Re-Parenting - Part 92 - Fake Logic Used in Conflict, Part 2

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Tim looks at the final 15 Faulty Logic Fallacies that are used frequently in Complex Trauma families. Often, it is about not seeing conflict as a way to get to the truth about the situation (they don't care about the truth), but as something that must be won at all cost, even if they have to use distortions and dirty tactics.

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Tim Fletcher is not a doctor or licensed therapist. Tim’s videos are for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment.

[llkellenba]

Compliance seems to be the #1 goal in difficult dysfunctional family dynamics. From as early as I can remember non compliance is what I was most faulted for-started with asking questions…which has never been okay-and still is not.

[rubberbiscuit]

I remember how I felt when I took Intro to Logic in college. Finally I could name all the nonsense that my parent habitually used. It was very powerful to see the principles explained in writing, with examples.

[jeankipper]

The narcs in my life, parents and husband, used:
-Bully, physically or verbally dominate
-Subtly change the subject, drag in "facts"
-Whine, nag, snivel, pester until you just give in
And so much more.

[AmirKarkouti]

Another great video. Thank you so much for these videos

[Sadbuttrue-ThatSwedishGirl]

This reminded me of when I got my first employment when I was 20 years of age. The boss told me “How nice with new fresh blood to start working here! Just tell us if you want to change anything that we can do better around here.”
I had worked there for a while and found that a certain routine they did could be done much better and more efficiently.
I told my boss and proposed to her a better solution with a smile.

I got, “We have always done this way there is nothing wrong with that!”😂

I remember this to this day even though I'm in my 50s now 😂
I ended up starting my own business that I run to this day❤

[PedroFilms]

Tim, your interview with Theo was powerful and insightful. I look forward to you giving more interviews and higher quality video/audio production about the important content you provide. The interview format (vs monologue/just you) is powerful because it allows the viewer to relate through the interviewee's experiences/questions.

[cynthiameyers]

This a very helpful video. I wish someone had taught me this stuff when I was younger.

[nmc]

Wow. All this time.. a name for what my husband does during EVERY difference of opinion. Red Harring. Thank you very much for all the helpful info and examples

[unboxingwithkhushi-wk]

U are the best tim..thank you ..u have given great insights to me .
Improved my understanding of world and the cause of my suffering thanks a lot ..I always thought why all of this is happening to me

[unboxingwithkhushi-wk]

All of this matches what my father did

[tashawaters]

Thanks! I didn't know that about red herrings. Please bring back the Bible stories!

[Pathway-xhqx]

Tim, I just started listening to you, When I saw you show and tell the brain - frontal cortex Needs to work, but trauma and ADHD people are Unable to act because Vital circulation signals must connect to cortex from back of brain. It is sad to be with a man, we're 64 & 72, where the dad was absolute out of control & always beat on his two sons but not the daughter. Age 13 of my man friend, the mother divorced that severely brain damaged husband/ dad. 😢😮

[christkid]

I have a question
Because in some level all of us have characteristics of a narcissistic person.
Maybe in some ways there something internal in me that is manipulating me (self sabotage) maybe ?!
And that is a mask or a role or something that wants to make me thing that try’s to hold me safe from the real world (pain for me ) and so is always feeding me with emotions thoughts and self criticism to keep me away from living authentic.

And the other thing is please make a video so we can understand and separate the part of us that feels that is being manipulated (taking the victim approach) vs when people really are trying to manipulate us
Because there are times when I feel that my own mother is trying to hold me back and other times when I feel I just use this as an excuse
Because is hard for most of us to believe that people that they say they love us and want the best of us to treat us like we are not worthy

[Ganeden_Y]

Your example of the fox is a paralogism. All cats are mortal, Socrates is mortal, therefore Socrates is a cat.

[sumayahzadran]

What is the purpose of this video? I would prefer you giving alternative solutions to each issue you are addressing. If they say, then prove me wrong. What to do in this case then? How to deal with that?

[JenE]

So much content. So little value. Could be condensed onto a postage stamp.