There are NO Justified Resentments - Wayne Dyer

Wayne Walter Dyer (May 10, 1940 – August 29, 2015) was an American self-help author and a motivational speaker. Dyer completed a Ed.D. in guidance and counseling at Wayne State University in 1970. Early in his career, he worked as a high school guidance counselor, and went on to run a successful private therapy practice. He became a popular professor of counselor education at St. John's University, where he was approached by a literary agent to put his ideas into book form. The result was his first book, Your Erroneous Zones (1976), one of the best-selling books of all time, with an estimated 100 million copies sold.This launched Dyer's career as a motivational speaker and self-help author, during which he published 20 more best-selling books and produced a number of popular specials for PBS. Influenced by thinkers such as Abraham Maslow and Albert Ellis, Dyer's early work focused on psychological themes such as motivation, self actualization and assertiveness.

Thank you.

[AfterSkool]

The resentment we carry is a heavy burden. Please share this video far and wide. Thank you.

[svtaile]

That Teddy story hits home. When I was a little girl my mom taught me that lesson with a cousin I had and didn’t like much. He was hyperactive and used to destroy everything. My mom tells me he will be staying with us a full day and I pleaded with her to not allow it because I was afraid he’ll destroy my books. She told me he was not going to misbehave and she was going to show me how. Well he came and as soon as his mom left and he was about to get into my books, my mom offered to read him a book. I remember to this day how still and hypnotized he was, he kept on asking for more books. When he left, my mom mentioned how he misbehaves because he needs more attention than he receives. I leaned a great lesson that day that to this day I remember clearly.

[isaacbrown]

I spent the majority of my 20s being bitter and resentful because people who were close to me turn their backs on me and hurt me tremendously. I always thought I was aa good person who was better than everyone and believed I had some kind of moral high ground but I had to learn that REAL GOOD people show it through action, they don’t just sit around and claim to be a good person and they definitely don’t sit around and judge others. Forgiveness, understanding, and healing are painful processes but nothing compares to the years of suffering I have already endured being alone and angry at the world and god. I hope everyone find the strength to overcome their challenges and to choose love and happiness over all.

[erikag]

Being a child and domestic abuse survivor, this hit right in the feels. I am resentful of so many things I know I have to let go in order for me to be free

[maddie]

Taking responsibility doesn't mean what happened was your own fault, but it does give you your power back in the situation. I used to scoff at this ideas of not being concerned with blame and resentment, but now I can completely see that entertaining these feelings and ideas have only kept me stuck in a place of misery and inaction.

[Hatrackman]

No leaf falls randomly. Patience be with us all.

[Rockell]

I was middle child of 7 kids in a very dysfunctional family. Neglected and abused I was socially aloof and completely checked out in school and treated poorly by a lot of peers and most of my teachers. But Ms. Wilson, my 3rd grade teacher at Bethel Elementary in KC, Kansas taught me what unconditional love was. She always believed in me and treated me with kindness and compassion. I’ll never ever forget her.

[AtTheDoor]

The Teddy story reminded me of my grandma. She was a primary school teacher for math and science in a public school of a small community in the south of Brazil. She told me that she would always look at those kids that were left out, that were not doing well in the tests, that wouldn’t pay attention in class. She would call them up to talk to them individually, and no doubt, they always 100% had some big problems of abuse and lack of love at home. She would see them, and give them the support and care that they needed. No doubt no matter where she goes, there are 40/50 y.o. People that recognizes her in the streets and shops of that town and will always remember Teacher Leda, and they all say how great a teacher she was to them.

God bless all the kind teachers out there in the world that see and care about every children.

Love is the answer, always!

Ps: I loved that you used aang in the art 💛

[yaguabina]

This made me cry. I grew up with extreme abuse for many years. I am now a parent and I have been struggling in my relationship with my son. Yesterday I watched a coach speak about how he encouraged and supported one of the best athletes ever. Today I stumbled upon this beautiful message. I have found my answer. It may seem so obvious to many, but when you were born in darkness, it takes 10 times the effort to find simple truths. Thank you...

[iamoutofideas]

Wayne Dyer has been one of the greatest teachers in my life. I miss him.

[jamesdean]

His name was Mr Council,
He was the librarian at my primary school and temp teacher. He understood the challenges of growing up with a mother with a mental illness.
His kindness and understanding still brings tears to my eyes.

[ILikeCoconutsLots]

This all makes sense, but it has to be applied collectively. If you’re stuck in a family who resent each other and you’re the one who lets go of that you will be attacked by the others who still resent you. I’ve been trying so fucking hard for years now to sort my family out and reach a proper understanding. I do everything I can to be kind and at my very best. Frankly these online motivational quotes sound lovely, but don’t really work. Be humble and work hard and you’re going to suffer and other people will shurk their responsibility on to you. In the end I’ve realised that I’ve got no choice, but to walk away, no matter how much I love them and try my very best for them, it’s never enough. I’m tired and I hurt and I really don’t want to resent them for how hard they’ve made my life, how much pressure they’ve put on me so the only option left is to walk away

[mmpitsnipe]

I am a 52 year old father of three boys, gulf-war veteran, 5th degree black belt and I consider myself a pretty tough guy. That "Teddy" story has me bawling like a 220lbs baby as I type this. Haven't blubbered like this since I was a very small child.

[sathirakatugaha]

That Teddy story made me tear up. When I was in primary school I was a pretty bad student. I was poorly socialized and didn't know how to make proper friends so I was often frustrated and acted out. By the first quarter of 5th grade my teacher noticed that I was intuitively intelligent but wasn't applying myself so she took special attention and helped me channel my skills into school. Ever since then I've been an over-achiever and it has taken me to great places. I'll never forget Ms. Higgins.

[dbsk]

It’s 1am and have tears streaming down my face

[tinygypsy]

When something someone did or said to me hurts me.. I would let it eat at me and I’d be angry or upset and get anxiety everytime I thought about it. I started forcing myself to say it out loud and in my head that I forgive them, I accept what happened and I forgive myself. I repeat it a few times or anytime it crossed my mind, now when I think about what happened, I don’t get any anxiety or negative feelings. I can forgive very quickly and easily now, it’s helped me be more understanding and patient with people. Forgiving people isn’t about letting bad people off the hook, it’s about not letting it affectyou anymore. ❤

[Emmanuel-mcbd]

The thing about that story was that we all have that, out of all our teachers we all have that one teacher that truly believed in us ❤

[praachibahugunaa]

The Teddy story hit me right in my feels. Esp the part where he tells his teacher "thank you for making me feel important and showing me that i could make a difference". I feel like we need to wake up everyday and be that person for ourselves. Believe that we are so important and so capable of making so many lives better just by being us.

Best wishes to everyone here, hope you have a great day today:)

[harrisc]

What helps the most in such circles is to always remember that I am dealing with people who are sick, just like I am. And since "it is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society, " we all must be profoundly sick.

[BeADad]

Teddy was lucky to have had a good mom he actually missed.
Never underestimate what an act of kindness might do to a little boy.