Subtle signs that someone is wealthy

You don't always know right away that someone is rich. But it's possible to figure it out by some non-obvious signs.

[awkward_chaos]

One of my favorite phrase is “Money talks, but wealth whispers”. It’s quite humbling and also very interesting from a psychological pov

[spencer]

You can measure levels of wealth by how well a person’s dishwasher works. Starting at “I can’t afford dishes” and then “I don’t have a dishwasher and do them by hand” to “I wash some of my dishes before I put them in the dishwasher” to “I just put them in the dishwasher, and they come out clean.” and finally, “I don’t know, someone else takes care of that for me.”

[JDeppFan]

"His summer I'm gonna stop you right there.

[courtiepie]

The reason wealth whispers is also so that kidnappings and ransoms don't happen.

[evilemperorzurg]

In my experience rich people tend to hover on the edges of the kindness scale. They are either the nicest person or an utter asshole. It’s rare to be in the middle.

[alex_blue]

Ex asked me, "you have a dermatologist, right?" I barely had healthcare.

[miaoumint]

Old roommate kept putting bananas in the fridge and they would go bad.
Found out he never had to buy/cook or manage food before since they had a live in chef

[lilithnox]

My best friend is rich, his dad owns several theaters and properties. But my friend is super down to earth and chill about it, if i hadn't been to his home, I would have assumed that he was middle class. The only time I'm reminded that he has so much more money is, that he buys a lot of books and lego set's. I'm myself a big book nerd and can barely afford one book every several month. He also loves to buy tons of snack for me, which is super sweet. Especially the brands that I can't afford like ben and Jerry's. Also he didn't had the pressure of having to work. Now he is opening a high end candle shop in the most famous part of the city. I'm very proud and happy for him.

[munchcat]

Partner grew up attending a school in New England where a lot of Old Money attended. One thing he explained was the difference between Old Money and New Money. New Money (people who came into it relatively recently) tend to flaunt and talk about it quite a bit. He legit knew a girl in school who complained about getting a 16' yacht for her birthday instead of the 18' she had wanted, for example. Meanwhile, Old Money (those who have had a well-to-do family for at least a few generations) know it's all about quiet quality vs boastful quantity, and they always have this... look when they hear New Money boasting. It's like an expression mixed between disgust and pity.

[maxy_roup]

*goes to grocery store
*grabs cereal, milk, eggs, chips, energy drinks and a bar of chocolate
*never lay eyes on the prices
Rather normal stuff, right? Well when you live from paycheck to paycheck, you tend to consider the cost of the most basic stuff. Even when you're doing good financially, you wanna know if you grabbed the cereal that costs $ or the one that costs $$$$

[SvayaG]

The best way I've noticed is subtle. There's a different air of "no worries". They can drive that older Honda cuz they can (and do) repair it any time something goes wrong, or buy a new one if it's an unreasonable fix. They don't think about it in dollars, more like time taken or convenience.
They own things because they want to own them, not for superficial reasons.

[willc]

My dad has a very good saying that he wants me to live by. “Live below your means” which means spend less than you make. The more money you can put aside for when you really need it, the better. Don’t buy flashy things and expensive cars, just get what makes sense and save what’s left.

[Adieadeline]

I never knew my parents were wealthy until we moved to a higher income area in middle school. I then met kids who were totally out of touch with real life. One day while riding the bus I saw a kid basically play hot potato with his phone throwing it around with the other kids simply because it wasn’t the color he wanted. I was horrified and thought his parents would be pissed but he came to school the next day with a brand new one of his liking… this was the first week of 6th grade. It was then that I realized why so many people hated rich families.

The way I like to put it for my family when people question it is: My family isn’t wealthy, my parents are. They gave me and my brother a good life but never spoiled us. I got a small allowance for good grades and chores (about $5 a week max if I did well in a test or cleaned more) and would have to save up for all my toys. On Christmas we got one big gift and then a couple small ones. I was so confused seeing how many presents the kids in my neighborhood got. Most kids got freaking golf carts for Christmas… and that was one of many. I know what I got is still privileged compared to lots of families but my point is I was taught to work for what I wanted and was given what I needed vs the kids who were given anything in a snap of a finger.

Once I understood my parent’s financial status I questioned why we lived in a tiny mostly low income town and that’s when they told me it felt like home. My parents grew up extremely poor and fought their way out of generational stereotypes. I cherish my parents every day for the sacrifices they made to give us a good life and how much they give back to the community. And living in my old town is something I would never change. The people there were kind and it was a tight knit community that I truly miss. I know we moved for better medical access for my mom, but it weren’t for that I know younger me would stay. Though moving has showed me the reality of the world and I don’t think that is something I would have grasped without it. For anyone who read this far just know that good people will be good no matter where they are financially ❤

[warriorson]

One thing that gives away that someone grew up rich, is that they will always avoid discomfort. Any thing, place or task that is too cold/hot/noisy/dirty/hard/dangerous/etc., they will always opt out of.

[Solace]

I like the people who have money, but don't flaunt it. A lot of those ones tend to be quite down to earth. One of my closest friends comes from money, but the reason we're able to be close despite coming from complete opposite backgrounds (I grew up in poverty) is that he's just like... a regular guy. Doesn't really leech off his parents, has a job in a Cafe, actual interests. Unlike his brother, his brother is unbearable. It also works because I don't leech. The farthest it goes on my end is every now and then I'll let him pay for my gas for my car, but only if I've been driving him around a lot. I despise using people for what they have.

[tatjana]

First one is so true, rich people taught from childhood to not tell anyone about their money. My grandparents told me to do so, and I often meet people from other countries who were also taught to behave like that

[andresbetancourt]

True about that silicon valley thing. Went on a few dates with this dude who's parents were both surgeons and he lived in a gated community. And he drove a used 15k beat up 2017 totyota corrola.

[seeyabirches]

I'm serious when I say if they complain about the price of food. My mother is a chef, has been for about a decade, and has worked multiple top end places. Country clubs, top golf, served celebrities, private art schools for international students.... my mom gave me this knowledge:

She has never had as many people complaining about food prices, than when rich folks came in wanting wagu and lobster bisques for crap prices. Like she would come home CONSTANTLY with more complaints about the guests saying the food was too expensive. The only time I never hear that is when it's got kids involved.

[gooflydo]

The silicon valley response is true. I once asked a guy out that I saw at a bookstore (I know I know they still exist) we went on a couple of dates, mainly outdoor hiking in the wetlands to get to know each other. after 4 months he asked me to go swimming at his place, we got into is 2004 Jetta and he took me to his house in Atherton.. I was shook would be an understatement. I mean he looked like he dressed normal and we went to a few thrifts shops to see what kind of haul we could get.

[harfir]

A considerable amount of ppl who gain wealth suddenly won't show it. They keep up their old habits and splurge in secret on vacation, good health care, special interests etc. But they keep their old job, same fashion sense, car etc. This is especially true for those that have a one-off gain: they know its a once in a life time thing and want it to last, so it makes little sense to spend it all at once. Much better to keep it in pocket and live a life where you feel economically safe.