Self-Like Parts in IFS (and the Problems they create)

This is a Video about IFS (the Internal Family System) for people interested in learning how to use IFS for their personal growth.

This video introduces a specific type of protector in IFS: Self-Like Parts.
These parts feel, seem and act like they are the Self. And thus often create problems the more we start to use IFS for our personal healing and transformation.

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[rajeshk]

You deserve more likes, comments and followers for trying to simplify complex concepts :)

[janiehoffman]

Very skilled and helpful explanation and exploration of Self-like. Thank you!

[twinflamerehab]

A lot of parts in twin flame work feel very self like - having unconditional love, etc

[melaniegriffin]

This is such an important topic. I would love to video chat with you!

[nodivadedeus]

I thank you so mucho for the teachings. I agree with you, Simeone who is not into IFS therapy Will hardly understand what you are talking about

[melaniegriffin]

Wow... I was just talking to someone about this. I had an iboga experience where multiple parts told me that they were my higher self and wow... that was hard to navigate

[cecileberende]

Do you have a video that talks about how to connect with Self

[jsvxsyz]

Hello, could you please give me some advice on this? I have been doing IFS therapy for a year and my therapist keeps telling me that it’s a part and not the self. She said self has no agenda.

I am finding myself losing agency in life because I feel like whenever I want anything - to get in shape, to start side work etc - that I now feel like it’s not truly “self” so I feel immobilized

How do we do anything from self if we can’t ever have an agenda?

[evagunther]

I really don't get Guarding parts. Can you say more about how they show up?

[algarviomarafado]

How do you unblend from them, do you just ask them to separate?

[jaclynelizabeth]

I feel like I am blended with an agenda driven part. That part just doesn’t seem willing to step back, because it really does believe that if we just “did it right” or “made the right change” that everything would be okay. It feels like the “risk” of not following this part is too high. It doesn’t feel safe to trust the Self with this. How do I begin to unblend?

[welcomecataclysm]

I think all I can access are self-like parts. I'm having difficulty knowing if I'm even contacting any actual parts at all when I'm not blended with them. I'm honestly questioning if IFS is right for me because it feels like I'm not making much progress and visualization is very difficult for me.

[Shellieru]

It seems like most managers are very self-like doesn't it?