What 'Homoromantic Asexual' Means to Me | Slice of Ace

Since you all liked my last video on my homoromanticism, here are some extended thoughts on my orientation. My romantic and sexual orientations are both important parts of me, but in different ways.

Yeah, Scratch isn't actually in the main bit of the video. That was just clickbait, and because I love my cat XD

Music: Calm Jazz by AndyJazz on AudioJungle

[SamanthaAimee]

This was really well explained, and it's definitely understandable that you just tell people your romantic orientation because sexuality is really only your partner's business anyway. Another great video!

[b.o]

I am an Ace Lesbian and you have described my experiences perfectly.

[hannah_rose]

I'm a homoromantic asexual and I say I'm a gay ace or ace lesbian for short :)

[iseander]

Cheers for another interesting video! As always, I appreciate your lovely use of language.

I came out as ‘gay’ when I was 15—the default label of the times! I discovered my asexuality later in my life, and tend to see it as a variation on my ‘gayness’.

[johannesdorr]

Highly interesting insights! I can relate to your experience to a very great extent. Actually, it took me an enormous span of time to finally understand my own sexual orientation because I'd simply never heard about such a queer thing as a 'homoromantic asexual' until this very day. No one I know would identify this way or - as far as I know - fit this pattern. But now I see that's exactly what I am. Thank you a lot for making this video!

[christophtiedemann]

Very good video and interesting points of view! I'm homoromantic asexual, too! I'm feeling much better after watching this video! Thank you very much!

[everycloud]

Amazing! So great watching your videos. I no longer feel alone. <3

[stuartwynn]

I wish I had found these videos years ago as u have opened up my mind and have helped to make sense of myself. What you describe speaks so much to me. I would now identify myself as homoromantic ace now after thinking for so many years thinking I just didn't like sex or being called frigid or cold but still being romantically inclined to men (but not being interested in all the sexual things they all seemed so into). I still find it easier for the general public to say I'm gay and that they don't need to know about my sex life. Even though I feel shame about people considering me as stereotypical promiscuous gay. Thank you for these videos. Please make more soon. Stuart

[julioaugusto]

To me it means I want a serious friendship with a guy that may include exchanges of affection like kissing and cuddling, but no s3x. I have come to find out it works out better for me when the other guy is straight but has no problem being affectionate with another guy actually.

[knitterscheidt]

being gay has many complex components. one can identify with gay culture, "being gay", enjoy or need the company of other gay men, share same interests, humor, aesthetics, fall in love with men and and be asexual and I understand how confusing that may be to others, the man you love and even oneself. i know because i've lived it for 60 years.

[daughterofHetHeru]

I identify as a homoromantic bisexual I’m attracted to both men and women (mostly women and only Asian men) but can only see myself being with a woman

[leahgachaproductions]

I feel the same way, I'm biromantic homosexual but I just tell my family that I'm bisexual they don't know what biromantic is. It's just easier to say I'm bi and I like to identify as bi.

[wilbervalenteg.]

Is it normal to have felt like a normal allosexual gay for years but all of a sudden you just lose sexual attraction to all genders but still feel a romantic attraction to the same gender? I want to say I'm a homoromantic asexual but sometimes I feel like this is just a phase because it was all of a sudden like literally in less than a week and I feel as if my sexual attraction might come back.

[josephfreedman]

I haven't been familiar with this term, but it makes a lot of sense to me. I describe myself as queer or bisexual to others, but it's more complicated than that. With men, I tend to be sexually attracted, but with women, it could be that I am heteroromantic and asexual. (I am 78, and at this point in my life, I am more interested in women, so it is timely for me.)

[francomanni]

Good episode because it introduces useful distinctions such as internal and external.
You say that when you were young you suffered from being asexual. Does it imply that you did not suffer from being homoromantic?

[jamesjackson]

It ends up being easier to say you're gay or I'm culturally gay.

[classicleslie]

That's awesome. I mean I fit with you but I do have a sexual attraction but only to an extinct. I could never have sex with either gender and it feels and seems very alien to me.