7 Keys To Using The No Contact Rule Properly

I'm Brad Browning, a relationship coach and breakup expert with over 12 years experience helping so many wonderful people like you get their ex back. If you're watching one of my videos for the first time, then hello and thanks for tuning in. If you haven't already, please make sure to subscribe to my channel and click that little bell icon right beside the subscribe button… that way, you'll be notified when I release my next relationship advice video.

1. Make a plan for the next 30 days –
Sometimes it can feel slightly strange sitting down and writing out plans or goals for our own improvement, but many studies have shown that putting your goals down on paper makes them much more achievable. In one study at a university in California, researchers demonstrated that you are 42 percent more likely to achieve your goals if you write them down.

2. Spend time with friends, old and new --
After a breakup, your close friends are your best friend. It's important to be as busy and social as possible during No Contact. One great way to do that is to just hang out with your friends often. This is something I've recommended in many past videos.

3. Get some exercise! --
Now I know what you're going to say – "I'm feeling depressed, and hitting the gym is not what I feel like doing. And how is this helping me get my ex back?"

4. Seek out some advice from a reliable 3rd party.
Obviously I'm going to recommend that this advice come from me, which I'm happy to provide when you sign up for my one-on-one coaching service, but really it could also be with anyone else who actually knows what they're talking about and has experience in breakups… not your friends or family, ideally, as their well-intentioned advice can often be counterproductive.

5. Date around.
Or at least spend plenty of time with lots of different people, and with new people. Ideally, that includes going on dates, too. While it might feel counter-productive, the truth is that spending time with other people is much more likely to peak your ex's interests than if they know you've been moping at home, unable to function without them in your life. That's what they're expecting.

6. Treat yourself.
While this is a time for self-reflection and improvement, it's also a time to treat yourself and bring some positivity to your life. Get yourself those new kicks you've been eyeing, or splurge on that bike or guitar you've wanted forever… it'll motivate you to get out there and be more active, and give you something new to talk about with your ex.

7. Get ahead in life --
When you've recently broken up, you typically have more free time on your hands. The 6 things I've already covered in this video will likely occupy some of that time, but you can also channel your time and energy into success in your career, your studies, or even your own mental state and self confidence. Something as simple as having some friends over to share a pizza and help you paint the living room is the kind of positive forward progress that will help you in many ways, including with getting your ex back. Just be productive during the 30 Days of No Contact and get ahead at work or school, achieving goals and striving for personal growth.

A lot of this stuff I've talked about in this video, happens subconsciously and slowly over time, and I know it often sounds kind of flaky and abstract at first… perhaps that's why it's a hugely overlooked part of effectively using the 30 Day No Contact strategy. But it's important, so please don't just ignore this advice or think of it as 'optional'. I know this from over a decade of working with clients in situations just like yours.

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[saralanohan-miles]

I did this no contact after he break up on me. No contact for only 4 days he message me and want to get together after two weeks didn’t see each other. After 3 weeks he proposed to me 🥰. Now, we are happily engaged 😇. Just be patient and wait for it to turn in your table. Because if they really love you they will come back😍.

[mateagalic]

2nd time doing NC rule.
I’m on day 6, wish me luck people.
I’ll keep y’all updated

[gamingwithavipraz]

I thought it would take a month or more but she actually called me after a week of no contact and said to meet her
Then she hugged me and cried .
Thank you so much, 😊😊😊

[theseattlegreen]

I started no contact as soon as she left. 17 days later she was begging for me back.

This would have never happened if I was constantly calling her

[Kaelxxx]

Just listen to this man. No contact rule is the key 👍🏻

[vaibhavjoshi]

It really works.
Trust me
There was no hope and ny ex said that we can't get back together but no contact made her come back to me🙂

[Johnphilips]

Yep - the person will expect you to contact them within 1-2 weeks. If you don't, two things wil start happening in their mind. They will 1) start wondering whether or not you've moved on or forgotten about them triggering an emotional ego reaction. And 2) they will start to have positive recall - i.e they will start to forget about the reasons they lost attraction and instead start to remember the good times you had together and the initimacy you shared. After 3/4 weeks they will usually snap and reach out to find out what's been going on with you. The key is don't reply straight away and don't accept the first invitation to meet up! The first time they ask to meet up say that youre busy and will have a think about another time. then leave them in suspense for a couple days and then offer to have dinner or smething.

[samcooke]

I worked with Brad one and one. Everything he told me to do i followed, the no contact rule was so effective she contacted me in the 30th day 😃 Brad has taught me some great life lessons and not to make the same mistakes again, the x factor programme is also worth purchasing so you use the techniques effectively.

[jessagalvez]

I used no contact properly in 1 month after we break up. So that my ex chat me 😂 i win 😁 and i ignored him in 1 week before i reply his message. Thank you brad browning ☺

[rogerjohn]

Hi Brad - you are a genius! - thank you! After watching many of your videos for advice, I decided to try no conact carefully and just reply politely to some texts without being rude. I concentrated on my life, hung out with some other girls and friends, of which she was aware, and generally got on with things. After 2 weeks she sent me a text saying 'I miss you', I really miss you. I check my phone constantly. I was waiting or you to write to me with something, but always nothing came to me'. I still kept communication to a minimum. Now we are talking again and she says she wants to build something new between us. Your advice really worked. Thank you so much!

[PratibhaTiwari]

Completed 14 days of no contact, now I dnt want him anymore. I dnt want same stress and anxiety again 🙂

[ILiquidCourageI]

Trying to do this in a Corona lockdown is going to be horrendous. Wish me luck folks.

[double-og]

By acknowledging a break up everyday you give it existence and credibility. A break up is often made worse when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. Remember, you choose to let things bother you, if you waste time and energy on your ex, it is your own fault. For the time being, you must turn your back on what you want, this response is a very good move. It leads to change, and change is good when good. The pros and cons of changing doesn't matter, what matters is becoming a better person.

[DoseOfNick]

Day 2 of NC and it’s already hard! But love the fact that yes it is a great time to focus on myself and find other hobbies I like to do and do it for myself and not for her! I genuinely think she is the one for me. I just feel like I became boring and too predictable like I had no life outside of her which was the reason for the breakup. So I’m going to start going to the gym and possibly get into meditation!

[maychanbrigs]

I just broke up with my bf of 4.5 years 2 days ago cuz of some unsolved problems that are piling up. I always believed not contacting them would help them think about the relationship and me--same goes with me. So even though I get so tempted to talk and chat him up, I dont; today is day 2 of our breakup. I was crying moments before I saw this video. Now Im fired up to make a 30-day plan to do fun, new stuff for myself. Whether he and I are meant to be together in the end, only time will tell. Right now, it's all about me. 💕 Lots of love for y'all! We can do this!

[melindagarcia]

3 days no contact she unblocked me from all social media and stalking me, lol. Our mutual friend told me not jump into any relationship now that made me think she asked her to do so. Now am going on 2 to 4 weeks vacation on an island. Am soooo exited.

[chlochlo]

73 days of no contact 🤷🏻‍♀️I don’t really think 30 days is enough. Because the breakup is still fresh. 🤷🏻‍♀️mine will probably not contact me but it’s ok Bc I’m never going to contact them

[dr.binitapatel]

Hi brad
Thank you for your guidance.
I m grateful n thankful to u.
I got my boyfriend back with this no contact rule in just 25 days.
N we r very happy to gather at the same time we hv stronger bonding now.
I followed ur each n every advice n i trust you n ur psychology a lot.
Keep up ur good work.
Stay blessed with happy n healthy life always.
Regards: Binita from india.💖

[SanderJanssenBSc]

Only thing I'm determined to do is live my life not caring whether she comes back or not😂

[Handsoffsherrif]

And the hard part about this break up now is because it's quarantine :( we're basically home all day