7 Questions To Ask Your Parts || Internal Family System Therapy

This video goes into detail about the follow exercise:

Make a list of parts that you have noticed in your system. What parts are in play throughout your life, your day to day, or at this very moment? How do they manifest in your behavior?

Use the protocol below to fill out information on the parts you identify. If you can't answer all the questions, that is ok. This is all very new and there is no right or wrong way to do it. The work is in the practice.

1. Name the Part.

2. What does it feel like emotionally?

3. What does it look like?

4. What does it feel like in your body and where?

5. What does it say?

6. How does it make you behave?

7. What does it want?

Thanks for watching!

[Kung]

I made a Bitmoji for how each of my parts look like (I have 5 excluding self)

[starlingswallow]

I'm in trauma therapy right now and we are using IFS. I'm also reading a memoir (All the scary little gods, by Natalie Hoffman) and she walks out in her memoir all her parts and the dialog those parts have had in her past.
This video has cracked it open for me ❤ I was having a hard time wrapping my mind around this modality~ I have a great imagination but my inner critic part, that's analytical is VERY strong!!! So, I've been doing my inner work at home alone and talking/sharing in my counseling until I get more comfortable doing it in front of my therapist. She's amazing.
I cannot, CANNOT thank you enough for this video. I haven't even watched it all the way through but I wrote down the questions in the description and over coffee this morning, I met with one of my parts: Alone.
This part of me is in the most pain. To meet this part, I had to walk up to this canyon of pain and look over the edge and what's in it is so scary and horrific. YEARS of pain and anguish because I've had nobody to help me figure out life and I've felt so strongly that I could NOT go to my family for help. I felt judged by them (maybe because I judged myself?) and my parents and brothers have never emotionally connected with me. Never.
To be here for myself is huge....I had no idea that I was always here for ME and that I just didn't see it. I was always looking out around me for someone to help....
😭😭😭😭

I am always shocked when another person offers to help me. Asking for help is terrifying....

[pisnVy]

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1. Name the part
2. What does this part feel like emotionally?
3. What does this part look like?
4. What does this part feel like in your body and where?
5. What does this part say?
6. What does this part make you behave?
7. What this part desire?

[CarniBarbie]

Thank you for doing this. Therapy is so expensive and out of reach for many.

[yogista]

I have already some knowledge of IFS but your explanations are the best ones I have heard so far. Thanks a lot.

[carenberlin]

I like this guided process. I have done it a few times now and it makes a great difference to not being overcome emotions but train to discussing them internally, so they get acknowledged and shelved and are no longer at the front of my mind and limit how I see the world. Thanks so much for sharing this!

[saramichael]

That is super simple and profound! Thank you!❤

[joy]

This is by far my favourite video on this channel❤

[macauleylane]

Austinite here just found your video! Thank you!

[JillFullerAntigua]

Great examples of how to access parts. Thank you!

[sandeepjohal]

wonderfully created resource. thankyou

[JobbaMoscha]

Amazing info and summary, thank you!
I just found your channel and was a bit surprised that I didn’t know about it from your other channels. Maybe it would be good to connect them?

The only thing you don’t express here is how to switch to another part. In what I have found online in the name of parts work they seem to recommend to always go back into a neutral position and look/relate the the part before me entering another one. How do you or IFS do that?

Also I found it interesting that you didn’t include the question of how does that part relate or feel towards the opposite one. Those were quite important in my own short parts journey so far.

[psychitsjames]

Really nicely explained! I recently came across IFS and I love it!

[Innocence-vs]

Thank you, you make it very easy as you maintain that kind of letting go all expectations, urgent, success, good or bad, wrong and right and attachment to outcomes. Your work is great please go on. Your energy is so supportive. I was about to forget about this kind of therapy because I felt scary and resistance to do it on my own. Greetings from Egypt ❤🎉🙏

[fseesauras]

Id love it if there were a workbook thar could help us identify or conceptualize parts

[williamkickham]

Very helpful. I will visit your website.

[zahraja]

Thank you so much for sharing this. Very helpful 🙏🏻

[ShiShiWorld]

amazing channel and work man. thank you for your gifts : )

[merishormeri]

Hello, I am a new subscriber..and new to IFS...the need brought me here...high anxiety ...If I have discomfort in my chest, neck, and head...that means I have 3 parts...or one part can be in the chest and also neck for example?

[lugastyanhp]

I practice meditation and accidentally encountered a part of myself. I always feel uncomfortable in my eyes during meditation. It feels like my imagination is too wild, trying to poke and hurt my eyes. I try to divert my attention, but the image of my eyes being cut keeps haunting me. Eventually, I surrender and allow that imagination to exist and hurt me as it pleases. Then, I hear (not really a sound but more like an impression that I understand) that a part of me is trying to stop me from watching adult content, frustrated by how hard it tries but still fails. I understand its feelings, as I also admit to feeling the same frustration, trying to quit porn addiction but failing. Then, that imagination starts to fade away. I have met a part of myself and hope to meet it again.