Why You Care So Much About These 5 Things (and How To Stop)

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Don’t allow your life to be controlled by these 5 things.

In today’s episode, Mel reveals the 5 surprising things that you waste time and energy on right now.

You’ll be surprised by the sneaky things that are holding you back.

Here’s the thing: when you try to control everything, you can't focus on anything that's truly important.

By the end of this episode, you’ll learn the simple shifts that help you make room for the things that really matter.

This episode is a companion to Mel's brand new free training, Make It Happen.

This training is designed to help you make your next 6 months extraordinary. It includes a 29 page workbook and 2 video trainings that use the latest research to help you get clear about what you want and create a plan to make it happen.

I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.

In this episode:
00:00 Intro
01:05: An exciting free gift from Mel to you!
06:27: The first thing that you can’t control, but you CAN control whether it bothers you.
09:43: What happens to your brain when you do things you don’t want to do.
12:01: The second thing you try controlling is wasting your time.
13:06: How to reframe lost time as found time.
18:16: The third thing you’ll never be able to control, but you can control how much space you allow it to occupy.
19:00: The precious commodity that you’re giving away for free.
21:04: What researchers have found is happening to people who engage with social media passively.
25:20: The fourth thing you try to control is holding you back.
27:10: How to move past the things you regret.
28:54: The fifth thing that you can’t control, but you can influence it by what you do today.
29:13: How Mel can predict who you’re going to be six months from now.
31:40: How you can redirect your energy and time to make your life better.

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[Carol-wyqy]

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[taniaseal]

"The only way to move on from the things I regret is to move forward". I love that. Thank you 🙏 💖

[susansimpson]

I LOVE the rain, it's cleansing and refreshing and I especially LOVE thunderstorms!!

[rachellek]

1) the weather
2) how long you wait in line/queue
3) the headlines
4) the past
5) the future

[lukast]

“Weather or not it borders you”
Sometimes It is the small thing which makes you smile and warm your heart 😊

[shanidennee]

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fyi I absolutely love you my boyfriend of 11 years left me for a woman that he dated 30 years ago . she called him confessing her I'm dying love even though she's married she said she should never gotten married because she loves him her last child went to college to take the chance. they were talking for 4 months and then he ended up leaving me with an note it said turn that frown upside down you'll be happier someday.
well because of that I found you and I absolutely adore you I've learned so much about myself in the world . that I would have never learned I also have ADD and you've really helped me my house is so clean .😊 my brain seems so much clearer I'm actually able to focus on getting some stuff done
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[grateful]

I had a job with a group of people that every year would complain from September to February about how much they hated it getting dark so early! I'm like- there are places on the planet you could move to.... it happens the exact same way every year! 🙄

[lahsan]

We got married in the rain…June in Vermont…pondside…in one of my favorite places with my favorite people…best day ever! 💖

[liagarcia]

On the days I commute to the office and sitting in LA traffic, I have either been listening to your podcasts and calling friends/family to keep in touch!

[dawnenns]

We can’t always control what happens but we can decide how we react to it.
I need to remember this!!!
Yes, I need to apply this patience….letting my blood pressure spike helps no one!

[catherinegay]

I share your podcasts all the time. Love your wisdom & compassion SO much! ❤
At 66.5 yoa, I'm THINKING about getting into realty. Not sure if i have the energy, but the amount of time I've spent on social media, I could have gotten my license by now! 😂

[camisebring]

Most of All~ 🙏🏼THANK YOU MEL~ FOR BEING HERE 🌟❤🎉👍🏼🖐️🩵🧚🏻‍♀️

[ChelleyV]

Ugh… the weather. After a stunning winter and spring in Phoenix, the temps are inching up and we are getting ready for our first triple digit day next week… the dread of the heat every year. Something for me to get present to and work this out for myself. I’ll never complain about the rain. The heat is another thing entirely.

[JillWaterman]

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[Ricardos_ASMR_Relaxing_Space]

Thank so much, my backup in times when needed. ❤🎉

[mothercoyote]

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