Why Dying Costs WAY Too Much! The Dark History of Death & Funerals

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Hi friends, happy Thursday!

If you know me, you know I’m obsessed with death. Between Dark History and Murder Mystery & Makeup, it comes up *all* the time. But recently, I realized when people talk about death, they only talk about the event leading up to death--not what happens after. If you’re in America, dying isn’t necessarily about being remembered. It’s very freaking stressful. And… expensive. The industry makes over 20 billion dollars a year. So it got me thinking… why do we do this? Does it have to be this way? And who the hell is profiting off of all this death?

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[erg]

My local funeral home does not charge for cremation for anyone 17 and under and has a major discount for funeral services and burial as well. Huge blessing for anyone who losses their child.

[jujuglass]

I’m a glass artist and have put many different kinds of ashes(canine, feline & human) into glass pendants for necklaces. It’s an honor to get to create memorial pendants for loved ones 🥹

[monabeck]

my stepdaughter was buried in a burial forest in Norwich England 2 years ago. You are not allowed to be embalmed, and your coffin is made of bamboo. We also had a wood carver make a grave marker of a fairy on a sunflower.

[Amberjd]

My dog passed on Saturday and was cremated Monday. He was 16 years old. They even took an imprint of his paw in clay and put him in a beautiful box. Now he's with me always. And my grandfather passed last year this same time. He was cremated and spread per his wishes. A beautiful spot in the rockies the whole family can visit death is ironically and tragically beautiful ❤

[cybertenshi]

Lotta bangers lately. We need a Dark History about Princess Diana. I am actually surprised there isn't one yet.

[emmanuellecossette]

I've visited the Paris Catacombes in 2018. First of all, I got there 15 minutes before opening, but still waited 45 minutes to enter. You go down a spiral staircase for forever. I've always been amazed by the human body but seeing such an amount of bones at the same place feels a little uncomfortable. I found the experience quite humbling. I took this opportunity to reflect about my place in this world and the fact that we're all bones in the end. I will go back for sure.

[Ash-hqvk]

In the US, it is expensive to live and expensive to die. Can't catch a break.

[mummajjxx]

My pop passed recently and he’d already organised everything himself.
My mum, aunt and uncles were so worried about the cost and the arrangements but Pop had already sorted it all out himself.
He knew it was his time (rightfully so, he was awfully ill and never told anyone) and he had organised it all beautifully. The only thing we had to do was gather photos and some songs for his funeral.
It was a lovely send off for a great man that pretty much raised me. I will forever cherish the memories I have of him.

Big love to you Bailey, been a silent watcher for the last few years and I feel like we could be awesome friends if we didn’t live on opposite sides of the world 😂💜

[TheAdamsFamily]

Both my parents passed in 2022.. My dad passed first and wanted to be cremated, and that was around 8k. When my mom passed 8 months later of cancer, she wanted to be buried. That was over 17k for everything, including the headstone. I know that funeral homes have to make a living, but it is ridiculous how expensive it is. We ended up putting my dad's ashes in my mom's coffin with her so they can be together and both have their names on the headstone.

[maryjomaguireconniff]

My youngest daughter took her portion of her daddy's ashes, that she'd been carrying around for quite awhile in her backpack in the cardboard box he was in, to Ireland to spread him off the coast. We lived in Arizona. She made it to that perfect place. The breeze was beautiful. She was very excited to be sending her dad to his favorite spot. She went into her bag and realized that the cardboard box had sort of the ashes of papa Tom rolling around. So the only thing she could do was to shake her bag to release the ashes. Many of the ashes were picked up by the beautiful breeze, blowing them right into her mouth! Quite an adventure!

[kenzier]

We put my dad’s ashes in a firework for the one year anniversary of his passing! It was so cool being able to say, “hey that firework is my dad!”, or my other favorite “yeah we blew my dad up” but overall it wasn’t horribly expensive and it was an awesome way to memorialize him because he loved fireworks

[marthmallow]

10:00 oh oh i have one to share! 🙋 my ancestors (inuit) would bury their dead by setting them down somewhere in the tundra and covering up the corpses with rocks, so there would just be a person sized mound of rocks there (not like inukshuks, because the dead are buried laying down). sometimes when famines got bad (no animals to hunt, no berries to eat, no fish, etc), they would have to dig up their dead and survive off their corpse. i think doing that may have been uncommon though

[laurelp]

Just lost both my parents in the last year, I’m fortunate to now be the guardian of my brother who has severe autism (he’s a sweetheart) and we’re losing my parents’ house this week to her bank due to my mom’s gambling addiction. My brother and I have no other family, and we were left nothing by my parents except debt and severe depression. Also my mom’s birthday was yesterday, the first one without her, so I drank a bottle of wine and watched YouTube. Both funerals left my husband and I in massive debt bc it all landed on the two of us. That ALL being said, this episode actually brightened my spirits today, I can’t explain why, but it did. I think mostly it’s your kind and uplifting nature Bailey, so thank you 💜💜 Love you girl.

[frogloover]

Girl, a black concert tee but with Abraham Lincoln's face on the front with a cool design & all the cities he went on the back would go so hard in your dark history merch store!!!

[viktoriyasuomalainen]

My grandmother had her body donated to a university. They covered her cremation when they were done studying her, and gave her back to us.
I had some of her ashes mixed in ink, and got a tattoo with her.

[haylee_bo_baylee]

When my grandma passed, she was cremated and pressed into locket necklaces for me, my mom, and sister. So she's always with me ❤

[wonky_shoebox]

You should go to an Irish funeral. We celebrate for 2, 3 days before burial. Loads of food and drink, stories, songs, jokes and the like. We celebrate the life of our loved ones instead of it being sad. At the burial there is a tradition called keening, which is a special sort of cry that sounds super sad. It's dying out slowly, but is still alive in some places. Irish singers have a natural lilt and keen to their voice, and even Irish accents have a lilt. Death is still very intertwined into our culture

[vickieliupakka]

Hi…I’m a Hospice RN and death is so difficult with each culture and religion and family…we just go along with what families want ❤ Love your content 🫶🏻

[lucifursanarchy]

My brother had his daughter’s ashes put in a cannon and spread over the grounds at a Renaissance Festival (she loved the local Renaissance Faire, so it was the perfect place for her to end up)

It was really unique and very healing for the family. Her little sisters were also excited about it, so it turned into a “in memory” moment instead of a depressing funeral thing.

I’m pretty sure she would have loved knowing she got shot out of a cannon 💜

[mojo]

My house was built in 1920 and was made with a “death door” due to the Spanish flu! Families were having so many at-home funerals that the door was intended to limit the guests from walking through the whole house just to see the body. Great video!