How to Always Be in Control of Your Anger - Jocko Willink

From JOCKO PODCAST 61.
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[reason]

"Losing your temper, " is the weakness. Not becoming angry. I have to remind myself of that. It's what I decide to do with the anger that counts. It's my responsibility to make the right choices.

[michaellapierre]

When people raise their voice to me I have learned to think: The louder they yell, the more afraid they are. People raise their voice because they feel like they are losing their power. True courage is being able to stand there, eye to eye, and honestly say what needs to be said.

Jocko has a great perspective.

[EddieLeal]

"Temper's the one thing you cant get rid of, by losing it. " - Dr. Buddy Rydell (Anger Management.) ;)

[damianrosa]

THANK YOU Jocko! I am a Marine grunt and was driving to work this morning with my wife, I listen to your podcast Evey day as I drive. Me and my wife found this podcast very help and interesting as I am an intense individual (or so I've been told)

The video had just ended and a wild young punk driver engaged in some rather intense road rage with me. I did my best not to get into it with him especially while driving. He then pulled up next to me and threw a coffee mug at my car, hitting my car. Instead of following him and caving in his face, as I very much wanted to, I took a picture of his lisnce plate and called it in to San Diego's PD.

Thank you again for the wise words and guidance on when to battle and when not to. Helps alot with life as a warrior.

[sweetazn]

"Anger is a sign of weakness" i like that

[susiesa]

i literally live everyday angry and it is tiring and exhausting. my problem is not being able to control myself against people who want to push my buttons

[onlyrick]

Man, I was in my thirties before I started to realize that losing my temper was weakness rather than strength. I really think I would have learned sooner if I'd had it explained in this way. You're doing a good thing, JW. Keep it up and Be Cool.

[infinityking]

I hate blowing up especially when I’m in the wrong thank you for helping us men wanting to better ourselves

[midnightaustin]

my childhood is rough i got beat alot, my parent have their thinking that they r god that i can never be right im always wrong, im 22 now i still have anger issues till today, after watching this videos, i kinda get the idea that acuatlly anger is my weakness, exploding to everyhting is wrong! thx

[jpd]

I wasn't able to to control my anger until I was in my late 30's and became a parent for the first time. Before that, I'd fly off the handle over anything. I never hurt anyone physically. But I'd throw stuff across the room. Etc. Having kids made me have that patience.

[SenorDroolcup]

Thank you, Jocko. I'm going to watch this with my 11yr old son. This is great.

[metalrocks]

Your podcast has honestly changed my life. thank you for everything you do.

[spencerhall]

I pray to God I never see Jocko nodding his head.

[BrumeNoire]

I had a very unstable childhood which led me to have this constant anger inside me and I just can't control my nerves like whenever I get really angry for whatever reason it comes to a point my whole body is shaking like crazy. Your advice is simple yet it did just happen to calm me down because I was angry just now and I'm getting sick of this anger. Thank you.

[Trdjg]

Man, the consistence of the value of each video is crazyy

[daveboi]

These small videos are a reminder to always humble yourself. I love it.

[polreamonn]

Anger is one letter away from Danger, as they say.

[SKBottom]

I always feel like an ass after I blow my top. Like I have failed, even if it was justified.

[bentonja]

I had a horrific temper in my teens into my 30's and eventually I couldn't even really physically withstand the anger (it made me physically ill as I got older). I would go from a 0 to a 10 in 1 second with nothing in between. Incredible Hulk seeing red tunnel vision type of anger. Thankfully I am not violent or I would probably be in prison. Eventually I could control my anger to the point that I didn't get past a 5 or a 6, which was still pretty bad overall compared to other people. I have been practicing meditation for about 10 years and Wim Hof breathing for 3+ years and what I have noticed is that every single time I am about to act out in anger, I stop breathing. Every time. Because of my experiences with meditation and breathing exercises I am aware of my breath most of the time and as soon as I realize that I have stopped breathing this is my sign to stop whatever I am doing and focus on breathing and also focus on my thoughts moreso than emotions (in normal life I am more disposed to thoughts than to emotions). What I have found is that I still feel angry, but I am able to avoid acting or speaking out of the anger and I don't get the adrenaline dump and I am able to carefully choose my words and actions. And the anger passes in short order.

[XxSnipeNationxX]

This one hit me deep 😢. Ever since I was a baby my doctors always told me that I had the “red headed anger” in me. For obvious reasons. I don’t know why I lose it or what EXACTLY are my triggers but it’s bad when it’s bad. Then I think about it for weeks and weeks sometimes months, just depressed about the situation and how I handled it, on top of whatever I’m currently mad about currently. Wish I had the answer and wish I had more strength to get after and attack my emotions. I know I’m not alone and I wish everyone finds that strength in them. 💪
Thanks for letting me vent