific learning disorder in reading. just wondering (if you haven’t already done it) if you could make videos that go into more depth about the variety of specific learning disorders? upon being diagnosed i actually learned that my disorder wasn’t technically classed as “dyslexia” in the dsm5 but just a specific impairment in reading rate. there are 3 potential impairments:
1. reading accuracy
2. reading comprehension
3. reading rate/fluency
i think it varies but my psychologist told me that to be dyslexic you have to have problems in reading comprehension as well as other factors. it is all very nuanced but going into this would be really helpful for me and others as it was hard when i could neither fit into the category of dyslexia, or being neurotypical at the same time. thank you and keep up the good work :)

[Zcat]

Where do I find somebody to help me with my dyslexic situation?

[yvoneborgoise]

I really don't know if it's just me but whenever I came across with like a math problem or any number problems I get anxious is it a sign of dyslexia? I also sometimes read stuff differently and realize that I misread it is this also a sign of dyslexia?

[rg]

hum yes but I have already put these things down to my ADHD and Chronic migraines a i’ve had my whole life.. I feel these can apply to many types of people.
Confused tbh I guess dyslexia and ADHD came about because of the migraines?