Big Egos vs. Strong Egos: How To Spot A Weak One

What does it mean to have a weak ego? What is the difference between having a strong and weak one? In this video, I share what the difference is between big egos and strong egos, as well as provide some helpful tips for strengthening your own ego.

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[ConversationswithSuwilanji]

I appreciate how informative and short your videos are, I never walk away empty. Meanwhile other videos go on for minutes to hours explaining only to walk away with a headache and no clear understanding 😅😅

[leftykeys]

I've been journaling for more than a half century. It's always been my lifeline to sanity, as well as a creative outlet. Keeps my psychic house in order.

[SvetlanaFerrari]

I believe weak ego can also lead us into abusive or insatisfying relationships - if someone doesn’t have boundaries and/or afraid to be alone, they will stay with someone for the wrong reasons. And won’t leave, bc they will be telling themselves well, everyone is imperfect, I won’t find anyone better etc etc but in the long term in can de damaging for them…

[JeremyKersten]

I have a weak ego. I'm going to need a ton of work but thanks for laying out some tips.

[myrtila]

Ever since I was a child, I was characterised by a weak ego, I’d say. In my teenage years the whole thing only worsened. Now, as a young adult, I’m still in a bad place. Even though I now live alone, I struggle a lot to feel assertive even in the stupidest things. I set boundaries and I feel super guilty and bad about myself afterwards, that I end up saying sorry. I feel the whole world dislikes me, so I try to please people. But no matter the pleasing, I still think many people dislike or even hate me. I don’t think I’m worth of saying my opinion or dressing nicely. I avoid speaking up. I also feel ridiculous every time I open my mouth. I think I sound stupid and I kind of remind myself of my father, who is not the kind of person I’d want to be. So I try to not be like him at all but I end up repressing some natural characteristics I have, even the good ones (for example good sense of humour and bubbly personality when happy - it reminds me of him and I hate that. I try to be serious all the time). The result is that I never become the exact opposite because it is just not me and I feel even unhappier and unworthy. Sorry for the rant, I just wanted to let these things out. You see, I prefer writing anonymous YouTube comments rather than journaling. There is no need for anyone to read it and sorry if I wasted your time.

[Maxhindle]

Ego is I’m better than you… confidence is I am better than who I was 🙏🏽🙏🏽!

[Maxhindle]

I definitely had a very weak ego from the painful things I went through and it was very difficult to begin to strengthen my ego to a higher level of confidence 🙏🏽! Those life lessons made me realise what I needed to work on and served me long term… my past biggest ‘weaknesses’ are now my biggest strengths 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️

[chillbubbles]

I used to have a really weak one. Now, it’s just weak. Working now on increasing my insight. It’s hard doing so not having a stable sense of my core self.

[mushfekaferdousi]

I GOT CALLED OUT SO BADLY. DAMN. But thank you for the video. Really needed it

[KayFlowidity]

00:45 👌👌👌
2:15 Strength & Function
4:30 Weak Ego

[connorbowen]

Your weak ego description described me to a T, but instead of feeling defeated by it I’m encouraged to keep doing the work I’ve started! Thanks as always Dr. Marks!

[nikolausparczen]

My ego used to be weak, then I seeker help for my mental health problems and with that help it seemed to help my ego as well, then as I went further into my career that helped as well.

[vincemelson]

This is a distinction that is such a foundation for almost all human endeavor and interaction, but its hardly explained so simply and efficiently

[maplestory]

Words honestly cant describe how much i appreciate this channel.

[lameduck]

"Another sign is having a fragile sense of self"
As someone diagnosed with schizotypal disorder, this is really what gets at me. Feeling like a construct able to change rather than feeling like a well-rounded person with strong convictions and a sense of self, a firm identity so to say, is literal hell. Constantly questioning your own identity and sense of self to the point you start to feel hollow inside.

[morganherring]

I know these videos are for a general audience of people with mental illness so some things aren't going to apply to me perfectly but even knowing that I still can't help but get a little defensive whenever any mental health video says, "Make sure you have a consistent bed time and make going to sleep a priority!" Cause I just can't. Something is majorly wrong with my circadian rhythm because I cannot sleep for 30-36 hours and then I pass out from pure exhaustion for anywhere from 5-12 hours before being awake for another 30-36 hours, rinse and repeat. I'd LOVE to have a consistent bed time and sleep like a normal human being. But if I try, I just lie there awake for HOURS until I finally get bored and give up or get up to start my day. I really wish it was as simple as, "Your body COULD sleep if you wanted it to but you just stay up instead." It sometimes feels like my brain WANTS me to suffer.

[bipolarxtc]

This is what I needed today. I try to maintain a healthy ego and try not to become egotistical. It's hard to find the middle ground.

[boitumelomatjila]

I remember doing this in psychology 101

[marlak]

Freudian psychoanalytic theory explains the core of personality development as you so effectively articulate. This is an important video because too many therapists are unclear on these concepts, thus are often less effective in their efforts to assist others in growing. Less likely to help others with unhealthy personality development, when you lack understanding of how healthy personality develops. I am a little jealous of you because you have access to practice your profession and do it well, something I have never had. Nevertheless, great job!

[deweesegilyard]

Congratulations on your 1 millionth subscriber. May you be blessed for the blessings you give. Thank you.