Dating and Relationships Over 50: What are a Man's Biggest Relationship Fears? Advice for Women!

What are a man’s biggest fears when getting into a relationship? Dating over 50, or at any age, according to Relationship Expert and Dating Coach Bob Grant, all men have innate fears when starting a new relationship. What does a women need to know? Bob explains three distinct relationship fears that women need to know to better understand her partner when dating and starting a new relationship after 50.



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[leacom]

We can only make ourselves happy, everything else is a bonus 😊

[joerockhead]

You can't make an unhappy person happy no matter what you do. That has been my experience. Thanks for posting.

[eddy]

My X always operated from the negative, what was my fault (everything), what did I do wrong (everything), I never do anything perfectly a kind, positive word from a woman is huge IMO

[perrymann]

More simply, we men are driven to “succeed” in every aspect-work, sports, relationships (making her happy) and in friendships. In a relationship dynamic, we don’t have to always succeed (that triggers drive to succeed) BUT the moment we feel that we won’t or can’t succeed or ‘setup for failure’, that triggers our fight-flight response. I think it’s much less about power and control for men. All men even those in control/powerful ultimately fear what-lack of success. 💥

[andrewblue]

If you say something nice to man and mean it. He will run through a wall for you.
I said that on some of your other podcasts. He is spot on. We love our women. Soft kiss on the cheek the occasional compliment. I’ll lasso down the moon for you baby.

[mypov]

We all should understand our greatest relationship fears, so this is a great topic! My greatest fears that I'm getting better at addressing are fear of being used and fear of abandonment

[carlel]

The losing a job thing is completely true, I was dating my husband for 3 months, he was the nicest person ever, but he lost his job, he tried to tell me that this was not going to work if he does not have a job, going out me paying, it was to hard for him, I was in love and didn’t pay much attention I just said, we will figure it out, I can buy something and we can eat in my house we don’t have to go out, but he still ghosted me, now I know how he felt, we broke up, and after a month he came back to me still without a job but looking for it and got a really good job, he was very generous with me when he has money, eventually we married.

[colinellicott]

Having my wife die gives me a certain perspective on fear. Fear is the concern of bad things happening in the future. I have no fear of any of the things listed in this episode. I fear the death and or serious illnesses that may befall a partner. The rest is trivia. Perspective people.

[lindaohia]

No one likes feeling out of control especially in a relationship. There are no guarantees in life. And its no ones job to "make you happy". Try to enjoy each other's company period.

[keiths]

If a woman says everything you do is wrong and everything is important just walk away. Try to get her to show some nuance and prioritization in her demands. If she can't or won't do that withdraw, It's a no win situation, just save your emotions and efforts for something new. Don't get angry, don't get sad, just turn off all emotions toward her and leave. Save what is left for people who care enough about you to work with you.

[squaretriangle]

This was a top notch presentation by Bob Grant, one of the best in fact!!👏👏 the power struggle😒

[howardcitizen]

In 35 years of marriage, my ex-wife said “Thank you” maybe ten times.

[JS-mhfh]

Great to see Bob Grant interviewed, and how he can concisely explain this topic to women!

[alanjune]

I think it’s very important to understand what your partners love languages are because some of those suggestions will be important to some people but not others. Ideally I’d like to find someone who’s love languages matches mine because it makes it so much easier. Personally I don’t think I have any of those fears. My biggest fear is being in a relationship with someone who likes me a lot more than I like them and I have to break it off. I hate doing that.

[briansaucy]

Great subject and this guy really understands and explains, while me (for example:) could not even figure why I couldn't make my partner happy and yes "that hurts"

[DougHardy]

I agree with Bob’s comments much more than his previous episode; however, his three main points are just splitting hairs, and effectively talking about the same thing … the need for “success”, or I prefer to express it as “purpose”. This is core to the male psyche, just as its equivalent “security” is to the female psyche.

[robertvarner]

I'm happy I'm not connected emotionally to a a man (gotta cover all bases these days). I never defined myself with respect to someone else. I never strive to make someone else happy only myself.

[lindapeck]

My long term relationship devolved into a power struggle. Now that I’m dating again, I don’t care about being right. It’s OK to ask for help. I give compliments to reinforce positive behavior from my man, instead of criticizing when he pisses me off. I use humor to bring negative behavior to his attention or withdraw strategically (I say I need some space) when he takes me for granted and gets lazy. He needs to know that “winning” me is not a one and done. I’ll make a suggestion and ask his opinion so it becomes his idea. It seems childish on the surface, but it works.

[Wildevis]

Great conversation Bob, it really had some eye-openers and I love learning more about the interaction between men and women. I especialy like being angry without throwing a tantrum, or worse, blaming and shaming. Explaining how men feel has definitely given me a better insight and awareness of how to deal with and support the man in my life to make him aware he is enough and even though sometimes I may not be happy with what he says or does, we can move on and not do permanent damage. I saw such an incident when we were together as friends after a meeting, my one freind is very bossy and her husband very easy going and agreeable. I was talking to him about the Chinese supermarket I introduced them to, so, food was on his mind. Well she had something else in mind and just shut him down with "you know everything is not about food" The poor guy just cringed and me with him as I thought that was very insensitive and thoughtless. Yea I am still learning lol

[leoromo]

I worked very hard to have my own business because I was tired of working for someone else. Bob you are right that men are scared of losing a job or their business. I think this is why I have been single for so long because I focus alot on my work. Thank you both for all the great information. Thank you Silke for another great video and yes you look fantastic like always. Your boyfriend is one lucky man. God bless😘