Anger as a Force for Positive Change

Many of us think of anger as an emotion we shouldn’t feel and try to avoid it at all costs.

There is, however, an energy to anger that, when acted on in a healthy way, can be a force for positive change.

Join me as I talk with trauma awareness educator Shay Seaborne about the perils of repressing and suppressing anger for both yourself and others, and how she has embraced her own anger and uses it as a catalyst for action in pursuit of justice and well-being. We also discuss how BodyIntelligence concepts and practices can help us be with, and act on, our anger in a healthy way.

#anger #stress #trauma #neurobiology

[JoyJoy-rrqo]

Are there any books that has many strategies on dealing with anger? So many book explain anger but few are books that list ways of dealing with the many aspects io anger. If love to know. I appreciate you both for bringing this anger problem up. I hope there's more and more talk about it. Great job!

[JoyJoy-rrqo]

Also I wanted to bring up something else that helps when heat starts building up inside a conversation. Many times that load is being put on the so called the "weaker person." I believe many times when we feel the whole burden is put on us and we keep feeling more and more angry then its time to flip the script. To counteract that conversation before it gets out if hand. Start asking them questions. Or change the subject if there's a good time. Ots a great way to stop the build up and harassing that's could be causing all this anger. It keeps the conversation leveled. These kinds of cinversations happens so many tomes and in so many forms. It's unbelievable. I have learned that this is a form if helping that person to see they too are part of the problem, big or small. But it's our job to ask questions in a civil calm way. It does work and helps our anger not get out of control inside us which usually causes devastation to our nervous system. Anger us a huge trigger to our nervous system. It's sad that many of us learned this when we were only children. Many times we can ignore things people say and consider the source because we aren't going to change them and it's not our job to do so. There might be times we can put a word if wisdom into the air but be careful when and who it's told to because it can cause more issues. But maybe it might make a huge difference in someone's life. That's such a reward. Thanks for bringing this issue up. It's so important! It's weird that it's such a problem but nobody realky wants to talk about it or even admit it.

[JoyJoy-rrqo]

I kinda agree but not whole-heartedly. I did this with my sons school system
He needed a lot of help because of his disorders but he wasn't getting any! I spent most of my life while he was in school trying to get help for such a faulty school system for special needs kids. Yes I was very angry but I fought for him and got some headway. But the fight was so stressful that it made me worse than the anger. The school system is set up to wear the parent down!!! And it did exactly that! I was so exhausted that I looked like death warmed over. It helped him in grade school but the fight continued throughout and I just couldn't keep it up..To this day he is pretty much a recluse collecting SSI. He has so much to infer but the system messed both hom and me up. So dealing with anger in a constructive way can make things worse because it can be constantly ongoing and wear us further down because there is no end. That can also be in relationships too. When you try to confront a person in a constructive way because of how they've treated you. They can make it worse for you causing you more stress. There's got to be better ways of handling anger. I sometimes write down the situation and my feelings about it. I may cone to the conclusion thst there us no conclusion. Or that things are corrupt. I remember the idea about the star fish. The guy saw millions if star fish on the beach, and he didn't know what to do. He wanted to save them all. But he picked up one and threw it back in the ocean and saud, "I saved one star fish." I think that might be one way of dealing with monumental anger. There's so many types of anger, it's unreal. Especially nowadays. We sure can't fix them all. So I believe that there got to be better ways to handle being bombarded with so many types. Sometimes we have to consider the source too and let it go. We can't fix it all. Lots of feelings we have are a sister to anger like frustration is a form of anger. Just a lesser version if it. Sounds better too, huh? And our culture sure has put a bad label on it instead of dealing with it in a straight forward positive way. It's there in everybody no matter what so why haven't we been dealing with it? People say that it doesn't make them angry, and I dint believe them most if the time. I think they are suppressing it and then making themselves imagine that they are above being angry when they realky arent. Gee, that alone should irritate us. Another form of anger. I'd love to hear all the ways we can deal with anger. That ought to make our nervous systems happy, don't ya think? 😉