The brutal truth about unrequited love (that no one wants to hear)

It's incredibly difficult to find mutual love in the modern age. The resulting feeling of unrequited love is so painful to go through.

I've been there many times in my life.

After some deeper reflection, I've come to a few realizations about the experience of unrequited love.

I share these in this video.

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[SquidandCatAdventures]

For me, it's not the rejection that is painful. It's not getting to be with the person you've become so attached to.

[lmng]

Never beg for relationship if we doesn't recieve the same effort we give, better cut it off and let go😌😤

[seamusconlan]

Since most romantic relationships ultimately fail learning to love and cherish yourself cannot be underestimated. Searching for the perfect partner is the great illusion of romantic love.

[cetviesauthor-writer.]

at least it is good that one realises that they are not alone...having felt this...

[DSherry]

After several failed relationships, I've come to the conclusion that I'm better off staying single. It's just not worth the time and energy investing in someone who doesn't see the value in you.

[blancacharun]

I want someone that doesn’t want an open relationship. This was a doomed relationship from the start and it has brought a lot of pain to me. I’ve tried to see him for something he is not and my time to walk away has been here. I have tried so many times to walk away but I miss him so much when I do I always go back. But why do I love someone who repeatedly tells me he wants an open relationship? And that he needs to get his life together first. I’m 45 yet I haven’t learned anything from my past because I continue to love the wrong person. That’s Not love. Why do I keep doing this to myself? I see myself dancing in the rain, taking walks, having romantic dinners, dancing, laughing, going on trips, hanging out at the house, watching movies, just a normal happy partnership. What I’m doing now is pulling away. He breaks promises to me and I’m tired of making excuses for him. I have gotten over bad partners in the past so I can get over this one. And this time I will date myself and do for myself. Take baths. Im just going to really try to make a change. I miss affection but I’ll figure it out. Im a pretty girl that finds men that don’t care for me. I always feel like I’m pressuring someone to care for me. They always run away from me. I miss my family. I have no friends so my partner becomes my best friend. And I think that’s part of the issue. I will focus on my health and myself. Today he called me twice and I don’t want to respond. He has so much power over me emotionally I can’t do that anymore. I need to take my power back today. Thanks for reading and God, Please help me

[timothytannerandtheamazing]

This video FALSELY assumes that those who do not reciprocate are 'well' and have 'many options'. That is certainly NOT always the case.

[GMell]

Love and emotions associated with such an abstract concept are nothing but mental clutter in my life. Would be a blessing if I can snap my fingers and erase every emotion I had in my life except for basic happiness and anger.

[CB]

Seems to be the only love I've ever experienced. From childhood through to adulthood!

[Angel]

This is limerence, or even infatuation that you’re describing, not unrequited love. Unrequited love is very real, as real as any love, very painful, and deeply life altering. Love is love. Even unrequited love.


If you’ve truly experienced true unrequited love, you understand the difference.

Love exists to inspire us, to make us better people. Closer to ‘God’.


The universe always rewards love.
Like all other forms of true love, it can and should be transmuted into something profound and selfless… the painful part is that the selflessness of that love does not ever go toward the other, where it has been rejected; it must be directed elsewhere in order to feel it reciprocated, and we must learn to accept that reciprocation with grace as a gift rather than a consolation prize. Toward community, art, purpose, yourself… It’s a very lonely, painful, confusing, but ultimately liberating gift. Very possible to love someone who does not love you back. It’s so much more reassuring and comforting to think otherwise, I know. But it is always better to honor love that is true than to repress or deny it. You just have to honor your unrequited love differently.

And the greatest gift of unrequited love is that you get to love fully from the very depths of your soul and know that even after that, you WILL liberate yourself and love again, and it will be so much more profound and powerful when you do because of that.

[Concreteowl]

This isn't a brutal truth it's just a glib comment. I rarely fall in love with people. It's never an infatuation. I have put in the time to get to know someone and it's always unrequited. After a while it gets harder to attach to people because of the expectation that is going to be yet another disaster. I'm old enough to remember before the apps etc and it was equally true then. Some people just don't get a happy outcome.

[MarIna-efhw]

Awesome video thank you!
I did the exercise and realized I am looking for some external point of reference, someone to gauge by whether the way I behave and my decisions in life are okay. Working on getting myself out of that loop, by following my dreams and expanding my community.

[itachi]

I’ve been trying to date for years now and my problem is that everyone I met that genuinely likes me back lives far asf and the people that live close to me just play games and waste my time I’m beyond frustrated

[Rocky-uysd]

You lose credibility when you say things like “I’ve been in this situation SOOO many times….!” No you haven’t. It isn’t something you experience that many times, otherwise you’re mixing up lust and crushes for love. NOT THE SAME !!

[whitefrangipaniable]

I hope you are getting better, Justin. I thought of adopting a cat at the shelter. my concern is that if this cat dies one day, I will be so devastated...that's what preventing me from getting one 😔

[emersonalves]

The perfect partner would be someone that I can really connect, like I'm with myself, it could bring the feeling of pleasure by sharing the life with someone else that can bring the same vibe back to me.

[jimjam_games]

when you love someone who used to love you, but then stopped....that is a pain i cant describe. especially when you are the last to find out about it.

[nienbloon]

This video is genuinely helpful, thank you so much, thank you

[wazittuya]

I have approaching girl like 9 times, but they never give a damn green light to me, so basically they don't give a sh*t how i feel, but instead most of them end up with rich person.
I hate to admit it, but if i can make my family happy without getting married or have a child is more than enough to me.

[janezudemriso]

this is the best video ive ever saw on youtube