4 ego defense mechanisms you're not seeing...

A video breaking down 4 underrated defense mechanisms that are flying under your nose. Watch the entire thing since this one is packed with value.

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[jesseray]

I love that the internet is giving a new generation a chance to not only teach each other about important topics like this, but a comment section so that there can be dialogue. I have high hopes for the people who are riding this wave.

[andrewmiller]

Self Importance is man's greatest enemy.

[realestjeremyhamel]

1. Splitting 2. Humor 3. Introjection 4. Undoing ... Great video Jem! I just subbed! Unsolicited input here.. Have you considered adding the points and a short summary in the description section? I would love to see more content creators do this.

[syzygy]

I think splitting is my biggest one. When I feel hurt by someone close to me and I feel like they don't really like me. I feel split then. Tender places on my heart and yet all I want it to be genuinely loved and accepted. 😔

[sophskulley]

I definitely do all of these. I'm working hard on splitting especially when it comes to judging other people and their decisions. Humor and interjection are two I wasn't really aware of. Humor might be the hardest one to overcome because, well, it's fun

[ricksteeze]

Hey man I don't usually comment on people's videos but I just wanted to let you know that I genuinely appreciate your input and your wisdom and sharing all your knowledge with us. When I do spiritual research and inner work your one of the videos that pops up on my list that I don't even question clicking. Blessings !! Thanks man

[YSGMG]

Splitting tends to be a trauma adaptation. It arises from emotionally immature and traumatised people. it’s rather unique to personality disorders, my settings I grew, we don’t call it the hood here in the uk. “Ends” but everyone would split! myself included. it’s a normalised adaptation amongst these sort of settings and nobody yet knows of this phenomena. at least until now. 😉 I would also add modern media and propaganda encourages and influences splitting.

[Igneous]

For me the big one I do is splitting, especially when it comes to groups vs the individual. I have a lot of poor experiences with groups of people, and I have a hard time seeing the good in people as groups. The only thing I see is animals.

[imbored]

The second one is very useful to be honest. I know many people freezing during university exams, or making mistakes due to anxiety. Since I saw a representation of lanieka, the cluster of galaxies we belong to, I think of it during exams if I'm getting tilted. It really helps not caring that much, which I don't necessarily think made me more accurate, but it definitely made it less crushing.

[Alflowill]

Humor is a good thing in my opinion. It doesn't allow for me to ignore the subject but just to soften the blow if my ego feels hurt. Then I can tell myself things like "it's no big deal" and consider whether or not whatever said to or about me is true. I also kinda have that meta view in which i stop caring about certain things because they seem trivial. I jsut have such an absolute way of life that im very blunt with people about. I think people see this as an attractive quality.

[masteroogway]

The real names for each of these fallacies:
1 false dichotomy
2 deflection
3 argument from authority
4 This ones actually new to me

[jan]

Your content is excellent. Thank you so much. I struggle with connecting to family who cannot apologize due to the ego defense. Exhausting but letting go with acceptance helps.

[Wildoutness]

I have had some of these issues and still have some of them, namely splitting.

I'm having better a better time understanding that everybody's moral compass derives from the same starting point, it is only that our lives are where we're led and influences us.

[JangaLangaBanga]

Introjections sound like the most common way that the imaginary audience plays itself out, through the parents/ guardians in our early life. I've found myself often acting even if I'm hundreds of miles away from my parents and haven't talked to either of them in a week, still envisioning how they would have approved or disapproved of my actions. I don't think I let that dictate what I do in a huge way, but theirs are always the first round of voices in my head after any given decision.

[firekitten]

This was a very interesting video ! I like that you put words onto concepts I have been noticing but not been able to really categorise. Thank you !

[jjo]

Veda keep going. You're helping a lot of people out there

[Johnnysegarra]

I appreciate the way you plug other videos of yours which contain significantly relevant and useful subject matter, also I think it's good how you get to the point in your videos. Your pacing is good and there's not much filler/fluff at all. Good job with your channel. I’m finding it enlightening, to say the least. ( Something that might be useful, would be to make a chapter marker at the plug of your other video. This way someone can finish the one they are watching and then easily navigate to the other.)

[shadowpicaro]

the undoing one hits hard as hell. like i really tend to emphaaize & i always think the undoing shows genuine remorse even if its not in the best way, but it’s really just to keep themselves from starting to believe they’re bad/wrong by overcompensating. explains a lot☹️

[sprtmlecule]

5:40 real shit. You earned a sub. That's my brain every day. We are just a grain of sand. Lucky to be alive!

[tedbrown]

Might be baked but for the first five minutes, I thought your TV was cabinets 😂